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Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Chubhie: 11:09am On Aug 28, 2013 |
coogar:Correct. He married the wrong lady. She is psychologically imprinting it into your thoughts codedly untill the day you hear honey,can i go on a date with a friend? Now what you gonna do when it gets to that level? In the words of R Kelly "when a woman's fed up no matter how you beg tis like runing outta luck" you need a sitdown with her and reason with her your fears bout her ex thats assuming she is reasonable. The fallout from that sitdown will determine your next moves. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by meine: 11:26am On Aug 28, 2013 |
@OP From all indications there are foundational problems in this marriage and you partly brought this on yourself but i still feel sorry for you. When a girl truly loves a guy, a discerning guy will know and you wont have been asking your woman if she really wanted you. This woman doesn't respect or love you and something tells me its already too late to correct things. You married a former runs girl, its a 50/50 thing some do change for the better while some usually miss the good old days. You see this runs thing is not as simple as people see it, In life there are some lines you don't cross and when you cross them you cant be the same person except repentance comes from within. That applies to murder or runs with married people. Once you eat the forbidden fruit, your eyes will open like EVE and you wont fear or hold somethings(Marriage institution) sacred again. That being said...... Its time you man up and stand your ground. What your woman is involved with is dangerous and you shouldn't treat it with Kid gloves, this issue may even take your life God forbid. Go and watch "fatal attraction" and "deadly women" on Discovery Channel,you will find stories of lovers who conspired to kill their mates. Dont complain about anything you tolerate man, God hates divorce same way God hates marital abuse in any form. Its not black and white ,there are always shades of grey. Protect your life and that of your kids. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Nobody: 12:30pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
wow!! that's life for you!Even when you give her double of her salary and a car,love, care etc she prefers that of his- ex. Marriage has thought that me that one man's meat is another man's poison. OP, i don"t have any advice to give you as this is opposite of what is happening in my home. spouse keeps and maintain chicks,comes back at late nights,does not spend any time with is wife and kids, but as soon as his pocket gets dry,thats when you know he cares and spend time at home with no money. But one thing he don't know is that other guys admire me so much, sometime i wish i did not marry him. But he should thank his God that am a godly woman, i believe there is consequences for every sin, and no sinner would go unpunished, and i wonder why God has not punished him yet, but i don't pray for such, because i love him so much, but not like what is doing to me. For keeping my virginity all through my uni days, when others were enjoying, as my mum would always say "keep your self so that God will give you a good husband" in my next life if there is, i will do all the "orishirish" winks!!! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Nobody: 12:45pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
@debby please protect yourself from STDS for the sake of your kids,it is well. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by goodheart4God: 1:57pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
Na wao things people face in marriage. I thought it is only women that face this ex issue not knowing men still face the same thing. Mine is the opposite of it, in such a way that hubby can spend his money on single girls buying them gifts. Spends have a fortune buying cards to call them and scratching them cards too. I feel he derives pleasure by simply talking to them. @poster I must tell you when they do this, there is nothing you can do to stop them only to pray for them. Now she passcode her phone because she knows that if she clears it, you will raise eye brow. I don't even know what to advice because hubby does similar thing and I don't even know how to handle it. I must tell you this act of disrespect on the part of spouses that behave this way, kills love and affection in marriage. Because at the tail end you will try to kill whatsoever you have for her, so that you wouldn't be hurt. I pray she wakes up one day to realise that what she does is hurting you and turn a new leave before she looses her home. People will advice that communicate in love or quarrel, my darling I will tell you it is only God's intervention that you need. no physical threats stops them, because most of them feels you wouldn't be able to carry out the threat. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by clever5680: 2:43pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
Dubby6: if na me i go jst calm down drain d ex of anything cash he has as d ex go calm down pour HIV into ur wife una go come incubate am 2 AIDS |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by dayokanu(m): 3:25pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
OP Some Women never respect good guys you need a tinge of badness in you. All those dinners, buy stuff, begging and talking needs to stop first thing get home and kick her out immediately call her family to come and move her And starting getting your own play too outside |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by 3nairalandcom: 4:41pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
Go to your rival's wife and ask for her hands out,tell her the reason that her husband is cheating on her and d victim is your wife |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Nobody: 4:51pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
coolsammy: thank u all for all ur advice and contribution so far. this is something that has really been bothering for sometime now. i hardly concentrate at work. took her out on many occasion to ask wat the problem was. asked her to tell me where i am not getting it right so i can make amends, promised to buy her anything if thats the problem. but she kept saying there is nothing btw them bt wouldnt stop flirting with him over phone, my wife nw password her phone so i wont just go into it on my own volition. i even collected the car keys frm her sometime, took away the kids frm her and locked her out for like days. her family interfare and pleaded on her behalf. Please read the hand-writing on the wall. I don't want to voice what i am thinking, because deep down, you already know whats-up. Another man who is not a relative but an ex-sugar daddy buys a car for your wife? Offered to rent an apartment for her during the few days separation during quarrel? And She still has the audacity to ask if you would not be offended if she accepts it? I mean really Like really?? |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by classicmusic: 5:40pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
