Phiozy: ...and what if he's got the potentials to really make it in life, and really working hard towards achieving his dreams? Truth is some men never forget that one lady that was always 'there' back when they were digging and toiling. Yea, romance's gat to be funded, buh it takes a wise lady to discern between a playboy and a real, hardworkin and serious-minded guy, and support him in any little way she can.

Orikinla: If you don't like this post, that is your headache and heartache.

What I hate most is to see boys who cannot even feed themselves looking for relationships with girls.
They are in fact, the most sexually active in Africa.
You see jobless guys who should focus on being creative and innovative like their mates in America, Europe and Asia, but their best pursuits are looking for girls to date and they cannot offer these impressionable and vulnerable young women nothing more than S*E*X. And that is why the National Agency for the Control of AIDS, NACA, reported that 3.4 million Nigerians were living with HIV/AIDS, the second largest globally.

Later you see them and their ill bred kids and suffering and smiling baby mamas increasing the population of the poor masses in the slums where they breed anti-social characters, robbers and other criminals who become socioeconomic liabilities and threats to the society.

You want a girl to be your honey, but you don't have money.
You better go and get busy first to add value to your life and stop being a romantic nuisance.

Only a re-tarded girl will date any empty suit.

ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE IS NOTHING BUT A NUISANCE.
~ BLANCHE MC MANETT

tpacalipse: A rich man today may lose his wealth tomorrow. So what happens to his relationship then? The lady leaves him? Based on what I have read today, the lady leaves. If u can only have relationship when u have money, then if the money finishes in a relationship, then u lose the relationship. My advice to all is never listen to anyone. Find ur own way, and if u make mistake, u learn. Shikena.

slap1: 1000 likes!

However, the OP seem to imply something different and subjective. You are welcome.

Olivia-light:


my dear u r getting it wrong, okay lets say u marry and u can't even afford 4 ur baby's diapers, even u urslf wnt b happy trust me,u r gonna feel like u r suffering ur family.
Ppl shld place der priorities ryt,as a young guy ur future shld matter 2 u most, u shld b prepared 4 marriage nt 2 bring out children 2 suffer jt because ur penis is active,
u can v platonic friends #gals# if u wan bt d whole romantic tin cost money brother even d long phone calls involves cash so y nt make it simple 4 u and ur future.
No man including woman il b happy 2 see dat even sumtin as little as proper feeding he/she can't even afford 4 his family. Trust me is part of d reason some ppl r violent and aggressive men.
Plz youths wake up cs is still early nt wen u r 34/so u start 2 do wat u shld v done earlier bt u misplaced ur priorities.
So dearie is nt dat if u didn't come 4rm a rich home u shld go and die bt 2 make use of d little u v on more important tinz Dan chasing gals up and down.
10k U

SugaryBelle: 1000 likes for what nah? Your posts on this thread contradict each other,which side are u on abeg?

ogugua88: True, but at the same time, I don't think a girl should chase only men with fat pockets or be discouraged by someone who isn't stable or wealthy. Today's circumstance(s) can be different tomorrow. I'd have no problem dating someone who wasn't financially stable, as long as stability is his goal and he's working towards it. Sometimes what he needs is motivation, and that motivation can be a woman.

If the guy is broke and a loafer, then pas possible.

COOLDUN:

You still have not made any reasonable point, sometimes people do not know that they present some reasonable things unreasonably. From your comment you made it look like all the young and poor guys made themselves like that, or are comfortable with it. No one is happy to be poor or lazy let me tell you.

You forgot to understand that 99% of poor youths in Nigeria today is purposely made by the people at the head of affairs in Nigeria. Take our young graduates for an instance, some wasted many of their youthful years to get a good education, graduated, finished their youth services, only to come out and face unemployment. Leaders of tomorrow assurances during our schooling days is now seen as fable story told by our teachers. Many years of ASUU strikes interrupted education, with many years of unemployment can make a hard working man looks like a fool and futureless slowpoke, thereby qualifying him as a poor woman chaser you quoted in your post.

I don’t agree with you that no money no romance or anything you called it, I will only agree with you on the caption of no money no flitting, because love is not supposed to be shared , so also is not supposed to be bought with money. You can marry your wife with only love, but you can marry your knife with wealth. There is difference between a WIFE and a KNIFE.

Someone said a genuine hustling, what is a genuine hustling for goodness sake? Running after the politicians? Being a thug? Or, what?

This kind of your words is one of the reasons why we are seeing over night billionaires in our society today. Because no one is ready to follow the right channel as long as it will make him to be rich and accepted in the society, The rulers and politicians are recycling themselves, while waiting for their yet unborn generations to grow and take over from where they stopped, while the youth you want be Bill Gates before they could be loved by lazy girls are roaming the streets with their certificates.

