Love is something that sometimes cant be explain, she is happily married right now, so let us encourage her.

gabe_logan:

i don't intend to personally attack you but vows can be broken without any serious consequence on the vow taker so taking a vow amounts to nothing.

any man that will takes the word of a woman (especially when she says that the man is the only one or she will never cheat) should consider the womans word. a womans feelings for a man can change at the drop of a hat (especially when it involves the mans financial situation) and when it does, the next thing they do is to cheat.

besides you are african-american, that speaks a lot by itself

Yep and you are definitely Nigerian, it not only speaks for itself. . . it screams!

I'm talking about the cheating, debo, not that she got a divorce

*shrugs* whatever

KarmaMod:

What vow would I be making at 17? Who gets married at 17 anyway?

Anyway MY point was/is that Never say Never. Like I mentioned, I'm sure you said the same thing about your marriage to your first husband about no one ever getting you away from him, etc but it happened. Not saying it will happen with this recent marriage but who knows and really I don't see what age has to do with anything

The truth is i should have never married my first husband.  He was my stand by guy and i really did love him but was not in love with him.  I wanted out of foster care and wanted to be grown.  Everyone around us was telling us this was not going to work and that we were too young.  I wanted to prove everyone wrong

Stupid i know but what can you tell a teenager who thinks they are in love.  There were lots of really bad reasons why i married him and stayed for so long.  But you live and you learn.

sistawoman:

The truth is i should have never married my first husband. He was my stand by guy and i really did love him but was not in love with him. I wanted out of foster care and wanted to be grown. Everyone around us was telling us this was not going to work and that we were too young. I wanted to prove everyone wrong

Stupid i know but what can you tell a teenager who thinks they are in love. There were lots of really bad reasons why i married him and stayed for so long. But you live and you learn.

Dont mind them, we all make mistakes and the good thing is that u have learnt from it and would be able to apply all the knowledge now, good sis.

sistawoman:

The truth is i should have never married my first husband.  He was my stand by guy and i really did love him but was not in love with him.  I wanted out of foster care and wanted to be grown.  Everyone around us was telling us this was not going to work and that we were too young.  I wanted to prove everyone wrong

Stupid i know but what can you tell a teenager who thinks they are in love.  There were lots of really bad reasons why i married him and stayed for so long.  But you live and you learn.

that is y no matter what we should always think before taking any drastic steps in life


but like rhino said ,we all make mistakes,but d issue  does not lie wt d mistake makin,but rather is------------will u ever learn from them?im sure u already have

SiSi, just read your post. Psycho

anyway I'm just saying the divorce should have been before the cheating. Mistake marriage or not but I wish you well in this one either way

KarmaMod:

SiSi, just read your post. Psycho

anyway I'm just saying the divorce should have been before the cheating. Mistake marriage or not but I wish you well in this one either way

That is absoulutly true. Hind sight is 20/20

lol

KarmaMod:

I'm talking about the cheating, debo, not that she got a divorce
*shrugs* whatever

cheating, marriage, divorce - all serious good/bad decisions with far reaching consequences - something a 17 year old is incapable of making properly anyways.

Married women will get toasted, that is a given - some men will chase you no matter what, the ring even gives some more impetus to chase, since she's married she won't want to demand too much time and attention. There are so many warped reasons why people would do this, but none good enough to excuse such actions.

The end result may lead to the marriage being stronger, but often times leads to divorce.

Debosky, that was well said.

I''m still waiting for gabe_logan to clarify his statment concerning african americans.

relationships afterwards are always painful- experienced.

simplejide:

relationships afterwards are always painful- experienced.

mind to explain better?

@ topic

When I get married i still want to be toasted. Any man who fails to do as I wish will be flogged to death!

michelin89:

@ topic

When I get married i still want to be toasted. Any man who fails to do as I wish will be flogged to death!

remind me to warn ur husband when u get married

$$Rhino:

remind me to warn your husband when u get married

Warn him over what?

since naturally d men`s actions a where a woman is concerned is controlled by their sight, u`ll wont blame them for toasting a sexy married lady(its just natural), but the most important thing is how the woman responds to these advances.

that you will flog any man that refuse to toast you now.

syke80:

since naturally d men`s actions a where a woman is concerned is controlled by their sight, u`ll wont blame them for toasting a sexy married lady(its just natural), but the most important thing is how the woman responds to these advances.

Every woman wanna be celebrated and not tolerated, so u bet most ladies will respond to the advances, lead the man on, but might not sleep with him sha, but all ladies enjoy being toasted

$$Rhino:

that you will flog any man that refuse to toast you now.

He might assist if he wishes! The show is free!

nalijah07:

I''m still waiting for gabe_logan to clarify his statment concerning african americans.

Still waiting. Gabe_logan how can you drop a line like that and not clearify it?

@sistawoman

u said u r Africa America,is it dat u r a mixed blood of both an african and a white,or both parents r black americans

I have mixed blood.

My father is Italian/English

My mother is Black(direct decedents of slaves)/American Indian
My grandmother was a feed slave, my moms folks are all from King George VA

There is just a whole bunch going on inside of me.

married women are more experienced in the matters a man enjoys the most. thats why.

Pardon me, but there used to be one and only one Sista that I know of on NL. Is this thesame Sista who's changed to Sistawoman or someone else?

someone else

segzi cres:

married women are more experienced in the matters a man enjoys the most. thats why.

and what are the matters that a man enjoy most

sistawoman:

I have mixed blood.

My father is Italian/English

My mother is Black(direct decedents of slaves)/American Indian
My grandmother was a feed slave, my moms folks are all from King George VA

There is just a whole bunch going on inside of me.

Mmmh, exotic. Orishirishi; Iri iri; mixed grill.

Proper citizen of the world. Very American!

sistawoman:

I have mixed blood.

My father is Italian/English

My mother is Black(direct decedents of slaves)/American Indian
My grandmother was a feed slave, my moms folks are all from King George VA

There is just a whole bunch going on inside of me.

your mother is american indian or she's black? i'm lost.

HCH3COO:

your mother is american indian or she's black? i'm lost.

she is both.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! She meant half-and-half.