tngtech:

@sistawoman

You don't expect everyone to be like you.

No i dont. The only person i expect to be like me is my king. He understands how i am and what i am like and that is why he is my king.

sistawoman:

No i don't. The only person i expect to be like me is my king. He understands how i am and what i am like and that is why he is my king.

good

I support Silent Treatment anyday.

@topic

both of them r useful,because sometimes its important in life


but anyways i go for silent treatment

None. To me, both are immature and they only make the tension longer than it has to be. I'd rather have let's-sit-down-and-talk.

I don't use either,

I'd speak my mind, u have one chance to listen. . .  if u don't, na u sabi.

when I'm fed up, I walk!

@hotness and Stephen

Are you saying you have never given or received this type of treatment??

I dont know how to keep a grudge or nag. . . I dont have the patience

Well sometimes the silent treatment comes about when you dont want to say the wrong thing out of anger. So you silence yourself until you calm down. It just happens that this ends up having an effect on your mate.

nalijah07:

Well sometimes the silent treatment comes about when you don't want to say the wrong thing out of anger. So you silence yourself until you calm down. It just happens that this ends up having an effect on your mate.

I guess. .

but I dont know how to keep things inside, esp if I'm angry, I gotta spk out. . . if he's willing to listen we probably can come to some form of agreement.

I wont ever mention it again and I'd let it go

When I don't have anything nice to say, I tend to keep my mouth shut. Works out well that way

what if u dont have nice thots, u keep all that negativity inside?

i wont survive it, it eats me up from the inside. . . better for me to let it be known, helps be get over it

None of the above abeg. . . I no need any drama

Sometimes you will say the wrong things while "letting it all out"

sometimes i just cant hold it back,if i do its like my whole body is going to tear into two,maybe its because im hot tempered

@Chika

Yes exactly.

Hotness have you ever regretted saying something out of anger?

@ nalijah07

I don't say things out of anger, not anymore. . .  i try to say what I feel and why i feel it. I'm very passionate so when i get angry i feel like killing someone, I figured that rather than let out angry words, its better to try and explain what i'm feeling and why. ,   helps me calm down and helps whoever to understand whats going on inside me.

If I'm angry, i say I'm angry and I say why, I don't call people names unnecessarily or attack people without proof. . . even then I try to explain why I'm upset. It doesnt always work because words can always be interpreted differently, but the idea really is to not say what I am unsure about or I'd regret it. And when i do say angry words, I have to be sure that i mean them

@Hotness
Well, I'm glad you don't fly off the handle.

nalijah07:

@Hotness
Well, I'm glad you don't fly off the handle.

I fly oh, but in a coded way

Naggin. . .where have I heard that before?

I have always said that story is the fabric of life. SILENCE is more effective. Read the tale of mother fox and mother duck, there is wisdom in it.

You can express your anger without nagging or exceeding the limit - make your point and identify with it, Finish!

Eyin Nlers, ewa wo awan yeye okunri yi

4Her:

Naggin. . .where have I heard that before?

from yourself.

because nagging is mostly woman aspect of life.

BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

jintujinta:

BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

hehehehe

The bible says it is better to stay on a corner of your rooftop than to live with a nagging wife(proverb 25:24), it also says somewhere else (in same provrrbs) that the words/voice of a nagging wife is like a tap going drip; drip; drip! (paraphrased).

Nagging is awful! the person just gets labelled "alatenumo iya aje" (nagger, mother of a witch) or smthin like that.
plus, i never heard of a nagging woman whose husband was ever eager to get home, or stay at home,

silent treatment? half the time it doesnt work. men n their notorious ego, it puts them on the defensive and they HATE being on the defensive!!

HR.hotness:

what if u don't have nice thoughts, u keep all that negativity inside?

i wont survive it, it eats me up from the inside. . . better for me to let it be known, helps be get over it

I totally agree with HR.hotness. wots the point-he's peacefully sleeping and i cant cos im busy stewing? no way jose. na so high B.P and gallstones dey start!

if he's the one giving me silent treatment, i'll ask him 1ce, 2ce 3ce, nicely. if he says nothing, ill ignore. when he gets tired of sulking and he's ready to talk, he'll know where to find me.

jintujinta:

BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

wot, u be wife-beater??

jintujinta:

BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

Sounds like you need a reservation at the local jail. I will happy to make one for you if you like.

sistawoman:

Sounds like you need a reservation at the local jail. I will happy to make one for you if you like.

haba

tngtech:

from yourself.

because nagging is mostly woman aspect of life.

& plz do tell, what is mostly a man's aspect of life?

4Her:

& plz do tell, what is mostly a man's aspect of life?

you guess.

tngtech:

you guess.

You'll not be able tot ake it. . .let's just say cheating is one of them