I don’t agree with you on this one, though it is your personal opinion, but it is very harmful to the society. Poor and not yet made it guys are free to love and be loved, but not to flirt around. Thank you.

Orikinla: If you don't like this post, that is your headache and heartache.

What I hate most is to see boys who cannot even feed themselves looking for relationships with girls.
They are in fact, the most sexually active in Africa.
You see jobless guys who should focus on being creative and innovative like their mates in America, Europe and Asia, but their best pursuits are looking for girls to date and they cannot offer these impressionable and vulnerable young women nothing more than S*E*X. And that is why the National Agency for the Control of AIDS, NACA, reported that 3.4 million Nigerians were living with HIV/AIDS, the second largest globally.

Later you see them and their ill bred kids and suffering and smiling baby mamas increasing the population of the poor masses in the slums where they breed anti-social characters, robbers and other criminals who become socioeconomic liabilities and threats to the society.

You want a girl to be your honey, but you don't have money.
You better go and get busy first to add value to your life and stop being a romantic nuisance.

Only a re-tarded girl will date any empty suit.

ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE IS NOTHING BUT A NUISANCE.
~ BLANCHE MC MANETT

JudismphD: Continue to blame ur ineptitude leaders untill ur water pass garri

heisenberg33:


Normally i try not to comment in this section of nairaland but posts like yours necessitate some exceptions once in a while. First of all, may be in an attempt to impress a targeted audience here on nairaland, you made lots of assumptions and wild conjectures. How does not having money correlate with the prevalence of Aids in Africa? I really need more explanation on that. Does the availability of money in anyway whittle down the prevalence of the scourge?? Is the cause of the pandemic the absence of money or being jobless as you implicitly stated? Secondly, you said "instead of them to focus and be innovative and creative like their mates in Europe and America". This is a sweeping statement which erroneously alludes that the youths in America and Europe are more focused than those in Africa. There are no trusted statistics to prove this, what they have is a government that enables the innovative and focused ones reach their goal. There are lots of youths in America and Europe wasting away just like you find them in Africa, a few innovative and focused ones may not be representative of the entire sample. Furthermore, i fail to see how being innovative and focused would reverse the spread of the scourge.

The biggest Faux pas you made is stating the age long Nigerian relationship "maxim" that "you want a girl to be your honey, yet you do not have money". This is a gaffe highly reflective of the Nigerian mentality of aggressive love for materialism and consumerism, and you need to rid yourself of such thinking, it reeks of low self esteem. How does being in a relationship translate into being a financial house? I am really mystified at such thought process. The girl is not rendering you any service so why are you compelled to pay her? why isn't she paying you? Yes, once in a while partners can share gifts and live up to some financial responsibilities, but this is not a right of any of the partners, it should be solely within the capability of the partners, and should not be restricted to any of the sexes. Guys like you are the reason why our girls get the wrong message and i don't blame them. Now, you may bring the issue of sex as a justification for the guy to bankroll the lady. Need i remind you that sex is a mutually enjoyed activity by 2 consenting people, so none of the partners deserve to be paid any more than the other.

I believe in being generous in a relationship but that is not a responsibility, it should be out of the magnanimity of the partners. It is preposterous and very parochial to assert that no one should go into a relationship without money, this is the quintessential Nigerian thinking which you need to extricate yourself from. A boy deserves as much right as a girl to receive financial aid in a relationship, it is not the sole prerogative of any sex.

Finally, i do not know your aim of writing this, but if it is to lament the spread of Aids, then the issues you have raised are tangential to your objective of righting this. Also, if your aim was to emphasize the importance of spending on a girl compulsorily, then these points you have raised are incongruous with judicious reasoning

kennygee: I love the bible bcoz it never lies. Before Eve was given to Adam, he had something doing (tending the garden) before God gave him Eve to be a helpmate. Before Jacob married Racheal and Leah, He had to "work" for both of them. Even Joseph was a carpenter before he started courting Mary. As a man, you have to build urself before you can think of a woman. The bible even says "a man who can't take care of his family is worse than an infidel". I am all about supporting a man or being there for him while he grows financially, but until He marries the woman, he shudn't even think of fornicating with her. Who is fooling who? You can't eat ur cake and have it, u want to have sexx and yet, u can't take care of the woman. Those are the kinda guys that are quick to say "abort it" wen a baby shows up. A man shud change ur last name, social and financial status. If he ain't up to it yet, he has no right to a p.u.n.a.n.i.

heisenberg33:


Normally i try not to comment in this section of nairaland but posts like yours necessitate some exceptions once in a while. First of all, may be in an attempt to impress a targeted audience here on nairaland, you made lots of assumptions and wild conjectures. How does not having money correlate with the prevalence of Aids in Africa? I really need more explanation on that. Does the availability of money in anyway whittle down the prevalence of the scourge?? Is the cause of the pandemic the absence of money or being jobless as you implicitly stated? Secondly, you said "instead of them to focus and be innovative and creative like their mates in Europe and America". This is a sweeping statement which erroneously alludes that the youths in America and Europe are more focused than those in Africa. There are no trusted statistics to prove this, what they have is a government that enables the innovative and focused ones reach their goal. There are lots of youths in America and Europe wasting away just like you find them in Africa, a few innovative and focused ones may not be representative of the entire sample. Furthermore, i fail to see how being innovative and focused would reverse the spread of the scourge.

