baby_123:

This is too unbelievable for you abi? That you use the "charm" option. lmao. I read too and was speechless. I had to ask for the age.

bukatyne:

One has to explore all options.

Reminds me of another thread where the husband wanted to touch her new hair and she kicked his hand away and said that is it the hair abc paid for that he wants to touch?

As there are bad husbands, there are bad wives

There are some men and women not fit to be married

baby_123:

So jazz is making her take money and gifts from this guy. I thought jazz was usually a one sided thing. Plus the ex is still very married, and has not left his wife for her. So i rule out jazz. Its just greed. With all this man claims to do for her, she is not satisfied. Some people are just born like that.

mgbeketoto: It only means she is bored with you, not that she does not love you or want to be with you.
If you ignore her, BETTER FOR Y'AWL.

Marriage is boring, and the ROMANCE IS USUALLY GONE AFTER THE FIRST WEEK OF SAYING I DO!
The best thing is to ignore her.
No woman will leave her matrimonial home for ANY EX!
Trust me.


I personally find my conversations with my EXES more entertaining than those of my husband.
MAINTAINING THE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE NOSTALGIC EXES is usually a great MARRIAGE-SPICER!
Being a good husband/provider is not the only ingredient for an interesting marriage.

SHE IS BORED! Simple.

I have maintained RELATIONSHIPS with several EXES during my marriagES. . . they kept me going. . .and STILL KEEP ME GOING! My husband has learned NOT TO CARE, since it is obvious that I have absolutely NO desire to leave my marriage for any EX! Good news. . . THEY ARE ALL MARRIED! I don't keep in contact with DIVORCED EXES!

You must be a MARRIED MAN. . .for me to discuss ANYTHING with ya! I don't waste my time with SINGLE OR DIVORCED DUDES!

Please, relax! She is only using those calls and texts TO SPICE THINGS UP! MARRRRRRRRRRIAGE IS AS BORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRING AS SOME OLD, DRIED PIECE OF SHYTE!

bukatyne:


Dear YPP,

There is nothing wrong in a husband worshiping the ground his wife walks; intact, he ought to worship it and the wife reciprocate by worshiping his too that is really the concept of love and submission.

The problem here is that the wife is not reciprocating

Chillisauce:

coolsammy: thank u all for all ur advice and contribution so far. this is something that has really been bothering for sometime now. i hardly concentrate at work. took her out on many occasion to ask wat the problem was. asked her to tell me where i am not getting it right so i can make amends, promised to buy her anything if thats the problem. but she kept saying there is nothing btw them bt wouldnt stop flirting with him over phone, my wife nw password her phone so i wont just go into it on my own volition. i even collected the car keys frm her sometime, took away the kids frm her and locked her out for like days. her family interfare and pleaded on her behalf.
but while this lasted, the man promised to get her an apartment and buy her a car since i collected her car frm her. bt after her relative intervention she promised nt to repaet such again only to come up last week that the man is still going ahead to buy her the car and hope i will not be mad when she collects the car,
Though i never responded to her request. i pretended not to hear wat she said but waiting for her to collect the car and use that as an evidence to whatever happens after.


I came here to seek advice most especially from the ladies as to wat could be going wrong and if any has ever experienced this and a way forward as well

byvan: You married a lady that was dating a married man before you met her and you think that miraculously, the rain that has beaten the guinea fowl will clean its spots,you are on a long thing.

Winneygirl: The taste of sin!!
It never ceases to amaze me how we are more attracted to 'that which we shouldn't do' and very lukewarm towards 'that which we should do'.
.
This relatnshp is not about money. There is a level of friendship she has with this man, which she doesn't have with her husband.
.
Op, go back to the drawing board. Take Ur mind off this man, begging her, or being rash. Seat down with her, and converse with her as a friend. Groom a new kind of friendship. Be thoughtful & warm. Show love not anger. It'll take a while, but U have 2 earn her trust and her friendship.

Nashville:

Bros, I think you have tried and you better start thinking of plan B. Sorry to say but your wife is cheating on you. They may not have slept together but if she is seeing another man behind your back or trying to get a car from another man, she sure is cheating and you never know, it might even be physical.