mgbeketoto: See Mumu.. Incase u avnt noticed I spoke from experience. Buh seriously y are u dis dumb?God dint create anyone dumb or were u created by d devil? In case u cudnt read between d lines of what I wrote cos of ur empty brains(guess dats y ur parents married u off at an early age), I am married(Happily) wit a son.u just give ne d creeps wen I tink abt d fact dat u might endup giving ur huby a virus soon. Just maybe |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by blaise26abj(m): 6:07pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
Ibhamen: guy/madam, don't be surprised. Human beings atrocities have stopped bothering me. I'm fully desensitized. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by mgbeketoto: 6:31pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
classic music: CLASSIC DUNCE!!! Abeg stop TTTIARIN your paheint for anoda woman's rrrrrunzzzz! Oh gal don waka dey tia BLOKOS tey-tey left, right and center. You siddon for NL dey cry and DIE! When last did YOU get laid? Na efry barrrrry wanno die like ya MOTHER MARY AMAKA FOR DATI UNA YE-YE BIBLE aka ASSSSSHAWO GALILEE ATI BETHLEHEM? ABI YOU HIA SAY MUMU JOSEPH TOUCH HER SKANKY AZZZZZZZE AGAIN? De disease wey MARY catch (aka TOASTED AND ROASTED FAGGGGUT FRUIT OF THE ASSSSHAWO WOMB aka GADDAFFI DEDI-BODI-BASSSSTARD SAVIOR) from the HOLY GHOST BLOKOS during HER HOLY ASSSSHAWO work nor pass virus? Azzzzzzole!!! Jelosssssi!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Tundeiab(m): 6:57pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
coolsammy: @baby: yeah it is a true story. she is 30. it is wat i am passing thru right nowI know one thing for sure, most women value time spent with them above money and gifts. Seems you don't spend enough time with her. Lemme also advice that you work more on your sex life. Try to seat her down to really find out what she finds attractive in her ex make necessary amendment work on ur self in those areas. Thanks! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by obicentlis: 8:08pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
@ Op, I have seen this kinda situation. I know somebody that's close to me that's very close with his 'exes' , reason being that he was very good to them when they were friends. Even at the level that one of his ex who resides abroad, is building a 12 flats estate through this guy without letting her own family know or even her husband's family. Even his husband isn't aware of the investment. This guy manages her account in Nigeria. If this guy needs money, he will call 3 of his ex, and they will furnish his account which he will later pay back . But this guy has nothing to do with his exes intimately. They way he treated them and how responsible he was during their time influences their friendship now. Its possible that nothing is going on between them. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by greatgod2012(f): 8:54pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
How come i missed this thread! No thanks to a very busy schedule of mine! @op, what your wife is doing is a total disrespect to your marriage of highest order, even, if she is the bread winner, i dont believe she should be doing all these to your face, in my own opinion, she doesnt have any iota of respect for you and she doesnt deserve your respect either. Call her firmly and state your terms and conditions for her for the last time, if she still want to remain in the marriage. If she adheres, forgive and forget, if she persists, try plan B, ie, give her an ultimatum, tell her to choose between you and her ex, tell her not to push you to the wall, ask her how she will feel, if the table is turned around and you are the one who is keeping in contact with your ex girlfried. When respect is lost in a marriage, there is nothing left. I dont play with mutual respect at all, its one of the rope that binds marriage together. Its always advisable to do unto others what you want them do unto you. Marriage is union, a relationship, it takes the effort of the two parties involved to make it work, any attempt made by one party to make it work without the reciprocating effort of the other party is just a waste of time and a futile effort. One more thing, I see a "longerthroat" woman here. And that is also a sign that shes a wrong woman to be married to. However, it is not over until you win, talk, pray and believe the originator of marriage to heal your marriage. And so i confess that it shall be well with your marriage once again. Amen. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by biolabee(m): 10:05pm On Aug 28, 2013 |
wetin person no go hear for this land.... nice insight but your story is different In this case the wifey wants to get gifts from the ex while the ex is d one collecting from the wifeys in your own case na wa ooo.... triple lovaboy obicentlis: @ Op, I have seen this kinda situation. I know somebody that's close to me that's very close with his 'exes' , reason being that he was very good to them when they were friends. Even at the level that one of his ex who resides abroad, is building a 12 flats estate through this guy without letting her own family know or even her husband's family. Even his husband isn't aware of the investment. This guy manages her account in Nigeria. |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by simpleseyi: 4:05am On Aug 29, 2013 |
This woman will get pregnant for her boyfriend and you will spend your life savings to bring up bastards. You call him ex but he is not ex because he is still her boyfriend. I am sorry if I am intruding on your privacy, but, I don't know why most cool guys like you end up marrying runs girls, I know that runs guys will never marry runs girls. Your wife was and is till a runs girl, you can't satisfy her because it has become a habit. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by funnyx(m): 7:06am On Aug 29, 2013 |
obicentlis: @ Op, I have seen this kinda situation. I know somebody that's close to me that's very close with his 'exes' , reason being that he was very good to them when they were friends. Even at the level that one of his ex who resides abroad, is building a 12 flats estate through this guy without letting her own family know or even her husband's family. Even his husband isn't aware of the investment. This guy manages her account in Nigeria. Wonder shall never end |
Re: My Wife And Her Ex- by Nobody: 10:39am On Aug 29, 2013 |
coogar:u summed it up |
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