Efemena_xy:

What makes you think you won't be able to cope?

I mean what aspect of living independently on your own, on the outside, do you think would be difficult for you? Exercising restraint / caution? Footing your own bills? Taking responsibility for your actions and living with the consequences of the decision(s) you make?

Not intending to put you down or anything of that sort, only just trying to understand your perspective - because from what I've read so far, you're 23 years old, yes?

staicey: ......heart, I wanna feel like a normal teen. I'm ...

staicey:

Thank you acid. I'm 23 incase you didn't notice and am sure you know that a lady at 23 or even 20 can differentiate good from bad. All I need is a breathinhg space, seizing my phone, making sure I'm sleeping after I've gone to bed.. Hell! Sometimes she don't allow me go to bed with my phone. She always wnts to go through my texts at every slight opportunity, what's that?

Besides, I don't wanna believe you are saying me having a bf at 23 is bad. Is it not better I have a bf who comes over to the house and she kknows him? Than have one I sneak out to see all the time?

CFCfan:

This is very serious

I'll go crazy if I was in that predicament. At that stage, I would have to bring extended family members into the conversation.

druid06:

You, 23yo? I don't believe any of it. First, you don't look like one, secondly, you don't portray the maturity of a 23 yo. A23yo does not keep an online diary whatsoever. When I wa 23, I was busy hustling and looking for good employment while camping at a friends quaters you on the other hand is enjoying the security of living under a parent while you suck them continously dry and you expect your mother to give you some freedom when you don't act mature and still feed and live under them. First go get a job then we could talk about getting a boyfriend...Nonsense

staicey: I wanna feel like a normal teen. I'm no kid please

staicey:
And yes, I'm 23

dayokanu:



You see why your mom treats you like a kid?

You dont even know who a teen is, Probably your mom also knows this and thats why she is monitoring you

staicey:

Mixing up! Yeah, mixing up. I feel like the odd one out when I manage to get little time with my friends. Somettimes, I don't know what to say on certain occassions when am with frends. I just feel like an alien dropped onto planet earth. I really don't know how to emphasize this so you understand, but sometimes people around me think I'm weird when I do certain things. Her "caging" me is affecting my way of life!

And yes, I'm 23

staicey:

Do you have to insult me to prove a point?
How does a 23year old look and what's wrong with having fun with keeping an online diary.
I'm still in school and I use to do a parttime job weekends before I stopped and that was because I needed to concentrate more in studiesa nd mum asked me to

My mum took me away from my dad since I was 8 and we went to another town within the same country my dad was and she still saw that my dad n I still communicated and she then decided we moved to the US and since then had caged me. Initially, I thought it was the motherly love but now I'm seeing it as something else. Please do not insult me, I donot know the part of my story that aint clear to you.

dayokanu: I thought you are 23 already?

Efemena_xy:

Ah! Only just seeing this.

Confirms my earlier suspicion.

Staicey, speak to your mum as I suggested in my earlier post...

staicey: Thanks to everyone for the nice advice n tothe incoming advices, thanks too. Its appreciated. And more thanks to those who couldn't help but to insult to prove their points. Still appreciated.


CFCfan, I do not even know where to run to if I were to run away, I as much as I don't like what mum does to me, i still love and respect her feelings. I don't want to hurt her of which I know running away would do

staicey:

Who's a teenager?

staicey: I wanna feel like a normal teen. I'm no kid please

dayokanu:

druid06: If you're 23 years of age which I still don't believe judging from your inexperienced attitude, you need to grow up. You act like a teen and maybe it's the reason why your mom still treats you like a kid. Also, please don't talk about your personal stuffs online. Too much weirdos and predators. Sorry if my previous comment was mean. I am usually that way; very grumpy. ciao! ciao!

staicey:

Do you have to insult me to prove a point?
How does a 23year old look and what's wrong with having fun with keeping an online diary.
I'm still in school and I use to do a parttime job weekends before I stopped and that was because I needed to concentrate more in studiesa nd mum asked me to

My mum took me away from my dad since I was 8 and we went to another town within the same country my dad was and she still saw that my dad n I still communicated and she then decided we moved to the US and since then had caged me. Initially, I thought it was the motherly love but now I'm seeing it as something else. Please do not insult me, I donot know the part of my story that aint clear to you.

blank: @23yrs, what is on ur mind is to throw parties and have boyfriends when your mates are getting jobs and making something of their lives.
That's why she is not interested in giving you that "freedom" cos she has not seen signs that you are ready to show maturity.

blank: @23yrs, what is on ur mind is to throw parties and have boyfriends when your mates are getting jobs and making something of their lives.
That's why she is not interested in giving you that "freedom" cos she has not seen signs that you are ready to show maturity.

blank: @23yrs, what is on ur mind is to throw parties and have boyfriends when your mates are getting jobs and making something of their lives.
That's why she is not interested in giving you that "freedom" cos she has not seen signs that you are ready to show maturity.

biolabee: At 21 some of my class mates were graduates waiting for nysc

Nowadays some are already working as audit associates at 23

Time dey wait for no man

At 25, some ladies don drop one... some get Msc,

If na fratbabe the girl wan be, make we free am na...

kulyie: hahahahaat her age i had already finished my msc degree.at 21 i had already left my parents house to have a life that was after i was done with nysc.so op if you want to be treated like an adult,act like one.let your parents see that you can achieve or do something without them telling you do this,do that.use your gumshion to do things on your own.stop the mummy is my leggings fine,mummy i want to go for a party at 1am,as typical of people of your age.work,do something to take you out of the house then we can start from there.my mom treated me like shes treating you when i was 17,by 18,i already got admission to go to school and so i left the house.i also sold jwellries to earn something,not that my mum couldnt afford to give me pocket money,but i wanted to be treated like an adult,so i acted like one.she saw that i was very industrious so she let me off the hook.she only gives me money from her own volition and pays my school fees then.anyway

the summary of my tale is act like an adult not a teen

SpicyMimi:
God bless you!

I guess u ve gotten ur answers now.

am not gonna judge u based on ur pics, but frm the ones ve seen...it shows u wana be a wild girl...guess Mama suspects that as well.

You need to start thinking like a 23yrs old girl...by putting more important things as ur priorities and not partying!
I started Auditing dffrt companies at the age of 20, though am not yet a qualified one...but i can do what most experience and qualified Chartered Accountants can do! Clubbing nd parties...i saw all those things as vanities!!!
Take your life serious and stop complaining.
May God help you.

Ps-am stil in my early twenties.

Vanneni: Aww, I really feel for you. The seperation between both parents is hard enough. I'm also really sorry I have no form of advice that would bring you immediaate relief. But sweedy, I'll say you hold on for a lil while. You'll get married someday and I believe it wouldn't be too long again. Then you'd miss her like crazy. I'm guessing she's made some mistakes which you do not know of and she's jes tryna prevent you from making same. I'm glad you realise she loves you.