topup:

Most people seem to hold the opinion that if you can master all these 'elements' - cooking, maintaining the house, sex, conversation,  a man will not want to cheat on you or will be satisfied.

I believe that this is not the case, just as much as I disagree with a point made by a poster saying that 'a man will always try to find better', can we say that every mistress is 'the perfect wife' NO. I believe most of them, are only able to master the element that the man is lacking in his existing relationship, so men who have wives who are great cooks, great conversation, good looking, leave them for a mistress who is grest in bed, or a wife who is great in bed, great cook, but leave them for a mistress who engages their minds.

Men want it all, and not just men, humans want it all, have our cakes and eat it.

Also, another point is the fact that a lot of people sometimes don't want to believe that they have found the 'best' out there for them, they would only be convinced if after a long tortorous search and many many relationships.

That is why a lot of relationships when we're young end, we still have the mentality that something better exists.

I have always thought that men by nature are always on a search to better themselves and to achieve the best, so sometimes they don't appreach the good or great, their eyes are always set on 'THE BEST' and generally, if you don't keep them on their toes forever, and the relationship starts to slip into pattern or familiarity, then it is very easy for them to believe that the grass is greener on the other side.

I believe as women, we can try and try to captivate a man's heart, but it all lies with ONE thing, a man will be captivated ONLY if he wishes to be, if he is willing to listen, work hard on a relationship, if he has realistic expectations and such. A man who has his criteria for the perfect wife, may never be captivate-able unfortunately.

ah dis is too long naaaa

topup:

Most people seem to hold the opinion that if you can master all these 'elements' - cooking, maintaining the house, sex, conversation, a man will not want to cheat on you or will be satisfied.

I believe that this is not the case, just as much as I disagree with a point made by a poster saying that 'a man will always try to find better', can we say that every mistress is 'the perfect wife' NO. I believe most of them, are only able to master the element that the man is lacking in his existing relationship, so men who have wives who are great cooks, great conversation, good looking, leave them for a mistress who is grest in bed, or a wife who is great in bed, great cook, but leave them for a mistress who engages their minds.

Men want it all, and not just men, humans want it all, have our cakes and eat it.

Also, another point is the fact that a lot of people sometimes don't want to believe that they have found the 'best' out there for them, they would only be convinced if after a long tortorous search and many many relationships.

That is why a lot of relationships when we're young end, we still have the mentality that something better exists.

I have always thought that men by nature are always on a search to better themselves and to achieve the best, so sometimes they don't appreach the good or great, their eyes are always set on 'THE BEST' and generally, if you don't keep them on their toes forever, and the relationship starts to slip into pattern or familiarity, then it is very easy for them to believe that the grass is greener on the other side.

I believe as women, we can try and try to captivate a man's heart, but it all lies with ONE thing, a man will be captivated ONLY if he wishes to be, if he is willing to listen, work hard on a relationship, if he has realistic expectations and such. A man who has his criteria for the perfect wife, may never be captivate-able unfortunately.

I agree.

topup:

Most people seem to hold the opinion that if you can master all these 'elements' - cooking, maintaining the house, sex, conversation, a man will not want to cheat on you or will be satisfied.

I believe that this is not the case, just as much as I disagree with a point made by a poster saying that 'a man will always try to find better', can we say that every mistress is 'the perfect wife' NO. I believe most of them, are only able to master the element that the man is lacking in his existing relationship, so men who have wives who are great cooks, great conversation, good looking, leave them for a mistress who is great in bed, or a wife who is great in bed, great cook, but leave them for a mistress who engages their minds.

Men want it all, and not just men, humans want it all, have our cakes and eat it.

Also, another point is the fact that a lot of people sometimes don't want to believe that they have found the 'best' out there for them, they would only be convinced if it comes after a long tortorous search and many many relationships.

That is why a lot of relationships when we're young end, we still have the mentality that something better exists.

I have always thought that men by nature are always on a search to better themselves and to achieve the best, so sometimes they don't appreciate the good or great, their eyes are always set on 'THE BEST' and generally, if you don't keep them on their toes forever, and the relationship starts to slip into pattern or familiarity, then it is very easy for them to believe that the grass is greener on the other side.

I believe as women, we can try and try to captivate a man's heart, but it all lies with ONE thing, a man will be captivated ONLY if he wishes to be, if he is willing to listen, work hard on a relationship, if he has realistic expectations and such. A man who has his criteria for the perfect wife, may never be captivate-able unfortunately.

Topup, once again you have hit the nail on the head. Sadly this took me way too long to realize but I guess its better late than never.

@ poster

The way to a man's heart is his stomach (belly).

topup:

But then after communication, he has to be willing to work at it, a relationship cannot be tackled by just one person alone. Really, I believe that if a guy does not want anything to do with you, that is how it is going to be, likewise if it was the woman who wanted to leave.

Communication is a great start, but from experience, some withold communication about the things that matter the most or the problems, but are able to maintain communication about the positive things. e.g. doubts are left to grow and fester in the mind, whilst compliments and sweet nothings just roll off the tongue.

This red txts are hurting me pupils.

The way to a mans heart is communication.

If communication is on point then you will know what his needs are and will be able to be able to address them w/o him having to go outside

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Some won't even tell you their needs. Most specie in men cannot talk our discuss anything with you effectively. May be their vocal cords are not developed.

Wellll, For one thing , y'all r right but also very wrong, 1st off im a guy, married , sex is good , wife is the girl of my dreams n all that, my childhood sweetheart turned girlfriend ,turned wife , !!!
The thing thats got me about this topic is just that a mans heart has sooo many diff needs, food , sex , conversation, but the most imp thing is compatbility.
we as guys appreciate it when you are adventurous in bed and willing to do all, but theres a diff in trying and liking , if i know that yr just trying it to pleaese me , i will appreciate but nxt time i'll look for someone who will ENJOY it and prob take it to the next level, now thats fun!!!
The sameness can be boring!!!!
Just a thot!!!

votes= 8 for and 10 against. I guess the 8 people that voted here are guys.

Buy him cars and give him money when ever he ask