I have been having one or two issues with my gf which I had always condoned. This one happened when I travelled to the east. I called her to let her know that am leaving. Meanwhile, I told myself that I won't call her just to observe her. I was surprised that she didn't call and after five days, I decided to call her and all she could tell me was that she completely forgot about me for the five days. So I told myself that she's not good enough for me and mind u, this was after 4yrs relationship. so I made up my mind n broke up with her. Pls is my action justifiable?

Very.

One funny but stupid thing is that am nw married with the kind of wife I begged God for yet, I hardly spend a week without remembering my ex-gf. Am trying to subdue remembering her anyway. Life is ridiculous.

^ loving d wrong one is a burden, only time can offload.

bknight: Very.

thanks for seeing my action as being justifiable. Sometimes when I remember her, I feel guilt bc she is not yet married and she should be around 33yrs old. Am currently married with two kids - a boy and a girl. I keep praying for her to get a good guy and settle down with him.

Very correct decision bro. VERY

segzi cres: Very correct decision bro. VERY

thanks man. Am really feeling lightened.

Ur action was very justifiable.ppl shouldn't take people for a ride. Question now is: why are u thinking about her? Aren't u happy in ur marriage or is it d guilt that u dumped her?ok now u know u were on point calling it quits with her,can u move on? I'm guessing this should be like 3 yrs now since u already have 2 kids.Face ur wife and children.God will sort her out.

foxgiovani: I have been having one or two issues with my gf which I had always condoned. This one happened when I travelled to the east. I called her to let her know that am leaving. Meanwhile, I told myself that I won't call her just to observe her. I was surprised that she didn't call and after five days, I decided to call her and all she could tell me was that she completely forgot about me for the five days. So I told myself that she's not good enough for me and mind u, this was after 4yrs relationship. so I made up my mind n broke up with her. Pls is my action justifiable?

Didn't you talk with her before you broke up? I mean after four years I'd first try communication before breaking up.

carefreewannabe:

Didn't you talk with her before you broke up? I mean after four years I'd first try communication before breaking up.

be dat as it may, the op is now married and should face his family.
op, pray that she finds d ryt one but don't think u could ve been the ryt one. don't let ur guilt lead to wat do dey call it.... emotional cheating!

gree-die:


be dat as it may, the op is now married and should face his family.
op, pray that she finds d ryt one but don't think u could ve been the ryt one. don't let ur guilt lead to wat do dey call it.... emotional cheating!

I missed he was already married. In this case, there is no need for feelings of guilt. They don't help anybody. Focus on your family.

Ur action was justifiable. Why would she forget you for that 5days it probably means she was remembering somebody else all through that period. Nice one

I feel she dumped you before you even had the chancew to breakup with her.Women are adventurious in that they try out other promising (mirage)avenues while still holding on to you incase.

kreami diva: Ur action was very justifiable.ppl shouldn't take people for a ride. Question now is: why are u thinking about her? Aren't u happy in ur marriage or is it d guilt that u dumped her?ok now u know u were on point calling it quits with her,can u move on? I'm guessing this should be like 3 yrs now since u already have 2 kids.Face ur wife and children. God will sort her out.

your guess is correct. I just don't want her to feel I wasted her time. Even when I knw it wasn't my fault. And for whether am happy with my wife, I will say she is a gift from God. Thank u.

Why don't u take her to the doctor to see if she is not suffering from Alzheimer first, if not, then u can break up wit her

Very Very!!
move on man, the beautiful ones are not yet born.

carefreewannabe:

Didn't you talk with her before you broke up? I mean after four years I'd first try communication before breaking up.

