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How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by oboso1: 1:14pm On Jul 08, 2014
Sometimes it is better that you move on when he dumps you. Sometimes, it is good to let some time pass by so you could realize whether the break up was for your good or not. Sometimes, you need to go back after him with all you have got. When you decide to do this, you should know that there is only rule to this game - winning. You keep your eyes firmly on the goal and ignore everything else of you want to win. Here are the 7 steps that will ensure you win your ex boyfriend back:

1. Forget about him for now - stop whining about him. Stop even thinking about him - for now. Look back into your relationship and analyze it carefully. Why did he leave you? What do you think was the problem between the two of you? Ask your close friends what they thought was the problem between the two of you.

2. Pay attention to how you look - in most cases, men complain that their super cool girlfriends after going steady become dull. They stop caring for themselves and that literally puts off the fire in the relationship.

3. Pay attention to your attitude - sometimes, you might sound too demanding, too emotional, too pushy, too bossy, too clingy. A woman should be a little of all these, but if she lets any one of these attitudes dominate, she is in for trouble. An attractive woman has only one attitude to wear - that of a woman in charge of her destiny, i.e. confident.

4. Invite him out for a talk - when you do so, he should be able to see the change in you. Men do not like to "talk" for they are not really equipped for emotional banter. However, if you seem in charge of your feelings and exude inner confidence and control, he would be intrigued enough to know more about the new you to accept such an invitation.

5. Start from ground zero - tell him that you feel he left you for whatever reason you think you identified in your earlier analysis. Ask him whether it is correct. Request him to tell you what made him take this step.

6. Negotiate re-entry - let him know you still have feelings for him and are willing to work at the relationship.

7. The decision is his - it is very important that you put no pressure on him to take a decision fast. Trust me, he will come back to you.

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Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by jameslives: 2:50pm On Jul 08, 2014
So your ex has moved on and got himself a brand new girl. What do you do? Cry over your lost hopes and nurse your aching heart? Well that's not going to get your ex back. So get up and get a sneaky plan in place to make your fairy tale come true. Here is what you need to do to get your ex back from another girl.

Look hotter than his present girlfriend
You must have seen him with his present girlfriend. Now you need to work on your looks and start looking better and hotter than her. When you look great your ex will immediately begin to think that maybe he didn't get a good deal after all.

Reconnect with him
You need to first just reconnect with him. Look like you have moved on. Talk to him and tell him that you would like to put the past behind you and at least be comfortable with each other. This will put your ex at ease with you.

Become buddies
Soon you will begin to bond with your ex. Don't throw yourself at him but offer to go out together in a group occasionally. This will help the two of you get closer and will not make him or his girl friend uncomfortable with you.

Like his present girlfriend
Get introduced to his present girlfriend and at least pretend to like her. Don't make any snide remarks regarding her. Make her feel comfortable with you by talking well of your ex and telling her that you completely support her relationship. Gain her confidence to get into their inner circle.

Talk well of her to him
You must also make sure that you praise his girlfriend to him. He must never feel that you are jealous or insecure. Tell him that he is lucky to have a girl like his present girlfriend in his life. Show him that you are the good person who really likes his present girlfriend.

Create some friction
You can now create a little bit of friction between the two. Take the buddy act a little more seriously and show his girlfriend how much better you know him than her. She will eventually feel threatened and ask him to choose between the two of you. And since she will be the one asking him to make a choice, she will automatically become the villain. Men hate it when women make them choose!

Be a little unavailable
Now through all this look like you are moving on and dating casually. Never be truly available until they break up and be the support he needs. He will be back as your boyfriend soon after that.


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How To Get Someone Back
Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by donyjohn: 3:30pm On Jul 08, 2014
Getting back together with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend after years of separation requires a lot of your time and effort. It is a whole lot harder than getting back with your ex when you have just recently broken up, because a lot of things have already taken place and probably have changed both of you. We will show you useful tips to help you build your own strategy.

Whole-Heartedly Accept the Breakup

The first thing for you to do is to accept the breakup. Let go of the hatred, the misery, the pain, and every emotion that comes with the split. This is so much easier to say than do, but go ahead and try. Accepting this traumatic event can help you think and see through things much better because you can now be able to set aside or go without the emotions that could cloud you.

Be Neutral and Examine What Went Wrong

Examine the mistakes you both have made that led to the split, but remember to do it as an outsider of the relationship. Think logically and neutrally, and never be biased in weighing the factors. By this process, you will be able to know what to change and what to lose in order for you to become a better partner and a better person.

