tope2000:

if u are 25yrs then arent u old enough to choose the person you want to spend the rest of your life with

spikedcylinder:

If you are in love, you don't need a third party to tell you. You would FEEL it!

server33:

Hi fellow nairalanders, I seriously need your advice on this. I need to find the love of my live.

I have contributed several times to discussions under career, academics, money and general stuff, but when it comes to love, dating and relationships, I have very little to contribute.

This is simply because I have never FALLEN IN LOVE. I consider myself to be intelligent, attractive and well-to-do, and I don't usually have problems with finding smart beautiful ladies to date. How long will I continue to hear Love stories without having mine to tell?

I am 25 years old now, and everything is set to get married. Do I simply pick the smartest, prettiest, and best mannered of my girlfriends to marry? Or do I continue to wait for Love? If so, how can I love? or better still, how do I know when am I'm in Love?

spikedcylinder:

Why not? If they court for 2 or 3 years and they get married afterwards, what is wrong with that?

nana:

*walks in singing fall in love*
Right!
So,all your girlfriends have these features? BTW,You need just one person. Having numerous girlfriends would confuse your mind and brain. To fall in love,u have to follow your heart. Let go of your fears. Try to see beyond the physical features.

agaba123:

nana the relationship counsellor.

zeal500:

@TOPE2000, if u are 25, u sure can get married.
Maturity is not by age because u can b 6 years but with high level thinking and maturity.

tope2000:

what are you talking about??
im sayin hes old enough to know the best girl for him to marry.

topup:

What has probably happened is the case, where you have dedicated most if not all your time to achieving your academic and financial goals and working, you have spent very little time in the past trying to learn more and interact with women. I am not saying you are shy or timid, all I am saying is that, it is probably only now that you have time for women.

Don't worry, you will know when you are in love, and you may as well have been without knowing it, the truest of love, is one that makes you content, not the one that is written and depicted in stories and movies. When you are in love, you are happy in life, with your partner, it should not be a strategic move, some people are able to achieve a love like that in the movies, but as time passes, a long lasting relationship is made by hard work and not just walks in the park.

I advice that you start meeting more people, don't act desperate to get married, but you may be reasonably pushy with being outgoing and meeting new people, you need to make more female friends and also ask your friends about suitable matches. Start dating, first focus on what you have in common with the woman in terms of goals and aspirations, and then pinpoint early habits that you really cannot tolerate, if the woman passes these two first tests then you should give the relationship your all, don't try and follow the rule book, do what comes natural, care for her like you would like to be cared, treat her like a very very close friend, hopefully you find this woman attractive, if so, things should come naturally.

Maybe, you haven't fallen in love because you have not let yourself release your emotions, if you don't give you can't receive, you need to express yourself and your truest feelings in your relationships, this way you can learn more from the relationship, understand the benefits and disadvantages of certain things.

Practice makes perfect, just take it slow, just make sure you make an effort to be open minded and step out of the norm.

I need more information if I am to further suggest any tips, the above is pretty general.

dyabman:

wetin sef

topup:

I'm not good at pidgin, what's 'wetin sef' mean ,