I concur to what @ gree-die has said. But let me still answer your question. I didn't break up with her immediately after my story. We continued the relationship hoping that its part of the ups n down in a relationship. The straw that finally broke the camels back was when she told the parents that she was coming to visit me and at the same time giving me the impression that she was with the parents. Only for her to switch off her phone and kept me in the dark for 13 days. I kept calling her family to knw if they've heard from her and the same way they were calling me to knw if she contacted me. 0nly for me to get her on phone on one of my several trials to reach her on phone and she told me she went to her school to collect transcript. To cut long story short, I almost developed high BP. Just couldn't cope with the whole thing. And the transcript she claimed to have gone to collect was all lie.

foxgiovani: Only for her to switch off her phone and kept me in the dark for 13 days. I kept calling her family to knw if they've heard from her and the same way they were calling me to knw if she contacted me. 0nly for me to get her on phone on one of my several trials to reach her on phone and she told me she went to her school to collect transcript.

chai!!!

mondi_cheeks: Why don't u take her to the doctor to see if she is not suffering from Alzheimer first, if not, then u can break up wit her

Hmmmm, university of Nairaland. Pls which one is "Alzheimer". I've never heard that word.

foxgiovani: Hmmmm, university of Nairaland. Pls which one is "Alzheimer". I've never heard that word.

a disease. U lose ur memory, it gets worse, eventually u won't remember people and how to do things until u die. Its irreversible.

foxgiovani: I concur to what @ gree-die has said. But let me still answer your question. I didn't break up with her immediately after my story. We continued the relationship hoping that its part of the ups n down in a relationship. The straw that finally broke the camels back was when she told the parents that she was coming to visit me and at the same time giving me the impression that she was with the parents. Only for her to switch off her phone and kept me in the dark for 13 days. I kept calling her family to knw if they've heard from her and the same way they were calling me to knw if she contacted me. 0nly for me to get her on phone on one of my several trials to reach her on phone and she told me she went to her school to collect transcript. To cut long story short, I almost developed high BP. Just couldn't cope with the whole thing. And the transcript she claimed to have gone to collect was all lie.

After all I have heard from you about her, I don't understand why you need reassurance from people that you did the right thing?

mondi_cheeks: a disease. U lose ur memory, it gets worse, eventually u won't remember people and how to do things until u die. Its irreversible.

God help us. If this is true then I should be counting myself lucky to have detached from her. I can remember one day she told me that she love me very much but that the truth is that she sometimes don't know when she does these silly things that makes me mad at her. I just didn't understand her even after 4 yrs of courtship.

carefreewannabe:

After all I have heard from you about her, I don't understand why you need reassurance from people that you did the right thing?

Hmmm. I've lived with this burden for about 3 yrs nw. I pray I completely forget about her.

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Didn't you talk with her before you broke up? I mean after four years I'd first try communication before breaking up. [/quote

aft i read this comment the next thing i checkd was the gender.

@OP you should be glad you have memories, now you know you don't have Alzheimer's

[quote author=clemz85][/quote] Smilling. All opinions are welcomed and will be addressed accordingly.

Op, from the story you've just told us, the issue here is, she'd already broken up with you even before you made your own decision. Am not sure she'l care much of your decision. It's a wild guess though.
Goodluck to you too.

RColours: Op, from the story you've just told us, the issue here is, she'd already broken up with you even before you made your own decision. Am not sure she'l care much of your decision. It's a wild guess though.
Goodluck to you too.

I concur

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RColours: Op, from the story you've just told us, the issue here is, she'd already broken up with you even before you made your own decision. Am not sure she'l care much of your decision. It's a wild guess though.
Goodluck to you too.

don't really know what to say. The mum told me in confidence that as afar as she knows, there is no other man in her life. And the friends that are close to me tells me the same thing. I just wish she settles down cos she's really not gething any younger. I don't want her saying she spent the better part of her flower age with me. Asap.

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lolz. E reach oh.

foxgiovani: don't really know what to say. The mum told me in confidence that as afar as she knows, there is no other man in her life. And the friends that are close to me tells me the same thing. I just wish she settles down cos she's really not gething any younger. I don't want her saying she spent the better part of her flower age with me. Asap.

What do u expect her mum and friends to tell you? She can say whatever she likes but u worrying over her is a complete no-no.u've broken up with,u're happily married with kids.MOVE ON NOW OR......I WILL REPORT U TO MADAM!