Work on Yourself

After you have figured out your shortcomings and flaws, you should work on them by either editing them or deleting them from your system. This is one way to prepare yourself for a new chapter in your life. Do not make this move only for your ex, but do this especially for your own sake.

"Upgrade" yourself so that s/he'll notice the change. Workout and/or get a makeover. Present yourself beautifully by being well-groomed, healthy, and appearing happy. Never show your ex that you were a wreck while you were not together, instead show him/her that you have coped very well and that the breakup turned you into a better person. By doing these, you could also boost your self-confidence.

Figure Out Why You Want to Get Back With Your Ex

Ask yourself why you want to get back with your ex after all the years that have passed by. Be sure that the reason is "love" and not any other. Do not bring your ex back in your life just because you are having problems with other aspects in your life that you could not go through without him/her. Getting back means being with the person you love the most for another time. Do not waste that opportunity by just including your ex in your own mess and making things more complicated.

Research About Your Ex

Find out what has changed for the past years that you were separated. Is your ex still single, already engaged or already married? Does s/he have his/her own family now? You can utilize the Internet and the social networking sites to figure these things out or you can just ask some common friends. It is very important to know these details before trying to get in touch with him/her or you would end up disappointed of wasting your time and effort.

Get in Touch With Your Ex

Before finally meeting up with your ex, you have to initiate the first contact by sending him/her a message via the Internet or by "accidentally" bumping on him/her and saying "Hi!" Grab this opportunity to tell your ex that you want to talk some time and some place in the near future. Prepare yourself to accept your ex's response whether it is good or bad. In case your ex responds the way you did not want him/her to, take one more shot of contacting him/her. If s/he really still does not agree on meeting up with you, then still wait for a while because maybe s/he makes up his/her mind. A good 2 months of waiting will do and then you can now move on.

Take Action

If your first contact with your ex was a success, then you get to meet up with him/her and have some chitchat. Use this opportunity to build something new with him/her. Show that you have changed for the better through your actions. Always keep in mind to never take the past as a ticket to your future with him/her. Do not bring up past issues and do not apologize if it is unnecessary.

One Step at a Time

From there, see a new relationship with your ex start; it could be a start of a new friendship that would later on blossom to something. Take things slow and wait for the right time. It is always better to start off as friends. Just observe some signs from your ex if s/he wants you back in your life too. S/he could show this to you through also appearing "improved" and interested in you. You have to respond to these appropriately. Cherish and treasure the times you spend with him/her.


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How to Make an Ex Like You Again
Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by michaelpower: 4:26pm On Jul 08, 2014
So your ex has moved on and got himself a brand new girl. What do you do? Cry over your lost hopes and nurse your aching heart? Well that's not going to get your ex back. So get up and get a sneaky plan in place to make your fairy tale come true. Here is what you need to do to get your ex back from another girl.

Look hotter than his present girlfriend
You must have seen him with his present girlfriend. Now you need to work on your looks and start looking better and hotter than her. When you look great your ex will immediately begin to think that maybe he didn't get a good deal after all.

Reconnect with him
You need to first just reconnect with him. Look like you have moved on. Talk to him and tell him that you would like to put the past behind you and at least be comfortable with each other. This will put your ex at ease with you.

Become buddies
Soon you will begin to bond with your ex. Don't throw yourself at him but offer to go out together in a group occasionally. This will help the two of you get closer and will not make him or his girl friend uncomfortable with you.

Like his present girlfriend
Get introduced to his present girlfriend and at least pretend to like her. Don't make any snide remarks regarding her. Make her feel comfortable with you by talking well of your ex and telling her that you completely support her relationship. Gain her confidence to get into their inner circle.

Talk well of her to him
You must also make sure that you praise his girlfriend to him. He must never feel that you are jealous or insecure. Tell him that he is lucky to have a girl like his present girlfriend in his life. Show him that you are the good person who really likes his present girlfriend.

Create some friction
You can now create a little bit of friction between the two. Take the buddy act a little more seriously and show his girlfriend how much better you know him than her. She will eventually feel threatened and ask him to choose between the two of you. And since she will be the one asking him to make a choice, she will automatically become the villain. Men hate it when women make them choose!

Be a little unavailable
Now through all this look like you are moving on and dating casually. Never be truly available until they break up and be the support he needs. He will be back as your boyfriend soon after that. Signs Your Ex Wants To Get Back Together
Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by hamiltonreal: 5:19pm On Jul 08, 2014
Want to get back together with your ex? If so, then you will need to think about what to tell them. You have to use the right words to get your ex back. This is where Shakespeare will come very handy.

