Because shayman, i would win the arguement.

Yeah right, nawty u, lol

you know i would. all you guys do is go to work, come home, and lazy around the house.

@oyinye
*smiles* u wont win, i wld ve lovd 2 argue wiv u but unfortunately am so sleepy now and ma network's slow, see ya later!

onyinye2:

you know i would. all you guys do is go to work, come home, and lazy around the house.

That doesn't mean that we shut our minds off and stop thinking. Thinking and planning isn't easy work.

I'm sure there really wouldn't be much of a difference if women decided to keep their lives simple like men (I'm generalizing here). But whose to say that men don't have it harder than women? Whose to say that women have it harder than men? In my opinion, I think women only believe their lives to be harder simply because they choose to make it difficult.

ChinenyeN:

That doesn't mean that we shut our minds off and stop thinking. Thinking and planning isn't easy work.

I'm sure there really wouldn't be much of a difference if women decided to keep their lives simple like men (I'm generalizing here). But whose to say that men don't have it harder than women? Whose to say that women have it harder than men? In my opinion, I think women only believe their lives to be harder simply because they choose to make it difficult.

No one "chooses" a life of difficulty. It is just what ends up happening. While you "think and plan" your wife is cooking for today, planning for tomorrow. Cleaning for today, tiding up for tomorrow. Taking of the kids, making sure they are satisfied. Taking care of you, doing her job as a wife. Taking care of herself so she doesn't over stress herself. and make sure she does her job as a working parent too. And have to wake up and do it all over again.

Must she do all that alone? Remember, the saying. . . it takes a whole village to raise a child.

Too bad we don't live with a village. No she doesn't do it alone, but she does MOST of it. Yeah the husband helps here and there, but you and i both know it is the wife that carries most of the burden.

onyinye2:

Too bad we don't live with a village. No she doesn't do it alone, but she does MOST of it. Yeah the husband helps here and there, but you and i both know it is the wife that carries most of the burden.

*SHRUG* Alright. I guess that's the way it is. There really is no sense in arguing it. I see my mother do all of that here in the house. Yet, my father has his own fair share of work to do. I'd so that both my parents work equally in this house and bear basically the same amount of burden, but they bear each others burden together (at least, as much as the two genders can bear together that is).

Onyinye

Must we get femminist all the time?

michelin89:

Onyinye

Must we get femminist all the time?

Oh, let's not even get started on that one. That's a whole-nother (not a real word) issue.

ChinenyeN:

*SHRUG* Alright. I guess that's the way it is. There really is no sense in arguing it. I see my mother do all of that here in the house. Yet, my father has his own fair share of work to do. I'd so that both my parents work equally in this house and bear basically the same amount of burden, but they bear each others burden together (at least, as much as the two genders can bear together that is).

But you have to admit, your MOTHER does most of the work.

michelin89:

Onyinye

Must we get femminist all the time?

Me, feminist? Never.

ChinenyeN:

Oh, let's not even get started on that one. That's a whole-nother (not a real word) issue.

Not even an issue. Just realism.

ChinenyeN:

Oh, let's not even get started on that one. That's a whole-nother (not a real word) issue.

"long throat" wetin carry your head come here? Na you be Onyinye? Listen transgender just mind ya business this evening.

onyinye2:

Me, feminist? Never.

Ok sorry. Equal rights fighter. Haba wetin concern him mother and wetin she dey do with this topic?

michelin89:

Ok sorry. Equal rights fighter. Haba wetin concern him mother and wetin she dey do with this topic?

I was just proving a previous point.

No. I'd never admit to my mother doing most of the work when it comes to the work that my father does. Let me clarify something here. I'm under the assumption that we're discussing what each gender does in general. You seem to be talking about the work they do at home. If that's the case, then I agree that my mother does most of the work (a good 95% at least) in the house. Otherwise, if we compare what my dad does and what my mother does for the family, I'd say that they're about equal.

As for feminism. I know its reality. . . but in reality when it comes to discussing it, the discussion becomes an issue. At least, that's the way I see it.

@michelin89. . . I no sabi wetin you dey talk about. I am not Onyinye. . . haha.

onyinye2:

I was just proving a previous point.

Nor be every time you go dey discuss with these akpakos (nor ask me wetin e mean ooo).

