ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

Kennedyiheme: I just hope u don't dream for a man like peter okoye, or wizkid, because you are not their type, jst as you said we shld go for ladies of our class, u shld also nt wish for a. Wealthy man.....no be only women likw good tin

ogugua88:

That one sentence is part of the bigger picture. I'm wondering why people only got finances from his post when I saw way more.

A relationship has elements of both a partnership and a trade off. One partner has his strengths and flaws as does the other. Yes, they work together but there are also some things one partner can't do and vice versa. Isn't it why some African men like for a wife who can cook? Because they can't cook. Isn't it why some African women look for wealthy men? Because they have no desires to sustain themselves money wise. It doesn't have to be in terms of material or items either. Often times we hear of some guys being bull-headed, and women being the voice of reason. It's often those differences that make people compliment one another.

Sam32: Too bad..did u bother to find out were d homeless guy compensated for his homelessness*
what to know a real man?He goes for what he wants not waitin ,evaluate d scale, daydreaming..Poof!

Paris-fran:
Nairaland and argument! Whether we like it or not, even a 10year old knows what social difference is all about. It has little to do with money. Will I date a homeless guy that sleeps under the bridge? Hell No! Even if Angel Gabriel tells me that in 20yrs he will be Governor of his state, I wont still date him. Anybody that has a hard time admitting certain truths about life is delusional and high of effective stupidity.

kpolli: Dumb post, so the guy should work hard to get a girl, while she gets the rich guy for free.... How is this unfair to women

So the guy gives while the girl receives

carefreewannabe:

If you are poor, you can try to get rich (or at least die tryin' ) BUT an ugly girl will remain ugly, there is little she can do.
Looking at it that way, life is fairer to men because they can do something for success whereas women depend on how good mother nature equipped them.

(I don't believe it's that simple BUT that is what crossed my mind when I read your comment.)

freecocoa: Its not that hard to look beautiful these days especially with all the makeup orisirisi everywhere and then there's plastic surgery if make up no fit help the girl cause.

Unluvable*:

thanks

, it was an innocent coincidence, you know i'll not spite you

freecocoa: Yeah well, I'm on team make-your-own-money.

I don't need no dude to be in the class I want.

obyrich: No wonder Sullivan Chime threw Clara to the thrash can where she belongs! Guys should chase girls that match their social status abi? So if a guy gets richer he should upgrade? Peter Okoye would have dumped many girls who were there for him when he had nothing to marry Lola who matches his present status. People like the Op would marry a second wife if they become super rich.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

alingo4life: I DECIDED TO WRITE THIS IN CAPITAL LETTERS..
I PITY THE OP.YES I PITY HER..WITH ALL SHE'S SAYING,BUT THE TIME SHE GETS TO 30 AND SHE HAS NO HUSBAND NA THEN SHE GO KNOW WETIN THEY HAPPEN..

COME TO THINK OF IT,NOBODY IS SAYING YOU SHOULD DATE AN IN-RESPONSIBLE GUY.NO,NOT AT ALL.AS FOR ME,AS LONG AS THE GUY IS RESPONSIBLE,HAS A JOB FOR THOSE ALREADY WORKING,KNOWNS WHAT HE WANTS IN LIFE,HE'S A GOAL-GETTER AND DETERMINED NOT THOSE WEY GO DEY USE MOUTH BUILD CASTLES FOR AIR,THEN YOU ARE GOOD TO GO..

AND AS FOR THOSE SCHOOLING OR THOSE THAT LEARN A TRADE OR THE OTHER,THE BOTTOM LINE IS THIS,IS THE GUY RESPONSIBLE?AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MONEY HERE..DOES HE KNOW WHAT HE WANTS IN LIFE?WHEN THE OP NOW STARTS SAYING UNLESS THE GUY WORKS HARD AND MAKES MUCH MONEY THAT'S WHEN HE SHOULD COME FOR HER..IT'S A PITY,YES A BIG PITY FOR AN LADY TO SAY THIS..

