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Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Easyy(m): 10:13pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
I hope you all know what marriage is about. Are you married or have been married? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by venusmaze: 10:19pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
I believe wives should submit to their husbands. I believe the biblical way, a good husband and there should be no problem submitting. You can be strong and the home builder and still have a decent amount of power. Unfortunately many women don't know how to use this power. Those who are married and have a husband who respect them and are truly loved would know what i mean. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
venusmaze: exactly my point. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
babyosisi: believe me, man nag and I know a living example. Maybe it's an ecception but babyosisi: I can't be reading always about them. I also like to talk about them and interact with them. I know what you mean. i am just being ironic! |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by TerraCotta(m): 10:52pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
babyosisi: I hate to be that asshole that magnifies a minor typo/mistake, but the implications of this made me laugh out loud. On to the topic--I'm of the school where Biblical recommendations aren't the be-all and end-all of life, but obviously people like Babyosisi find comfort and security in submitting. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you--I enjoy a different kind of submission from a woman every now and then myself Like everything else though, submission's it's not a one-size-fits-all solution. If you want your parent's marriage, you should follow their style and structure and make yourself happy. And if you don't want your husband to pick your clothes in the morning and supervise your toothbrushing sessions, that's fine too. Honest question for Babyosisi though--is there some sort of line where you feel like your husband's authority would interfere with your own independence/individualism? What is the difference between submitting (and "ending up being the captain of the ship" and giving up your own decision-making to someone else's whims? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by goodguy(m): 10:53pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
babyosisi, Preach it sister! God bless you!! @michelin89, stop stereotyping. Not good at all at all. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 10:56pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
goodguy: I don't like to generalize either. But I am referring to the majority so I used as a convenience. Nothing personal! |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 11:33pm On Jan 26, 2007 |
TerraCotta:lol, men loving their husbands,that's another topic altogether. Terracotta,I'm a newly wed so I don't even think I'm qualified to talk much on marriage issues. I married at a mature age nevertheless but I courted my hubby for a while and leant about him. Unfortunately,I have close friends that have been divorced or at the verge and I've heard their stories and seen their pain. The key is finding a mate who has same values as you and these things must be discussed at courtship. No woman(or man) should go into marriage blindly,a man that does not entertain any kind of discussions or input from the woman most likely showed such tendencies at courtship but most women overlook this very trait and go ahead. Do you know that most abused women were also abused during the engagement period and they think somehow,walking down an aisle would change the man or having a baby will fix it. Sumission is only possible when you have a person who respects you as a woman and treats you right. When my opinion differs from that of my man,I soft pedal,I know not to yell out my opinion in an argument. He is more likely to listen when there is no tension and believe me,he does what I asked most of the time. I learnt that from my mom and I know it works. Men would usually not listen to a woman not because they think she's wrong but because they feel their ego has been hurt. This is a fact |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Aggressa(m): 12:59am On Jan 27, 2007 |
@Babyosisi, Beautiful submission and well delivered for a "newly-wed" , by the time you are "old wed" you must have written a couple of books on marriage; been married for 5 yrs and I totally agree with all your points, in fact I'm also learning from your words . |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by frankiriri(m): 6:43am On Jan 27, 2007 |
Quote from: babyosisi A man would go to any length for a woman that is submissive to him. I challenge any married woman here to try it,you'll find out that all your nagging will be gone. He'll be dancing to your tune. It works,oh does it work!!! mom is always right. Very correct. In fact it aptly describes the situation in my parents home. My Mum is a second wife and unlike most stories I hear of the second wife being better treated, she is the one that gets the short end of the stick. She is very independent mind, while the first wife is dubmisive to the extent that some would call her a mugu but the funny thing isn that it is her wishes than my Dad carries out. Meanwhile any suggestion my mum makes will not be considered on its merit just because he thinks she's too opinionated. I was alluding to this in my previous post when I stated that pikin wey say im mama no go sleep no go sleep. I meant that we might just have an unhappy marriage if we never agree on issues. I never indicated that I would beat up my wife. In fact most of the women I have dated have been bigger than me I would prefer to just her antics and hope that she comes to her senses |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by frankiriri(m): 6:56am On Jan 27, 2007 |
Quote from babyosisi The key is finding a mate who has same values as you and these things must be discussed at courtship. No woman(or man) should go into marriage blindly,a man that does not entertain any kind of discussions or input from the woman most likely showed such tendencies at courtship but most women overlook this very trait and go ahead. My point exactly. Women get to choose who they submit to. The bible specifically says your husband not boyfriend of acquaintance of even fiancee. So before he marries check out if u can submit to me. The husband u choose should be determined by your outlook in life. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by frankiriri(m): 7:02am On Jan 27, 2007 |
