Maria-Goretti:
I actually meant, she, the mother-inlaw, coming to live with you and your husband or wife in your own house...even if its a one-room apartment.....?

mitwitdot: I reject it for even my enemy. For a guy, it is totally emasculating n evil. If it is a comfortable single room we can afford, then so be it.

Daresh: Men I love my mother in law o, but I cannot live with her for even 2 months.

Maria-Goretti:
It was kinda funny how my mum popped that question....
I happened to be in the kitchen this evening, trying to make up something for dinner, when my mum walked in and was like: 'eh nne, mgbo, can you live-in with your mother-inlaw for 2 years?
To be frank, I was so confused, and the expression on my face made her laugh so hard...and even increased when I answered,'doesnt she have a house..?'. We didnt really discuss such this evening, so I wondered where she could have gotten her 'jamb' qquestion from.
'Well, I heard it over the radio, so I thought I should ask to know your own view'...that was her answer to my wonderment.

So now, I am asking you (guys and ladies), whats your own view on that...?

acidosis™:


My God...

acidosis™:

na wa o..

Is this marriage thing really worth it..¿

Never knew in-laws are synonymous to evil spirits.
smh..

Daresh:

Which one is My God ? When you live with someone, see finish always sets in and insults come in.

mitwitdot:

never said in-laws r evil. Living with extended family for prolong period is just too much headache.

Tolexander: i don't really understand your question.
Do you mean living in the mother inlaw's house or the mother inlaw coming to live with us?

acidosis™:


Hmn.. for a young couple, I'll try to agree with you..


But I'm sure you'll change your mindset when you clock 40,50..

For instance, my cousins are as free as birds in my family house.

mitwitdot:

One of the problems, is "FREEDOM". It can be abused n misused. Since you av state its your Family house, I think every member has a right to live in the house.

@maria-Gorietti, no attempt to derail your thread

Maria-Goretti:
Actually, it was already stated (3rd post) but it seems you didnt read through..... I will repeat nonetheless.
Can you live-in with your mother-inlaw, in your house, for 2 years?

Tolexander: i can live with her for as many as possible depending on the type of woman she is(not mama G type) though i don't think and pray to have a wicked and wack mother inlaw cos the family of my bride is one of my criteria.

It will be better having an elder if possible, mother inlaw to be in ones home to help in supervising our children most especially, parents that are occupationally occupied rather than looking for an house maid.

This is african for goodness sake.

Moreover, she isn't coming to be a rival to her daughter or son.

Maria-Goretti:
'moreover she isnt coming coming to be a rival to her daughter or son'... I sort of agree but how are you sure she wont be a rival to her son's wife or daughter's husband...?

acidosis™:


Yes, but thats not enough reason for one to isolate himself/herself from relatives (in-laws or not).



I know most Nigerian ladies specifically dislike their mother in-laws..

xynerise: Why would your mother-inlaw live with you for 2years? She no get husband? You want conji to kill ur father-inlaw?

Maria-Goretti:
hahahahaha....good point.
What if the father-inlaw is dead already?

xynerise:
Your father-inlaw should have an apartment before he died, so she should be there. If she is too old or feeling lonely, then employ a maid to take care of her. You can show some care by visiting her every weekend and buying her gifts.

What happens if you stay in a room apartment? She go begin dey hear when u and ur husband dey do night exercise abi?

Maria-Goretti:
hahahaha....you know, my mum laughed out loud at that comment of yours.
So, honey, your view is a no no, right?

Bludeville: Frankly, i dont know why people make stuff like this such an issue. I told my hubby that i want his family to consider our home as their home if they ever need to. I wouldnt bat an eyelid at his mum coming to stay if she had to. It wont be a walk in the park but then when was family ever totally easy? we'd fight, laugh, love ,live and make up and i can only see it making the bond stronger, even if my MIL was the devil herself. Its all about the mind