Originalsly: Hmmm...is this how you redeem yourself from the mistake of being a baby momma? Being a single parent is not something to be proud of.Parents should be role models to their children...don't you think? Why find other people to be role models? This is confirming that you yourself believe you are not a good enough parent for your child. So why advise others? If your child is a boy growing up under all your female role models how will he grow up to be a man? Is this not setting the foundation for him to be one of those hmmm...effeminate men? Then making time for yourself by dumping your child off at whoever...is that not typical baby momma mentality? Why would you be surprised if your child follows in your footsteps? We have to be careful of people like you who seek to dilute then destroy African family values.

Originalsly: Hmmm...is this how you redeem yourself from the mistake of being a baby momma? Being a single parent is not something to be proud of.Parents should be role models to their children...don't you think? Why find other people to be role models? This is confirming that you yourself believe you are not a good enough parent for your child. So why advise others? If your child is a boy growing up under all your female role models how will he grow up to be a man? Is this not setting the foundation for him to be one of those hmmm...effeminate men? Then making time for yourself by dumping your child off at whoever...is that not typical baby momma mentality? Why would you be surprised if your child follows in your footsteps? We have to be careful of people like you who seek to dilute then destroy African family values.

Policewoman: That is exactly what i have against single parenting. When you raise a boy like a woman, without a father figure, why won't he start having feelings for the same sex?

anitank:
u're one of the most intelligent people on NL i know

Policewoman: We know how these things start. Our daughters will begin copying the oyibo in ditching marriage and rooting for single parenthood which is unhealthy for a child's raising. However i do not hold anything against those who became single parents for reasons not of their own fault. For these people i hold no grudge.

Ewa beads: Please is single mom something to be proud of or what, cos I don't understand this thread.

Originalsly: Hmmm...is this how you redeem yourself from the mistake of being a baby momma? Being a single parent is not something to be proud of.Parents should be role models to their children...don't you think? Why find other people to be role models? This is confirming that you yourself believe you are not a good enough parent for your child. So why advise others? If your child is a boy growing up under all your female role models how will he grow up to be a man? Is this not setting the foundation for him to be one of those hmmm...effeminate men? Then making time for yourself by dumping your child off at whoever...is that not typical baby momma mentality? Why would you be surprised if your child follows in your footsteps? We have to be careful of people like you who seek to dilute then destroy African family values.

anitank:
u're one of the most intelligent people on NL i know

Rastamann: When God was creating man, he never created man to be a single parents, so why go against the wish of God, except where one's spouse is dead?

anitank:
some of us are not single mums by choice. Death happens u know? try thinking before talking or typing


and yeah, its something to be proud of because being a mum proves that u're a real woman

Don't spoil my mood this evening

supaeagles:
interesting... is that what you learned in police school ??... apart from learning how to collect money at check point

lovelydoll:

you should ask the samething when you fornicate.

also who are you to tell a person they cannot be close to God.are you God himself . most are single because of drunkard ,useless ,abusive men ,who just don't care and end up walking away.

ekwah:


I mean I get your point...but the statement in red is very irrelevant to what I said earlier.
Except a woman plans to remarry or practice abstinence , how can she be a single mum and BE CLOSE TO GOD as OP suggested?

lovelydoll:

Again you are not God to tell someone they cannot be close to God because they are a SINGLE mother.

the other stuff is up to them.

damiso: Geeez.Nigerians can be judgemental.Gosh

9jamum: What’s the single most difficult aspect of single parenting? I know, we all have our different answers as the individual challenges differs from state to state and country to country. I complete agree with the fact that a role meant for two mates now belongs to an individual is enough to break one down with enough stress to last a life time....blablablabla....
1.Maintain a relationship with God.
2. Seek out role models:
3. Find a work schedule that suits your life style and family.
4. Do not freak out over things beyond your control –
5. Do make out a ‘me – time”.
6. Be yourself.
Finally, this tend to reduce or completely take the pressure off you whilst spending more quality time with your child (ren).

www.singlenaijamum.com

remioshy: Single mum is something you can be proud of if you find yourself in such situation and you raise your child/children well, I happened to find myself in such and never in my wildest dream do I want such, but I was determined to make the best of my situation, I got pregnant in the university but before I could do anything to it , my mother became aware and she refused to let me terminate, my so called boyfriend was willing to accept and get married after my university education, I do love him but I was concerned because he was abusive, while pregnant and after delivery , any love I had for him was beaten out of me, I had to run for my dear life , it was then I made my mother aware of years of abuse and i continued in it because of my child, that if I leave him , who will marry after one, but when I landed in hospital because of the beating, I knew it was time to call it a day, and I vowed that if he remains the only man alive, I rather choose to be single, 20 years after this year , I am yet to sent my eyes on him, he never bothered , I was a single parent for many years and with Gods help and my mum I did my best,
The irony of the whole saga is that child then is the only tooth in my mouth now. Sometimes being a single parent is a blessing in disguise, I won't criticise someone who find themself in such

anitank:
some of us are not single mums by choice. Death happens u know? try thinking before talking or typing

kokoye: Is this now something to be proud of?

Nna meeennn ...na wah o

Ewa beads: Please is single mom something to be proud of or what, cos I don't understand this thread.

babyosisi:

It is amazing how ignorant you posters can be
Divorce happens you know
Men have abandoned their wives and children
People also die
Is it all single mothers that became single mothers by choice?