So many guys are caught up in this
pornography and it really just not only
saps your sex drive, but also actually
saps your motivation in your drive to go out and meet women in general,
independent of your sex drive. Now
most guys are watching porn and it’s
really going to hold them back in their
lives. The reason is, two reasons that I want to
go into: Number one, is something called
hedonic adaptation. Hedonic Adaptation Hedonic adaptation is where your brain
grows accustomed to new titillating
stimulation and eventually, that titillating
stimulation has less and less effect, so
that it doesn’t really have as much
punch as it used to the first, second or third time. For example, back in the early 1900s, if
a man saw a woman’s ankles, he would
get blown away. He is really turned on.
To see a woman’s ankles was very
titillating. Because women wore long,
long dresses that covered up her legs, covered up her feet, and covered up
their ankles. Woman would basically lift
up her dress like this, to show on the
ankle and that was amazing. But today you see ankles and legs on
television. You see women’s ankles and
legs out on the streets. So it has no
titillating effect on you anymore. Instead, what men find titillating are
breasts. Breasts are that titillating thing.
But if you go down to a nude beach
down in South Florida, for example, you
see a bunch of naked breasts and at first
you are like, “Wow! This is amazing!” Your brain is getting overload
stimulation. “I never saw so many
breasts before!” But after, actually, just
a couple hours your brain adapts. It’s not
as stimulatory and titillating. After a few
days of going to the same beach it is going to seem normal. Breasts are
normal. So your brain adapts; i.e.
Hedonic adaptation. Hedonic Adaption in Watching Porn Now bringing this into porn, for example,
let’s say you discover your perfect 10
porn. You discover the perfect girl and
you think, “Wow! This girl is so amazing!
So awesome! I could just jerk it to this
one girl for the next year. I don’t even have to go look for other porn!” But what happens is after a couple days
of getting off to the same girl, even
though she was your perfect 10, let’s
say she was a tall blonde, now are you like, “I need to see some Hispanic girls, I
need to see some black girls”. So
actually, after a couple of days, you get
bored with the same porn star even if
she was amazing. That’s hedonic
adaptation. Or let’s say you develop or collect this
big ultimate porn collection- the best
porn you have ever discovered and you
just collect it. What happens? You never
really go back and watch that collection.
You never go back into the archives or anything. You are always looking for
new stimulation. Because, no matter how good the porn
was, your brain adapts quickly to that
titillating experience. You need
something new. You need something
more. So what happens is that your
brain is accustomed to constantly getting new girls, new stimulation from
pornography. And when you go out and
meet real girls on the street, club or bar,
wherever it is, the girls are not as
titillating. They’re not really sexy. They’re not
what you would really want them to be
and only the super fine 10s can even get
you motivated or inspired. So what
happens is your brain adapts to these
hypersexual girls in porn and then when you see real women in real life, you are
just not that motivated. What happens is
you go out, you see normal girls but you
don’t feel that motivated. You’re like, “Yeah, I should go talk to
her, I should go talk to that one, I should
do this, I should do that…” But you don’t
really have that drive that forces you to
go do it, because your brain is not
getting stimulated by regular girls. So you think, “I will just go back home and
watch some porn; Get that stimulation”.
So that’s one way that saps your drive. The Chocolate Cake Analogy Another way that porn, really, can sap
your drive is I am going to use an
analogy with chocolate cake i.e.
grandma’s chocolate cake. Grandma
makes chocolate cake for you every
week. It’s delicious chocolate cake. It’s grandma’s chocolate cake. So every week you put on some nice
clothes, you get into your car, you drive over to grandma’s house, you say hello
to grandma, you talk to grandma, she
pulls out the chocolate cake, you take
the fork, you put the fork into the cake,
you put it up to your mouth and
“Mmm….!”- Grandma’s chocolate cake is delicious. Now your buddy says to you, “Look I
have got this awesome machine. You
can have all the chocolate cake you
want; you can have all the desserts. In
fact, you just hook up this machine,
these two wires to your brain and it will give you the stimulation of eating
desserts”. So with this machine, you can press a
button and you are getting chocolate
cake stimulated to your brain. It feels
like you’re really experiencing chocolate
cake… but directly to the to the pleasure
center of your brain! Then you hit another button and now you can get
pumpkin pie. And you hit another button
and 30 seconds later you can get ice
cream and hit another button 30
seconds later you can feel like getting
chocolate chip cookies, the most mouth savoring delicious chocolate chip
cookies you’ve ever eaten. And say, you just get desert pleasure for
two weeks, non-stop. And what’s great about this machine is
that you don’t have to even expend any
time or effort to get the pleasure. You don’t even have to you put your fork
down, up to your mouth and chew. You
have to expend calories to do that. You
don’t have to go drive to the store,
expend gas or pay money for gas. You
get it all instantly from this machine. So what happens? After two weeks of doing using the
machine, Grandma calls you up and says
to you, “Hey! Sunny, come on over and
eat some chocolate cake with me”. So you think to yourself, “I should spend
some time with grandma. I should eat
some real chocolate cake. I should go
over there and do my obligation”. But
you’ve got to get dressed. You’ve got to
get inside the car. You’ve got to buy some gasoline. You’ve got to go over to
grandma. You’ve got to say hello. It’s a
big production, you think to yourself. You don’t feel that motivated to do it. It
just starts to feel like a hassle.
Especially, since you had this machine
and since you can get the stimulation
right to your brain instantaneously…
AND it even tastes BETTER than grandma’s chocolate cake. Because in
this machine they had some sciences
design what was the perfect tasting
chocolate cake for you. So you just don’t feel like going to see
grandma. It’s not fun anymore because
the simulation of the machine is more
fun. How Porn Kills Your Motivation To
Take Action So it’s the same way, same exact same
thing with the girls and porn. Basically
you jerk off to some porn and then you
just don’t feel the motivation that you
should to go out and meet REAL girls. You feel like, “Yeah, I should go out… I
should do this… I should do that… but I
can just get pleasure and stimulation
from watching pornography”. And even if you DO go out, then because
you have hedonic adaptation, the real
girls are not really stimulating you in the
same way, because you have been
seeing tons of naked bodies, tons of
naked girls in porn. You can’t control the fantasies exactly how you want. So
when you see the girl in the club it’s just
not as stimulating as it should be. The Short-Term Trap Of Watching
Porn Now here is really the trap of porn. In the very short-term, porn is
awesome! Let’s say an asteroid is going to hit the
earth and you have 30 minutes. Are you
going to be like, “Ah God, I got to meet
some real girls”? After all, you only have 30 minutes to
live. You’re not going to get laid in 30 minutes. If your outlook is 30 minutes from now,
porn is great. Because you can get a lot
of pleasure and a lot of stimulation from
porn. You can expend zero time and
effort to get that pleasure and
stimulation. The problem is that we tend to think
very short-term. We want the short term
payoff. So we’ll just watch porn. The problem is on the long-term. Let us
say, a 3 year timescale. Take Two Guys- One Who Watches
Porn, The Other Who Doesn’t… Take one guy that’s watching porn and
another guy that avoids porn. The guy
who just skips out on porn, maybe three
years from now he can have two or
three girlfriends. He’s gotten laid like 20
or 30 times. He is socially sharp from going out. And because he’s been
around girls, he feels that pressure on
himself to go the gym, to look nice, be
healthy, eat correctly, and have good
habits. Whereas the guy that just gives into the
easy temptation of porn, gives into the
quick stimulation of porn with no effort. He doesn’t feel that pressure to look
good. He doesn’t feel that pressure to eat
healthy or go to the gym. He doesn’t feel that pressure to be social
and be socially sharp. He’s not going to have any girls around
him. And he’s not going to have two or three
girlfriends. He is not going to be getting
laid. So three years from now; even
though there is a short-term payoff to
watching porn which traps you into
wanting to do it, over the long-term it’s a very negative habit. It’s really going to
hold you back. What About Cheat Days? The
Backsliding Problem Now you might be asking, “Jesse, what
about a cheat day? Can I have a cheat
day where once a week I watch porn? I
don’t do it very often, but I want to
watch a little porn here and there.” The problem with that is, you’ll watch
porn once and then it can be very easy
to backslide into that habit of watching it
day after day, two or three days in a
row, or worse. You get the stimulation one day and then
the next day you are like “I kind of want
to see that other girl. I didn’t quite finish
off to her”, so the second day you’re
back to it. It’s very easy to backslide into it if you
have cheat days. Cheat Days Aren’t For Champions Another issue with cheat days is, if you
want to be, for example, a great runner,
you want to do marathons and you want
to really excel at your hobby… then yes,
you CAN have a cheat day eating all you
can eat at McDonald’s every Saturday. But it’s not going to make you the best
marathon runner. Doing that cheat day is really going to
impinge on your results. If you want to get the best results out of
your hobby or out of your passion of
women, you don’t want to have that
cheat day of doing porn. You want to align all of your habits to be
good habits to give you the best results
you can get. You don’t want to be cheating with bad habits. You don’t want to be in the mindset that
pornography is a positive reward. You
want to see porn more like eating junk
food or smoking, where you want to just
avoid it completely. There’s really no
reason to do a cheat day.
source:www.seductionscience.com/2013/watching-porn-why-you-must-stop/