Quote from babyosis Do you know that most abused women were also abused during the engagement period and they think somehow,walking down an aisle would change the man or having a baby will fix it. Some really sick shit happens. I had a cousin who used to beat up his girlfriend. The girl once told me that if he had not beaten her in a long while she would be restless. and would keep formenting trouble She went on to say that make up sex is the best |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by frankiriri(m): 7:18am On Jan 27, 2007 |
Quote from Babyosisi He is more likely to listen when there is no tension and believe me,he does what I asked most of the time. Very true. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by goodguy(m): 3:23pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
All these ladies sef! When it comes to submission, they're all quick to shout "Hell no!", and that's when they remember that they are "strong independent women". But when it comes to money spending, they're so quick to shout that it is a man's responsibility, and that they are only there to "support" (funny how they lower themselves this time around ), and any man who won't stand up to his responsibilities is an asshole that isn't worth being with at all; and they totally forget in this case that they are "strong independent women". @babyosisi, me I like you o jare! Please keep up the good spirit. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Coco29(f): 3:31pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
i think in a real marriage, with love, understanding, harmony and commitment where faithfulness is a must then the woman should submit to her king. However in todays society where a man can only be trusted as far as you can see his d i c k i I THINK NOT. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by disem(m): 5:20pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Marriage is no game. I am submissive but definitely not a manipulator Expert or amateur, submission can not be equaled to manipulation. Well, let me as least speak for my self. I cannot even manipulate my husband because he's not weak and he's definitely not a fool. I profit from submission, yes, but not for manipulation. But as a sign of love and respect for my husband and in obedience to my God and that is right!. Only men who misunderstand what it the concept means try to misuse it to maltreat their wives. Sincere, kindhearted women will reap what the sow, by the grace of God find good husbands who wont suppress them. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 5:39pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
I read an article today and I'll like to share it. It's long but very worth it. Enjoy! http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/articles/guest-articles/submission-and-love.html |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by mamaput(f): 7:07pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Written by a man |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 7:09pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
layifioren: great article. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 7:40pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
@ Mamaput, Are you married? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 7:52pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
mamaput:@ Mamaput, How about the Bible that is from God; what does it say about this topic? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Seun(m): 7:54pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
The bible is also written by men. Out of 66 books in the bible, none was written by a woman. No wonder. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 7:57pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
goodguy: Are you not the same gnat that complained about stereotyping? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 7:58pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Seun: @ Seun Nobody says you should believe in the Bible, it's your choice but if you believe in it and don't do what it says then you are a hypocrite. What are you wondering about? |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 7:59pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
btw layi, MamaPut is in her 40s, what a silly question |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Seun(m): 8:01pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
layiforen: I don't believe in the bible. I don't claim to believe in it. And this is not a Christian thread. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 8:02pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
ThiefOfHearts:ThiefofHeart, I guess you've been living in "lala" world where there are no women in there 40's who are not married and by the way I did not say women that WERE married. Silly question my foot! |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 8:03pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Like there's any thread on here that they wont turn into a Christian thread. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by Seun(m): 8:03pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
But when it comes to money spending, they're so quick to shout that it is a man's responsibilityActually, it's the "submissive" types that behave like this. Also, one can't be forced to accept the "responsibility". |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 8:05pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Exactly. |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by layifioren(m): 8:05pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
Seun:@Seun, That's your choice, but as a Christian, you can't mention marriage and submision and not talk about the Christian life and Bible. So BURGER KING bro (i.e HAVE IT YOUR WAY) |
Re: Should Wives Submit To Their Husbands? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 8:07pm On Jan 27, 2007 |
actually you CAN since only Christians get married you can always tell a JJC by how corny their comments are. ugh |
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