Busta:

@debo,

I am beginning to suspect that u are a wife beater too

I suspected you are a "man-beater" when you started asking what warranted my ex's tantrums.

4 Play:

I suspected you are a "man-beater" when you started asking what warranted my ex's tantrums.

Ha . . .u just figured that part out?
u were so lucky I wasn't among them
u won't have been telling this story today

If they have a career,they should leave,if they don't,they should stay and receive their constant dose of beatings. What nonsense.

So fulltime house wives deserve to be beaten, afetr all they arent working thus have no where to go. Is that right?

Busta:

Ha . . .u just figured that part out?
u were so lucky I wasn't among them
u won't have been telling this story today

Well,you lucky say Debosky na your future husband.He likes being spanked by his woman.Though,I don't think you will find it funny to see your man developing a hard-on every time you throw a tantrum.

D-reloaded:

So fulltime house wives deserve to be beaten, afetr all they arent working thus have no where to go. Is that right?

I was paraphrasing Sheniqua(this her Americana name sef) who talked about women not willing to leave because they had no financial independence. Unless you just want to pick a fight with me. . . I'm going to walk away from aggressive Ekiti women.

abeg 4Play no implicate me abeg.

me wife beater? Let me not tell you the story of the tom-boy that slapped me in JSS 2

I am forever scarred by that incident.

@ D-R

since Sheniqua has told us it is testosterone that causes everything, is it safe to conclude that Ekiti women - you and Cadet have excessive levels of testosterone? (maybe this is responsible for the copious facial hair on their women too )

Well in my opinion if the girl gets to know her boyfriend really well, knows his friends, the friends tell her what he's like (and whether he has a temper) visits his family, notices that the guy is well behaved when with his family, i mean he dosen't lose his cool beats his juniors, or gets annoyed easily etc, then these should be signs that the guy is not a wife beater. HOPEFULLY.

debosky:

@ D-R

since Sheniqua has told us it is testosterone that causes everything, is it safe to conclude that Ekiti women - you and Cadet have excessive levels of testosterone? (maybe this is responsible for the copious facial hair on their women too )

I disagree . . . both of them are nice chics and have no facial hair.

4 Him:

I disagree . . . both of them are nice chics and have no facial hair.

Never underestimate the power of waxing!

watch the way he is to others and how others are to him.
his mother, sisters nephews  etc .
dose he get involved in fights. how dose he treat his friends and foes.
has he ever pushed you banged his hand against a wall or on a table.
is he jealous very,
there are always signs if one watches out for them

mamaput:

watch the way he is to others and how others are to him.
his mother, sisters nephews etc .
dose he get involved in fights. how dose he treat his friends and foes.
has he ever pushed you banged his hand against a wall or on a table.
is he jealous very,
there are always signs if one watches out for them

All that is nonsense. You can have one for whom every other person will vouch that he can't hurt a fly

I don cook my ogbono finish.
where did I stop

rofl @sheniqua

debosky:

Ok oh Osisi, I hear you

so if I say more women get cheated on than men, it means men are more intelligent and the women are less so I hope you would agree.

Androgenic hormones or not, being aggressive does not mean I will beat anybody.

Most violence is done by men eh?

Men also achieve more house building, wealth generation, scientific advances, medical breakthroughs, and poverty alleviation activities, more of everything (except maybe childbearing and cursing ) than women.

What exactly is your point here?

Ok is this acceptable:

Women are predisposed to chasing rich men since rich men are likely to be more providing for offspring, regardless of whether they will be faithful or not. its because of the way they are wired.

I'm not trying to belabour the point, but such generalizations are wrong - Aggression should not be mistaken with DRIVE or the need to 'achieve' or do something.

Then again how do you explain that almost all acts of violence is carried out by men despite the fact that women outnumber men?

_{simple answer needed pls}

you miss the point osisi - most actions period, are carried out by men (apart from bearing children for 9 months and cooking ogbono ) so picking ONE and saying it is caused by men doesn't really elucidate anything.

Are you saying any woman who kills or beats someone up is as a result of testosterone?
I think we should test D-R and Cadet to evaluate this hypothesis.

4 Play:

All that is nonsense. You can have one for whom every other person will vouch that he can't hurt a fly

Your responses are scary and shocking.
is that the best that you coulkd say to mamaput's input

mamaput:

watch the way he is to others and how others are to him.
his mother, sisters nephews  etc .
[b]dose he get involved in fights. how dose he treat his friends and foes.
has he ever pushed you banged his hand against a wall or on a table.
is he jealous very,[/b]there are always signs if one watches out for them

mamaput you are so very correct

debosky:

you miss the point osisi - most actions period, are carried out by men (apart from bearing children for 9 months and cooking ogbono ) so picking ONE and saying it is caused by men doesn't really elucidate anything.

[b]Are you saying any woman who kills or beats someone up is as a result of testosterone?[/b]I think we should test D-R and Cadet to evaluate this hypothesis.

women have testosterone too you know.
My main purpose is to say that many women are abused and sometimes killed by their abusers and it's not as simplistic as some make it out to be.

@Jenny na here you dey today?
How ur man dey? hope u give am berra fufu(Loi-Loi) today.
I trust u naw.

@Jenny na here you dey today?
How your man dey? hope u give am berra fufu(Loi-Loi) today.
I trust u naw.

roflmao

presido i hail oooooooo

u trust ur sister naaaa,u know wat i can do

about 25-50% of women are physically abused at some point in their relationship.
That is no little number.
One or two out of every 4 woman that's reading this thread has been in that situation.
If you know the solution @ debosky tell us.

sheniqua:

about 25-50% of women are physically abused at some point in their relationship.
That is no little number.
One or two out of every 4 woman that's reading this thread has been in that situation.
If you know the solution @ debosky tell us.

