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Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Sike(m): 7:56am On May 26, 2013 |
I don't blame her tho. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 8:08am On May 26, 2013 |
saintugo: Marrying someone is not basically out of desperation most times,its the desire to want to feel accomplished and get other aspects of your life going,there comes a time in ones life you just have to take that bold step,basically everyone should know what he or she wants in life and in their partners and seek God's grace in any decision your heart yearns to make at a particular moment in time.yes,true but need i remind you that desperadoes for marriage are usually victims of sister justinah,the lord sent me to you that you are my wife or i dreamt that we were getting married and i had a conviction that it is you when in actual fact nothing of such happened.not even when a dedicated brother in church is a regular tithe giver and he meets the pastor and says pastor jacob,there is one sister i have been eyeing in church.her name is sister chi chi.the following sunday the pastor says sister chi chi i have a conviction in my spirit that brother joseph is your husband.in case he comes and meets you,dont say no.after the whole drama,sister chinyere goes back to pastor and says pastor it is true o,it has happened and the pastor says i told you so.that is after pastor and brother have done behind the scene rehearsals,they will now be lying against God that God said this when he didnt say. Those groups of people are another source of income for some 'pastors'.so why wont they encourage desperation among ladies by the way i have seen one amusing banner on my way to the market.2o13 the year i must to marry and divorce spirit husbands and wives 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by redsquare(m): 8:13am On May 26, 2013 |
kulyie: * singing in d.banj's voice* olorun maje o.You sound arrogant,the same guys you meet all over the place in real life also have nairaland account. I know your kinda girl, always claiming smart and hard-to-get. 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by tintingz(m): 8:15am On May 26, 2013 |
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Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by obowunmi(m): 8:28am On May 26, 2013 |
This Kulyie is a funny gyal... She reminds me of Kobojunkie 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Chinom(m): 8:28am On May 26, 2013 |
Gaggi: Very very true for most women. I have noticed that my wife is at her happiest when she is in the kitchen taking care of me and the kids. She just loves it when we hang hang around the kitchen like vultures waiting for food. Sometimes, she will upgrade to sadistic pleasure by delibrately delaying serving that Rice with dodo. 4 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 8:34am On May 26, 2013 |
At times,after taking other things into consideration,u don't hv to blame a woman for bein desperate. Except for cases of I'm too good for u gals,there r real ladies out there nobody has approached for a date for a long time and d biological clock is thickin. I've seen very good ladies prayin for spouse but didn't c,not bc they r bad. I found out dat d bad once marry quicker(look around). When u hv a friend like that especially lady,take style do some connection for her(she will never know) that way,u r helpin out instead of always sayin God's time is d best cos she may not want to hear that. Let's not paint all of them black. Also I've seen cases where though one entered into it out of desperation,it became a success story. Let us not condemn so much. We r all diff. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Ampeaceful(f): 8:41am On May 26, 2013 |
D heart is more treacherous dan anythin else n is desperate.who can knw it? Says d bible, evn wen u spend yrs in a rltnship, u neva cn tel wat ur spouse intentns rly r, but by prayers n supplicatn things culd turn 4beta.. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Idowuogbo(f): 8:44am On May 26, 2013 |
Nuzo': Hmmmmm...How sweet! *blushing* Hi5 bro! 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Idowuogbo(f): 8:47am On May 26, 2013 |
nnanyereugo: God 'll bless u 4 dis post. I dont kno dat som1 else sees wat i c here. Dat KUYLIE of a girl is frustrated & hopeless 4 lyf as fara smarriage is concern & has vowed 2 mk oda girls join her, bt so many off dem r nt noticing it here. Pls tel dem 2 leave dat girl in her miserable unmarried world.Shut up! If u no gbadun d gal online parole, u ignore and seat on ur damn fingers. Oponu ara Galatia! 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by rman: 8:55am On May 26, 2013 |
Arranged marriages in olden days turned out more successful than the ones happening in this generation that crumbles like a pack of cards. All these rules and patterns have no bearings on successful marriages. If the two individuals involved feels it can work, it is no one's business to bring in their own prejudice and say it won't. And it is also wrong to say people that are old enough should still play by some time wasting rules. A guy met a girl in a club, a few hours later, they shagged at the back of his car, now they are married with three kids. What rule did they follow? The intimacy on first date rule. They ve been married for 17yrs. In fact, know want you want and go for it. That's the only rule that works |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Sammiejo: 8:57am On May 26, 2013 |
