infonubia:
All types of abuse, be it physical or verbal, stigmatizes the victim. You can imagine what these kids go through. Another lesson here is for parents to be a part of their children's life. Continually reminder their kids how important the children are. This will hopefully build self confidence. Also, be sure keep stay abreast of what's going on in your children's life.

Okija_juju: May God forgive me for what I did to Oghenero in School.. I gave that boy 6 years of hell.


Anybody who says that bullying does not affect Nigerian Kids is dead wrong.
I and my crew once verbally bullied a boy (a new Transfer) in secondary school so bad that he tried everything including fighting us to make us stop but it didnt work because I was stronger than him physically. I recall him bringing his mother to school to beg us to stop to no avail. I remember the principal punishing me and my crew so bad one time and it only encouraged us.. The kid had to leave. And I never even knew his name..

I hope he is okay though.. I use to call him E'ze Mmuo (cos he had the most fuc'ked dentition in the world).. Everybody started calling him E'ze Mmuo because of me..

Bullying is bad..
I was the chief verbal Bully in sec school..


I pray Karma does not visit my sins on my kids.. [/b]

Sweetlemon:

As for the bullying part, most internet bullies here on NL for instance are actually victims of bullying themselves in their real worlds. Most of them are introverts and this may have been as a result of not being accepted by their peer groups, thereby making them to crawl into their shells and spend all their time online.

Deschil: YES, YES & YES!!! I gave up when I saw the posts on here! It is NOT the same thing...how many of you have had naked pictures of yourself posted on Facebook and twitter and had everyone in your school see them and burst into laughter as you walked into school That is a simple example of the KIND of bullying that goes on...

gboss4sure: This american kids self. American parents should register their children in a Nigerian school for one term so that they will pass through the mind training stage and bullying stage which will make them immune to bully.

Unpon all the igbo, youroba, hausa bashing on NL, no one has commited sucide, Nigerians experience bullying right from the nurse that help give birth to them to the secondary school, the everyday life in Nigeria one must come across some type of bullying, if not agbero drivers abusing themselves and their mothers, it will be the policeman or woman wanting to collect roger or that army man wanting to show off his power.

Deschil: YES, YES & YES!!! I gave up when I saw the posts on here! It is NOT the same thing...how many of you have had naked pictures of yourself posted on Facebook and twitter and had everyone in your school see them and burst into laughter as you walked into school That is a simple example of the KIND of bullying that goes on...

Pace$etter:
Abeg no mind them. If they criminalise bullying then most children who live in face me slap you should have been forgotten in jail. I remember in pry school when i was beaten at least 5 times in a week and the remaining two means daddy isnt around. I remembered the day i was beaten and blood came from my eyes. Did i died? Did i commit suicide? Infact it made me stronger. Waking up at midnight to be beaten in the school. I just look back and laugh. Remebered beating somebody and he cant even eat during easter just because he wanted to use our bowl for ball. I just laugh it off now when i think of it.

Pace$etter:
Abeg no mind them. If they criminalise bullying then most children who live in face me slap you should have been forgotten in jail. I remember in pry school when i was beaten at least 5 times in a week and the remaining two means daddy isnt around. I remembered the day i was beaten and blood came from my eyes. Did i died? Did i commit suicide? Infact it made me stronger. Waking up at midnight to be beaten in the school. I just look back and laugh. Remebered beating somebody and he cant even eat during easter just because he wanted to use our bowl for ball. I just laugh it off now when i think of it.

Ishilove:
You are lucky the boy didn't come from my family. My brothers would have simply organised all the weed smoking thugs in the area to beat shege out of you and your crew. No one ever messed with us. I come from a family of Lions and Lionesses

My dear, No worry...

I didnt attend those porshe schools o!! Una for beat me which is fine, but shey you go change school after your brothers go, abi them go follow you dey come class?

Thinking of it now, Eze Mmuo's mother actually had tears in her eyes that day she came to school to plead with us to stop..

I'm truly ashamed of myself now that I think of it. She was an elderly woman and didnt even do the normal challenge or threats that most mothers would have done. She actually begged us to stop. Jesus!! I was one mean arsehole as a young lad sha..

I guess I picked on others because I didnt want others to pick on me. However, I got it bad in the University. I remember how my roomate once yabbed me so badly that I cried. People were laffing that day so hard that they were falling over each other. One boy actually choked on his own laughter.. #Warri Boys are not to be messed with..

victorv12: I'm laughing my 9ja laugh over this cyber-bullying news, It's funny. But African kids are worst off. We're being bullied at home and in school, which eventually on the long run causes psychological problems . The effect of our own bullying is even more dangerous than the ones in the west. They have psychiatric institutions to attend to their own case but in our own, that doesn't happen. Our own effect of bullying reflects when we are get older. We may not commit suicide, but we know how to oppress ourselves with bitterness.