Truth is that you deserve better than the wife you have. My advice is to get a plan B. Action they say speaks louder than words. Talk to her and make her a promise that if she ever speaks to that man again, she can forget about her marriage. Tell her you mean it 100% and if indeed she chooses to do that, end the marriage. You cannot spend your entire wife begging your wife to love you, if she chooses not to love you, then you go look for someone else. I pray God gives you a better wife in future because you just may not have one right now!

jumzzy448: I really feel for u op, I think you are too cool headed. Pls you just have to take a stand, what rubbish
I think you have been begging her and persuading her to stop that's why she had the guts to even tell you that the id1ot wants to get her a car, and asking if you won't be angry.
Pls kick her ass out. Let her go to her ex and start living with him.
Let her know you can live without her.......infqct i'm so angry. which i'm a member of your family. Would have so much love throwing her and her things out of the house.

bukatyne:
What right do you have to 'throw' her things out of the house?

Winneygirl: The taste of sin!!
It never ceases to amaze me how we are more attracted to 'that which we shouldn't do' and very lukewarm towards 'that which we should do'.
.
This relatnshp is not about money. There is a level of friendship she has with this man, which she doesn't have with her husband.
.
Op, go back to the drawing board. Take Ur mind off this man, begging her, or being rash. Seat down with her, and converse with her as a friend. Groom a new kind of friendship. Be thoughtful & warm. Show love not anger. It'll take a while, but U have 2 earn her trust and her friendship.

coolsammy: the man promised to get her an apartment and buy her a car since i collected her car frm her. bt after her relative intervention she promised nt to repaet such again only to come up last week that the man is still going ahead to buy her the car and hope i will not be mad when she collects the car,
Though i never responded to her request. i pretended not to hear wat she said but waiting for her to collect the car and use that as an evidence to whatever happens after.

jidegirl12:

Chillicake but it's true.... It's plain and simple SHE'S BORED!!

The only part I don't get is the long throat part of the whole story.

Phema:

Nice. I sincerely share your thoughts in this. I doubt this is about money. . .I seriously doubt. It's just a case of "something one doesn't have" looking sweeter "than what one has". She just wants the attention. I also do not think she is sleeping with this man.

@Op, i think you need to connect with your wife on a deeper level. Begging or gra gra won't do much. That you buy her stuff and pay her like an Oil company doesn't mean that is all there is to being a good husband. Be her friend, let her be able to confide in you. She is prolly bored stiff and talking to the man seems like a way to ease off.

mgbeketoto: It only means she is bored with you, not that she does not love you or want to be with you.
If you ignore her, BETTER FOR Y'AWL.

Marriage is boring, and the ROMANCE IS USUALLY GONE AFTER THE FIRST WEEK OF SAYING I DO!
The best thing is to ignore her.
No woman will leave her matrimonial home for ANY EX!
Trust me.


I personally find my conversations with my EXES more entertaining than those of my husband.
MAINTAINING THE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE NOSTALGIC EXES is usually a great MARRIAGE-SPICER!

Being a good husband/provider is not the only ingredient for an interesting marriage.

SHE IS BORED! Simple.

I have maintained RELATIONSHIPS with several EXES during my marriagES. . . they kept me going. . .and STILL KEEP ME GOING! My husband has learned NOT TO CARE, since it is obvious that I have absolutely NO desire to leave my marriage for any EX! Good news. . . THEY ARE ALL MARRIED! I don't keep in contact with DIVORCED EXES!

You must be a MARRIED MAN. . .for me to discuss ANYTHING with ya! I don't waste my time with SINGLE OR DIVORCED DUDES!

Please, relax! She is only using those calls and texts TO SPICE THINGS UP! MARRRRRRRRRRIAGE IS AS BORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRING AS SOME OLD, DRIED PIECE OF SHYTE!

classic music:

Mama born boy, Its obvious u either married a boring dude for his money,age not being on ur side,Visa(as I can c u are in Texas) Or u just a born Cheat.
I wonder what people like u are still doing in a marriage.have u ever wondered y ur huby has stopped caring abt wat u do online? Simple...U are either too fat n ugly for men to take real interest in or he married u out of convinience.


So its a loose loose sItuation for you. Don't use ur situation to give ill adviseam
Marriage is sweet buh not for cheats like the person I just quoted.

bukatyne:

What right do you have to 'throw' her things out of the house?

jumzzy448:
See me see jamb question oooooo
Pls be truthful to yourself and tell me that if this man was to be your brother, you won't have done same.
Abegggggiiiii.....i'm sure if it was the man that did same, u would be among those who would advice her to leave her matrimonial home.

jumzzy448:
See me see jamb question oooooo
Pls be truthful to yourself and tell me that if this man was to be your brother, you won't have done same.
Abegggggiiiii.....i'm sure if it was the man that did same, u would be among those who would advice her to leave her matrimonial home.

bukatyne:

What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. I am not one of those jobless inlaws who meddle about in what is no concern of mine.

My advice to the woman was the same that I gave the man