leadzeal: Quite an Interesting subject matter. I will also like to add that some of us folks find it extremely difficult to really meet our present needs in a partner because of the way it(the needs) is fashioned. Take for example, me as a person don't want to have kids; don't get me wrong, I love children so so much, but it's just a decision I've come to make. But if I throw that to a lady she sees me as strange, in short all the ladies I have approached sees it has very strange, I'm yet to meet someone who is okay with that. Mind you, even here in the states where I reside, I'm yet to meet a person that sees the idea as my own decision rather than giving me the usual weird look, talkless of coming back to 9ja to wife hunt. I know it will be a long road but under no circumstances have I promised myself to compromise my stance. I can draw an inference from what I just explained that one can be forced into desperation and thereby become a father one did not even imagined because of the societal pressure. I know a Nigeria lady Pastor who has similar desire, and has same challenge with meeting men if similar plan. PM me if you need a hook up. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 9:00am On May 26, 2013 |
redsquare:everyone still remains entitled to their opinion(s) about who anybody is even if its a biased judgement or judging someone from afar anyway happy sunday and happy democracy day in advance lets keep praying for a better democratic nigeria free from disorder,chaos,lawlessness and gross injustice in all sectors |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by bigiyaro(m): 9:05am On May 26, 2013 |
The Emeka and Lola relationship will work out perfectly because.. (1) opposite attracts (2)two captain can't steer a ship nor two rams drink from one bucket at the same time (3)the two opposites will always have a way of striking a harmonious balance. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by bigiyaro(m): 9:06am On May 26, 2013 |
The Emeka and Lola relationship will work out perfectly because.. (1) opposite attracts (2)two captain can't steer a ship nor two rams drink from one bucket at the same time (3)the two opposites will always have a way of striking a harmonious balance. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by mbhs139(m): 9:07am On May 26, 2013 |
Gaggi: Forget all these theories, life doesn't work that way. We have seen people get desperate and date for only few mnths before marriage and it was successful. We have also seen long term courtship that resulted into marriage but wasn't successful. Sir or Madam, the advice aren't bad like you are trying to paint and neither what you said is bad too. At the bolded and as a matter of fact with reference to all that has been said, I think the advice should have been what should ladies/guys do as a solution when the once 'i love you' starts getting tough. As far as I'm concerned I don't think there is any marriage that is perfect; there will always be infractions here and there whether or not you court for eternity. The most important thing in marriage is understanding and perseverance, particularly from the women folks. But our ladies of now adays; with all their degrees will never succumb to any excesses from any man. Gone were the days when our grand-mums will put water in the bathroom for their husbands and his concubine after the ... 'you know'. Yes, my granny told me of such stories. Gone were the days where wives will cry, begging their husbands because he refuses to eat, even when he didn't provide money for the meal. Infact, i know say i don stair the honey's nest with this my post from ladies ... temi ba mi! |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 9:10am On May 26, 2013 |
Idowuogbo:lol let me come back from church first anyway happy sunday idowu :* |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by obowunmi(m): 9:11am On May 26, 2013 |
Leadzeal must be an impotent. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Idowuogbo(f): 9:13am On May 26, 2013 |
kulyie: lol tlet me come back from church firstMargaret Hilda Thatcher! We dey wait o! He must hia am. Btwn, happy sabbath day! |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by b03liberty(m): 9:14am On May 26, 2013 |
Chinom:. Sir, i envy this your statement. I can't just wait to be at the kitchen door gisting and waiting for my wifey to serve me fud. Stil 27 though' |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by simple2626(m): 9:19am On May 26, 2013 |
This marriage of a thing is all about luck, u can marry a good man and he decides to change after some years of marriage, also someone bad can change to good. What am try to explain is the fact that every marriage depends on the level of understanding and compatibility. 4 instance I know someone that married a guy just with pictures, she never dated or mate the guy face to face until after the traditional wedding and the are leaving happily. Also I hv seen someone who dated a guy 4 over 5years an later got married to him, bt it was after the marriage that the guy started bringing out the devil in him. So I believe anyway it is, it all depends on God. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by fabolakers(m): 9:25am On May 26, 2013 |