Hmmmm

Too da.mn long bro
Are u trying to write a book??
BTW hope ds makes front page

True... but ya write up is too long! Try and shorten it.Thanks

Guy..where d source dy cos i knw sey nah confirm *Copy And Paste*

I read it to the middle.... its really long buh I get ur point and I will escalate it to my man so he knows too.

Summary is dead

...no full stop, no comma, no paragraphs....seriously..I giv up!

Read it from the first word to d very last word.Its a brilliant write up.as for the punctuation ish...ignore the flaws and get the message its trying to pass across

Abeg who readam finish??

Copy and paste! Bullshiit

Either he copied and paste or he didn't.... just read the da.mn thing and stop whining.

Anybody who read it finish should brief me

mikeson12: Guy..where d source dy cos i knw sey nah confirm *Copy And Paste*

Yes. It's copy & paste. I realise that it'll help a lot of people. I av put the source

So yhu mean after seeing my girlfriend unclad for a month,I'll get tired??




Blindfolding thinx from today

-Mr Cork-:
...no full stop, no comma, no paragraphs....seriously..I giv up!

Winners never quit and quitters never win.

I really couldn't read the damm thing to the end. Expected a few paragraghs, not a whole book.

Good work educating the masses though.

Read it all, really interexting but one doesn't just stop watching porn. How many people will be willing to drop their indecency generators? e.g smart phones peopld are saying they can't do without for just one day.

Pls when d summarised edition is available,jst flash me..