ChinenyeN:

@michelin89. . . I no sabi wetin you dey talk about. I am not Onyinye. . . haha.

So next time nor answer question wey them nor ask you!

michelin89:

Nor be every time you go dey discuss with these akpakos (nor ask me wetin e mean ooo).

Oh michelin

ChinenyeN:

No. I'd never admit to my mother doing most of the work when it comes to the work that my father does. Let me clarify something here. I'm under the assumption that we're discussing what each gender does in general. You seem to be talking about the work they do at home. If that's the case, then I agree that my mother does most of the work (a good 95% at least) in the house. Otherwise, if we compare what my dad does and what my mother does for the family, I'd say that they're about equal.

As for feminism. I know its reality. . . but in reality when it comes to discussing it, the discussion becomes an issue. At least, that's the way I see it.

Oka let look at it generally. The wife takes cares of the house work with addition she has her own occupation. Then the husband has his occupation then does little to no housework. How can you compare?

In our house, yeah. I can compare, but that's our house. I'm pretty sure that what you're talking about Onyinye exists in other households, but it isn't like that in our house.

Who is "our"? Because i have seen a variety of families and somehow it just falls back to the Wife doing most of the work. It is how it is.

"Our" house; I'm referring to My nuclear family and I.

When it comes to cooking, we're all (with the exception of my dad, because he's always in the room doing work) helping my mother out cooking. We're always helping her clean. The only time she really does anything by herself is when she's at school teaching the kindergarteners and reading for her Ph.D. Even with the Ph. D. I even help her with some of her studies by typing her papers for her and helping her with reading/comprehension of some questions. She rarely works alone in this house. If anyone does work alone, its my father. Even then, I'm in the house doing small jobs for him such as mailing letters, typing letters, typing manuscripts, editing videos and music, paying bills etc. etc. The only thing he really does alone is teaching Business and Accounting at a nearby university and grading papers. So, our house here is different from most other households I know of and have seen.

"your" house is quite the exception. In the house i have seen and including my own, the mother did the most. Yeah we helped out, did what we could, but she still held most of the burden. Both of my parents worked and such. My father cooked only sometimes, while my mom cooked most of the time. My father didn't do much house work, while my mother and us did. He took care of everything else outside the home. But i still know that my mom did the most work. My father is a very caring man and did alot too though so don't get me wrong, but it was my mother would did the most.

Me? Never!!!

Ruby, aren't you a wee bit curious?

No, am not at all. even if I was, I have a specimen I can try my experiment on

onyinye2:

"your" house is quite the exception. In the house i have seen and including my own, the mother did the most. Yeah we helped out, did what we could, but she still held most of the burden. Both of my parents worked and such. My father cooked only sometimes, while my mom cooked most of the time. My father didn't do much house work, while my mother and us did. He took care of everything else outside the home. But i still know that my mom did the most work. My father is a very caring man and did alot too though so don't get me wrong, but it was my mother would did the most.

Okay. I understand what you're saying and I agree. Women (generally speaking) do bear most of the burden. That's why I am thankful that I came out as a male and I would never want to be in the place of a woman.

ChinenyeN:

Okay. I understand what you're saying and I agree. Women (generally speaking) do bear most of the burden. That's why I am thankful that I came out as a male and I would never want to be in the place of a woman.

Strangely i find that as a compliment and an insult. That is why i would accept the offer to switch places. It would be like a vacation from everyday life. Just go to work, pay bills, yada yada.

Compliment and an insult? How so?

Compliment in the sense you understand what most women go through on a day to day basis.
Insult in a sense when you were all "i would never want to be in the place of a woman". Sort of makes is sound like it is the worst thing or the worst job.

Oh. Well. . . I guess I can rephrase that. . . uh. . . I don't see the need to switch places with women. I already understand what they go through and understanding is enough for me to have compassion and do what I can do to make their jobs easier (at least those women/females around me).

How was that?

no because i have played that role for 16 years now it is my turn not to have to do anymore.

Much better but, no offense you will never[i] fully[/i] understand what a woman goes through. You can try to understand it but, you won't grasp it fully.

None taken. And I don't want to fully understand. Fully understanding means taking a walk in their shoes, which I'd rather not do. I'm more of the type of observer that watches and doesn't interfere. Life is much simpler that way.