IT PUZZLES ME WHEN YOU SEE SOME GIRLS SAY THE ONLY GUY THEY CAN DATE IS NOTHING BUT A BIG-BOY,THEN I ASK THEM THIS QUESTION,DON'T YOU HAVE ELDER BROTHERS?SHE SAID SHE DOES,AND YET HER BROTHERS ARE BUNCH OF UNIVERSITY GRADUATES WITH LITTLE OR NO JOBS.AND BY THE WAY,DO YOU THINK THE SO-CALLED BIG-BOYS WOULD EVER MARRY YOU?LAILAI..WE GUYS KNOW WHAT WE WANT.I HAD A DISCUSSION WITH A LADY THE OTHER DAY AND I TOLD HER IMMEDIATELY I HAVE MUCH MONEY,I GET A CAR FOR EXAMPLE,AM GOING TO BLEEP SO MANY GIRLS,I WILL GET THEM IMPREGNATED AND TELL THEM TO ABORT THE BABY OR BABIES.. YES,ANY GIRL I COME ACROSS THEN WILL BE TREATED LIKE SHIT COS I KNOW THEY ARE DATING ME BECAUSE OF MY MONEY..WHILE MY NUMBER ONE,YES MY VERY OWN FUNMILOLA WOULD AND FOREVER BE MY PRINCESS.THE ONLY GIRL THAT BELIEVED IN ME WHEN THINGS WHERE ROUGH.THE ONLY WOMAN I CAN DO ANYTHING FOR,SO AM WORKING EXTREMELY HARD FOR HER AND OUR UN-BORN KIDS.,NOT SOME STUPID ASS-HOLES THAT LOOK AROUND FOR BIG BOYS

WE GUYS ARE NOT HAS CONFUSED AS YOU LADIES,WE KNOW WHAT WE WANT,WE ARE NOT FOOLS LIKE YOU.

AND BY THE WAY,U SITED THE CASE OF LOLA OMOTAYO,ISN'T SHE EVEN MUCH MORE OLDER THAN P-SQUARE..SHE'S 40 FOR GOODNESS SAKE..ABI NO BE SO?

ABEG MAKE WE HEAR WORD JARE..HAVEN'T YOU ASKED YOURSELF THE QUESTION,WHY DOES LADIES COMPLAIN OF NO SUITORS?ITS BECAUSE OF ISSUES LIKE THIS..YES LIKE THESE..WE ARE NOT FOOLS LIKE YOU..WE ARE NOT CONFUSED LIKE YOU..

MTCHEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

ironheart: you mean women are for sale? right? the man with the highest bid gets the girl. no wonder I see so many young women still unmarried at 35, by the way how old are you? well I hope you don't regret your post soon. the men with the least money loves there wifes the more, and cheat less. take a statistics, the men who cheat more are those with beautiful women, they won those women with money, money is disposable and trophies are meant for others to see. my one cent

ogugua88:

It's not about money.

DailyNews: I know this may come as a surprise to so many regular users of nairaland who think and believe that DailyNews is always against women and supporting guys, anyway, that's my own cross to bear, but I just couldn't withhold the truth after observing this ugly trend amongst guys of nowadays.

for some time now, I have observed something ugly in today's world, especially in Nigeria, and I think Nigerian guys aren't saint by the day, how? Read on...

You are a guy with less than 100thousand naira savings in your bank account, and maybe u are also a student, an unemployed or under-employed graduate or even a school drop out, you are not handsome, not intelligent and not in any viable business or life train...but you want a girl like Kim Kardashian or let me say, Juliet Ibrahim to date u and also love u with all her heart, how and why?

In life, u must have something relative to offer to the other party if u want to be valued and treated like a king.

Most guys of nowadays don't cut their coats according to their length...they want a very pretty girl that's also fashionable and they don't even have anything to offer to her besides unnecessary sms and phone calls, and highest, sex.

Come on guys, be realistic, nothing good in life comes free, and if u get one free pls be watchful and tread cautiously.

If u want a hot girl, then try and be a hotter guy, simple!

You saw Peter of Psquare's wife, Omolola right? You want a girl pretty like her? Then work hard like Psquare and stop daydreaming.

Why should a very pretty girl agree to date and love u if I may ask?

Even if she accepts u out of pity or whatever u guys call it, believe me u are in for it if u don't up your game ASAP!
For instance, an ugly poor guy is permitted to dream of having a very pretty hot girlfriend but a beautiful girl is not permitted to wish or publicly declare her love or desire for rich guys, uh uh...that's really unfair guys!

We want girls to look very pretty, sexy and trendy, and we also want to date them for free and still expect them to keep looking cute and being faithful to us becos we are King Solomon without a palace

We guys don't want girls to cheat but we are cheats ourselves and not planning to change...jeez! Life is really unfair to women, I can feel your pains, sighs.

I just felt like telling u guys this for once pls...if u want a very beautiful and hot girl like the ones u see on billboards or on TVs or wherever, then work hard to make yourself a desired man and stop complaining of heartbreak and turn downs pls...cos it won't change anything, so get busy and stop wasting your limited time online chasing girls and daydreaming in the hope of getting a hot girl for free online.

And to the girls...this isn't a backup pls...if u want a rich guy yourself, then try and make yourself worthy for one...cos so many hotter girls are out there to snatch him away from u, that's the reality of our today world!

Goodnight all

Adikam: Op.i want to tel you dat u re a very big fool ever believe me

Iaz93: ROTFL

ogugua88:

It's not about money.