The biggest Faux pas you made is stating the age long Nigerian relationship "maxim" that "you want a girl to be your honey, yet you do not have money". This is a gaffe highly reflective of the Nigerian mentality of aggressive love for materialism and consumerism, and you need to rid yourself of such thinking, it reeks of low self esteem. How does being in a relationship translate into being a financial house? I am really mystified at such thought process. The girl is not rendering you any service so why are you compelled to pay her? why isn't she paying you? Yes, once in a while partners can share gifts and live up to some financial responsibilities, but this is not a right of any of the partners, it should be solely within the capability of the partners, and should not be restricted to any of the sexes. Guys like you are the reason why our girls get the wrong message and i don't blame them. Now, you may bring the issue of sex as a justification for the guy to bankroll the lady. Need i remind you that sex is a mutually enjoyed activity by 2 consenting people, so none of the partners deserve to be paid any more than the other.

I believe in being generous in a relationship but that is not a responsibility, it should be out of the magnanimity of the partners. It is preposterous and very parochial to assert that no one should go into a relationship without money, this is the quintessential Nigerian thinking which you need to extricate yourself from. A boy deserves as much right as a girl to receive financial aid in a relationship, it is not the sole prerogative of any sex.

Finally, i do not know your aim of writing this, but if it is to lament the spread of Aids, then the issues you have raised are tangential to your objective of righting this. Also, if your aim was to emphasize the importance of spending on a girl compulsorily, then these points you have raised are incongruous with judicious reasoning

Orikinla: If you don't like this post, that is your headache and heartache.

What I hate most is to see boys who cannot even feed themselves looking for relationships with girls.
They are in fact, the most sexually active in Africa.
You see jobless guys who should focus on being creative and innovative like their mates in America, Europe and Asia, but their best pursuits are looking for girls to date and they cannot offer these impressionable and vulnerable young women nothing more than S*E*X. And that is why the National Agency for the Control of AIDS, NACA, reported that 3.4 million Nigerians were living with HIV/AIDS, the second largest globally.

Later you see them and their ill bred kids and suffering and smiling baby mamas increasing the population of the poor masses in the slums where they breed anti-social characters, robbers and other criminals who become socioeconomic liabilities and threats to the society.

You want a girl to be your honey, but you don't have money.
You better go and get busy first to add value to your life and stop being a romantic nuisance.

Only a re-tarded girl will date any empty suit.

ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE IS NOTHING BUT A NUISANCE.
~ BLANCHE MC MANETT

Yoshi-Master:
And they say "Love is Blind".

Apparently, Love has regained its sight.

COOLDUN:

You still have not made any reasonable point, sometimes people do not know that they present some reasonable things unreasonably. From your comment you made it look like all the young and poor guys made themselves like that, or are comfortable with it. No one is happy to be poor or lazy let me tell you.

You forgot to understand that 99% of poor youths in Nigeria today is purposely made by the people at the head of affairs in Nigeria. Take our young graduates for an instance, some wasted many of their youthful years to get a good education, graduated, finished their youth services, only to come out and face unemployment. Leaders of tomorrow assurances during our schooling days is now seen as fable story told by our teachers. Many years of ASUU strikes interrupted education, with many years of unemployment can make a hard working man looks like a fool and futureless slowpoke, thereby qualifying him as a poor woman chaser you quoted in your post.

I don’t agree with you that no money no romance or anything you called it, I will only agree with you on the caption of no money no flitting, because love is not supposed to be shared , so also is not supposed to be bought with money. You can marry your wife with only love, but you can marry your knife with wealth. There is difference between a WIFE and a KNIFE.

Someone said a genuine hustling, what is a genuine hustling for goodness sake? Running after the politicians? Being a thug? Or, what?

This kind of your words is one of the reasons why we are seeing over night billionaires in our society today. Because no one is ready to follow the right channel as long as it will make him to be rich and accepted in the society, The rulers and politicians are recycling themselves, while waiting for their yet unborn generations to grow and take over from where they stopped, while the youth you want be Bill Gates before they could be loved by lazy girls are roaming the streets with their certificates.

I don’t agree with you on this one, though it is your personal opinion, but it is very harmful to the society. Poor and not yet made it guys are free to love and be loved, but not to flirt around. Thank you.

rman:

Finally, someone that gets it.
God bless you! The OP wrote rubbish and people are liking it.