That's why we have a leader that can buy Two amoured BMW cars at once to protect herself. Our own bullying generates into greed, bitterness, heartlessness, oppression and so many ish I can't find words for. Our bullying piles up, that's why our leaders left us conveniently to live in darkness. Most of our leaders are still psychologically traumatized till date because of the teenage or juvenile delinquency they went through in the past. What make stowaway kid wanted to flee the country?! The boy must be put under psychological check 24-7 till the age of 25... As long that boy is still in Nigeria, he will always want to flee! Our own bullying is more pathetic than the ones in the west, that's why we have bullies has leaders that torment us day and night. And the bitterness most Nigerians are carrying presently is worst than the ones in the west...it must trickle-down...It's a cycle!

jp philips:


NO YOU DEATH


How did they get your Naked picture? even in some Nigerian boarding schools, they do w@nk!ng competition where the whole gangs gather to test who has the longest expulsion, who cares if you are taking pictures? it used to be a thing of pride.
there were no phones during our own time and camera was still a luxury so i cant say how one may feel at the time, however, for Nigerian kids, it will be difficult to torment them with such, save for the ajebota.

sadly, na the kpako guys they marry the Ajebo girls.

Deschil: YES, YES & YES!!! I gave up when I saw the posts on here! It is NOT the same thing...how many of you have had naked pictures of yourself posted on Facebook and twitter and had everyone in your school see them and burst into laughter as you walked into school That is a simple example of the KIND of bullying that goes on...

davidylan:

I completely disagree with you. Its quite funny to claim that the reason nigerian's are much tougher emotionally is because we have been bullied and beaten down by the government and the society. There are far so many factors and top of them is:

1. The complete and utter lack of a line of authority in American schools. Children here are able to say and do things that we would have found unthinkable as kids... we had teachers and parents to fear... in the US they fear nothing.

2. Proliferation of social media - unlike 1992, kids in schools today spend more than 90% of their time behind a screen of some kind. Nairaland is an example of how being able to hide behind a screen can turn a timid mouse into the loudest lion. Children in the US no longer have the opportunities we had to play outside and TRULY socialize with their friends and neighbours. Today it is all about how many likes you can garner on facebook and how many followers you have on twitter. Back in the day we had REAL friends, today American kids have lists of faceless goons.

3. Medication - As a kid, the only drugs i knew were panadol and chloroquine. Today our kids are drugged up from birth till death. Why wont their brain chemistry be different?

4. Glorification of suicide victims - A kid kills himself and what does the American society do? Plaster their photos all over, hold 1000-man candle-light vigils while calling them the meekest lambs on earth (even by those who only knew them as a screen name). Unfortunately, US kids have learnt that one of the best ways to gain notoriety is to kill yourself. In naija, the mere fear of bringing shame to your family by killing yourself is enough deterrent.

Lastly, before we start spouting away thoughtlessly, let us take a trip down memory lane just 50 yrs ago. How many american kids were killing themselves then? Where was the bullying? Was the country beating down their psyche then?

Sweetlemon:

Actually, you are very wrong.
Victims of rape over here don't just put on their panties and walk away as if nothing happened. The only reason why they keep mum is because they are scared of the stigma associated with rape over here and being blamed for the rape! Of course a rape victim here will not commit suicide, but you cannot even begin to start to imagine the trauma she will go through afterwards. The empty feelings, the feeling of being haunted, that helpless feeling you get when you wish there was something you could have done to stop it, that had-I-known feeling, that maybe-I'm-only-good-enough-for sex feeling you get when you wonder why you were raped. This can pyschologically affect a rape victim so badly that it destroys her self esteem and a woman without herself esteem is better off dead, I tell you!
As for the bullying part, most internet bullies here on NL for instance are actually victims of bullying themselves in their real worlds. Most of them are introverts and this may have been as a result of not being accepted by their peer groups, thereby making them to crawl into their shells and spend all their time online.

Contrary to what you think, Nigerians are NOT strong people. We are NOT happy people. We only like to pretend that all is well and because we are religious, and we believe in miracles, it gives us the hope for a better tomorrow. If you want to test how frustrated an average Nigerian is, step on someone's toes in a crowded bus stop during a fuel scarcity period.

Okija_juju:


My dear, No worry...

I didnt attend those porshe schools o!! Una for beat me which is fine, but shey you go change school after your brothers go, abi them go follow you dey come class?

Thinking of it now, Eze Mmuo's mother actually had tears in her eyes that day she came to school to plead with us to stop..

I'm truly ashamed of myself now that I think of it. She was an elderly woman and didnt even do the normal challenge or threats that most mothers would have done. She actually begged us to stop. Jesus!! I was one mean arsehole as a young lad sha..

I guess I picked on others because I didnt want others to pick on me. However, I got it bad in the University. I remember how my roomate once yabbed me so badly that I cried. People were laffing that day so hard that they were falling over each other. One boy actually choked on his own laughter.. #Warri Boys are not to be messed with..

troy20:
bt it hardened me up.i became murderous on any percievd inferior or even superior then.

Okija_juju:


My dear, No worry...

I didnt attend those porshe schools o!! Una for beat me which is fine, but shey you go change school after your brothers go, abi them go follow you dey come class?

Thinking of it now, Eze Mmuo's mother actually had tears in her eyes that day she came to school to plead with us to stop..

I'm truly ashamed of myself now that I think of it. She was an elderly woman and didnt even do the normal challenge or threats that most mothers would have done. She actually begged us to stop. Jesus!! I was one mean arsehole as a young lad sha..

I guess I picked on others because I didnt want others to pick on me. However, I got it bad in the University. I remember how my roomate once yabbed me so badly that I cried. People were laffing that day so hard that they were falling over each other. One boy actually choked on his own laughter.. #Warri Boys are not to be messed with..