Marriage is not 2 minutes instant noodles. You have to take your time to work for the best. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Reference(m): 9:35am On May 26, 2013 |
jennykadry: Story 2. This is not a fact. A few examples here and there does not make it universal. As you said, 'a smart and sane man'. For the average couple to be proper courtship in today's world remains the best option for stability. I may not have had good parenting, I may not attend a good church, I may not even be socially educated, I may not afford this or that but every person has the time to think things over carefully before decision time. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by RuuDie(m): 9:43am On May 26, 2013 |
I've always said it that in contemporary African Society, the Man always has the edge in the marriage! "Marriage is beautiful" --- why not!!? As a man, if I find my woman unsatisfactory in one way or another, what stops me from going out and getting another (legitimately or otherwise); can a woman do the same!!? Some men just marry for the sole purpose of "tying the woman down!" Women, need to wise up --- marriage isn't a goal that has to be achieved by all means necessary. You can still make a life of yourself without it! 3 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Mamacita007(f): 9:47am On May 26, 2013 |
Yvete: Quick question, what marks the transition from desire to desperation? Could they be sick of the long wait to satisfy their sexual drive (virgins), fear of menopause, biological needs, yadda yadda?? These are justifiable reasons to be 'desperate' IMO. Although, "Desperation" is subjective. Pple confuse actively searching for desperation e.g imagine if ure 35 & a single virgin, you'll be actively searching for a partner. God created companionship dats why nobody wants us to be alone. Even those dat dont want children need lovers. we all need love. nothing like desperation. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Ninilowo(m): 9:48am On May 26, 2013 |
jennykadry: I don't think Emeka and Lola's story has anything to do with compatibility but finding that balance that will help them compliment each other. I talk a lot my hubby doesn't, I am Emeka when it comes to spending ( see my closet for reference) and my hubby is Lola financially. To be quite honest, if I had married a man who spends as much as I do, yawa would gas. Most times we need a complete opposite of us to keep us in check.You are 99.99% correct. My wife is just my direct opposite and people do come to us for direction or advice on how to have a happy family. I am a parrot while she is a camel. I love going out a lot buh she prefers staying indoors. I am also the spending type while she is the saving type buh one way or the other God has been so kind to us to balance things up. We never quarel for a second since we started dating till the present second. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by tallceejay(m): 9:56am On May 26, 2013 |
Gaggi: Forget all these theories, life doesn't work that way. We have seen people get desperate and date for only few mnths before marriage and it was successful. We have also seen long term courtship that resulted into marriage but wasn't successful. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Adamo84(m): 9:59am On May 26, 2013 |
jennykadry: Story 2.God Bless You! Couldn't have said it any better, With someone like you, I have hope that Nairaland isn't a total waste of Time. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Reference(m): 10:00am On May 26, 2013 |
fabolakers: Marriage is not 2 minutes instant noodles. You have to take your time to work for the best. That's it and this fact is oft lost among the women folk. Marraige is like buying a new car. The benefits are clear but the wahala is round the corner and will be manifest with time so you must be prepared to work. Of course the first scratch or dent upsets you. You fix it but after a while and a few dents more your love for your car becomes functional rather than superficial. That's where most marraiges untangle. The reluctance to alter principles, accept realities, change standards, lower expectations, exchange superficiality for functionality. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Fussbot: 10:00am On May 26, 2013 |
Lwtmb...lwkm.. Aye ma ni ka o!see how den don finish these gals wey no wan marry...no mind dem den KUKU wan turn LEGEND of d seeker!u gat me?eh eh eh... Need I talk more?u guys should just keep it coming!lmao! |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by tallceejay(m): 10:00am On May 26, 2013 |
Gaggi: You can't tell if a marriage is flourishing except u r part of dat marriage. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by lolaluv1(f): 10:01am On May 26, 2013 |
Must every story have a fictitious female name of Lola? Ahn ahn! What are it? What tapen? |
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