If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to men.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a rant session about how hard it is to find good men to date, which will lead to a full-on rag session about men in general. And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are horribly annoying.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they hate in single guys. Most guys don't know this.

The truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn't know this either.

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. But for men, they seem almost the same.

Okay how do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you?" And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is friend material or lover material is how she FEELS. It's a combination of emotional feelings and physical feelings.

It is NOT logic. She might use logic to rationalize her decision, or she might use logic to sound like she has a good reason for either being with or not being with a particular guy.

If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot in Here" feeling, then her logical conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good choice to date. At this point she'll take action on her feelings and thoughts.

It goes like this: FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First it’s the feeling, the thought, and then the action.

Which means if she doesn't FEEL it for a guy, the guy would automatically be at the friends zone, because she has nothing to think and act upon on an emotional level for him.

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