Are u one of them? when was the data collected and by whom?

@Jenny
I trust but

4 play i have a very good instinct for me one look at him is enough to tell.
the hair at the back of my neck will raise up. i just know an evil person when i see one.

presido1:

Are u one of them? when was the data collected and by whom?@Jenny
I trust but

read!

@Jenny
I trust but Lips

but wetin

The solution? Exercising better judgment in choosing a mate.

People are a product of their upbringing by and large, women contribute more than 50% to this as you've said, so women should teach their male children to respect women and vice versa.

Choose your partners carefully, bring your children up properly.

Be able to stand on your feet to avoid these 'financial dependence' issues as much as possible. Its not rocket science really. I have 4 sisters so I can say i know a little about this. Proper upbringing has instilled these values in my siblings. If my folks can do it, why can't others?

Does your partner:

hit, punch, slap, shove, or bite you?

threaten to hurt you or your children?

threaten to hurt friends or family members?

have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?

behave in an overprotective manner?

become jealous without reason?

prevent you from seeing family or friends?

prevent you from going where you want, when you want?

prevent you from working or attending school?

destroy personal property or sentimental items?

deny you access to family assets, such as bank accounts,
credit cards, or even the car?

control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?

force you to have sex against your will?

force you to engage in sexual acts you do not enjoy?

insult you or call you derogatory names?

use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?

humiliate you in front of your children?

turn minor incidents into major arguments?

abuse or threaten to abuse pets?

The author of No Visible Wounds, Mary Susan Miller, adds one more:
withhold conversation, sex, or affection from you?


any man that does any of the above is an abuser and should seek help
Any woman with a man that does the above ought to watch out,you are sleeping with an abuser.

sheniqua:

Does your partner:

hit, punch, slap, shove, or bite you?

threaten to hurt you or your children?

threaten to hurt friends or family members?

have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?

behave in an overprotective manner?

become jealous without reason?

prevent you from seeing family or friends?

prevent you from going where you want, when you want?

prevent you from working or attending school?

destroy personal property or sentimental items?

deny you access to family assets, such as bank accounts,
credit cards, or even the car?

control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?

force you to have sex against your will?

force you to engage in sexual acts you do not enjoy?

insult you or call you derogatory names?

use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?

humiliate you in front of your children?

turn minor incidents into major arguments?

abuse or threaten to abuse pets?

The author of No Visible Wounds, Mary Susan Miller, adds one more:
withhold conversation, sex, or affection from you?


any man that does any of the above is an abuser and should seek help
Any woman with a man that does the above ought to watch out,you are sleeping with an abuser.

So wen did partner turn into "Men" only??

So I guess if a woman does any of the things on ur list shes just throwing fits huh??

Anoda man hater.

Note; If anybody does any of these to another person that person needs help irrespective of sex.

debosky:

The solution? Exercising better judgment in choosing a mate.

People are a product of their upbringing by and large, women contribute more than 50% to this as you've said, so women should teach their male children to respect women and vice versa.

Choose your partners carefully, bring your children up properly.

Be able to stand on your feet to avoid these 'financial dependence' issues as much as possible. Its not rocket science really. I have 4 sisters so I can say i know a little about this. Proper upbringing has instilled these values in my siblings. If my folks can do it, why can't others?

You are so right.
We are all a product of our upbringing.
I hate talking about myself but I started a thread earlier in honor of dads esp my own dad.
My dad is a good man and treated mom with great respect.
Never laid a hand on her so I did not witness abuse growing up.

I used to be the first person to cajole women who would become punching bags until I got to know some personally and it changed my whole perspective.
These are intelligent women that have been reduced to wimps by years of emotional,sexual and physical torture.
Many of these women struggle daily with self esteem long after the divorce is over.
Right now I have a friend who is an emotional wreck,who was  showing up at my door at 6AM in the morning in tears and the stories are horrifying and even now that the man packed up and left she's still praying he returns because she's scared of being alone.
It is not easy.
She can't even make very easy decisions on her own because throughout the marriage she was made to believe that she was daft and incapable of reasoning.
Abuse robs women of themselves.

Esss:

So when did partner turn into "Men" only??

So I guess if a woman does any of the things on your list shes just throwing fits huh??

Anoda man hater.

Note; If anybody does any of these to another person that person needs help irrespective of sex.

I hate all this pretences.
when you hear 419 what is the picture you get man or woman?
and what pronoun is normally used?
Ok a small number of women abuse their men are you now happy?

when you hear a house was broken into and inhabitants killed who most likely did it?
Say whatever you like.

see the title of the thread

sheniqua:

I hate all this pretences.
when you hear 419 what is the picture you get man or woman?[/color]
and what pronoun is normally used?
Ok [color=#990000]a small number of women abuse their men are you now happy?

when you hear a house was broken into and inhabitants killed who most likely did it?
Say whatever you like.

see the title of the thread

Did you hear urself or rather did u read the crap u just posted??

I'm lost for words.

It's obvious that u are definitely a man hater.

I suppose Men are the demons that plague this world.

Esss:

Did you hear yourself or rather did u read the crap u just posted??

I'm lost for words.

It's obvious that u are definitely a man hater.
I suppose Men are the demons that plague this world.

absolutely not
more like a straight shooter
It ain't pretty sometmes

If reading the thread that's the best contribution you have i.e there are women abusers too, then you have a problem not me.
start a thread on husband batterers and those interested will join you.