Why? Shakespeare is probably one of the most romantic people who ever walked the face of the Earth. His tales and tragedies of love have touched each and every one of us. There's probably no one who has not heard about the great and tragic love that Romeo and Juliet shared. Their story has transcended generations.

And if there is someone who knows the right words to get your ex back, it's Shakespeare. He has produced the best soundbytes and lines about love, sorrow, and everything else that have something to do with relationships. You can use or take inspiration from them.

Use them and I am sure you will melt your ex's heart. These lines will help you win your love back.

• In thy face I see honor, truth, and loyalty

This line shows just how you love and uphold your ex. When you say you see honor, truth, and loyalty in your lover's eyes, it means you don't see anything wrong in them. Regardless of what they have done to you or the hurt they caused you, you don't take anything against them. This line shows that you are capable of looking past all the bad things for your ex's affection.

• Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better

By attempting to get back together with your ex, it shows that you are giving them love that they don't desire-at least for now. This line shows how much sweeter and better undesired love is. This means your ex is getting something really good-undesired love, which is sweet and lovely.

• The courses of true love never did run smooth

This line is perfect for making your ex realize that break ups are normal in relationships. It's part of the journey you both need to take. By making them understand that relationships are not perfect and you'd need to come across bumps in the road, it will be a lot easier to make them want you back. They'd start to think that this is not really the end of your relationship but just a pit stop. You'll have to get back together at some point and continue your journey together. How to Act to Get Your Ex Back

If you're lacking an overall plan to win your ex back, then these tips above can only get you so far.

If you want to bring it to the next level and actually get your ex missing you, wanting you and begging YOU back, then you'll need an overall plan that is designed just for you!
Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by markjane: 5:47pm On Jul 08, 2014
So You Cheated...

If you're reading this, we can make three assumptions about you:

1. You cheated on your ex.
2. They found out and left you.
3. You regret the mistake, and want to know how to get your ex back.

If this is the case, you've got your work cut out for you, and it'll be an uphill battle. Two-thirds of relationships never recover from infidelity. On the brighter side, that means a third of relationships DO survive infidelity-so there is hope.

This series of articles will tell you how to get your ex back after cheating on them. There are four steps. The first article explains steps one, two, and four, and is for everyone. The third step differs you are a man or a woman who cheated, and want to know how to get your ex back. Therefore, the second and third articles cover step three for men and women respectively. The fourth and final article is for the ex-the one who has been cheated on.

Step One: End the Affair - Completely!

The first step in how to get your ex back is by ending the affair with your lover. No healing can happen, no trust can be rebuilt, until the affair has stopped.

How can your ex believe that you love them, and are still committed to them, when you're still seeing your lover? How is your ex supposed to trust you if they constantly worry that you're still cheating?

To prove you still love your partner, are still committed to them, and are trustworthy, cut your lover out of your life completely. No, you can't "still be friends" with your ex-lover. You should minimize all contact, and if possible, never see your ex-lover ever again.

This is difficult when you work with your ex-lover (many affairs start in the workplace). Maybe your partner will understand that. But if they don't then switch desks, switch departments, or even switch jobs-whatever it takes. It may be a burden, but it sends a clear message to your partner that they are more important to you than your job, that you're committed to making the relationship work again-and that goes a long way toward healing the hurt.

Step Two: Apologize for the Affair

The second step in how to get your ex back is with a heartfelt apology. Tell your ex you're sorry for cheating and for hurting them. Promise you'll never do it again, ever. Tell your ex how you feel about the affair-sad, ashamed, guilty, irresponsible, etc. This will help convince your ex that your apology is sincere.

Accept responsibility for the affair. Tell your ex it's your fault. You were wrong. You made a big mistake. If you blame your ex-lover for the affair ("They seduced me"wink, or your partner ("I wouldn't have cheated if you were better in bed"wink, even partially, then you're shirking your responsibility for the affair.

Of course, people rarely cheat unless there are exiting problems (possibly sexual) in their relationship. This may be the case with your ex. You'll definitely have to work through those problems later-but for now, until the love and trust is rebuilt, avoid placing any blame on your ex.

Step Three: Penance

At this point, your ex will either tell you to get lost, or agree to give you a second chance. But you're not out of the woods yet-this is just the beginning. You now need to atone for hurting your ex. You have to do your penance. How To Get A Long Distance Ex Boyfriend Back

Step Four: Forgiveness

The relationship has finally recovered when your ex forgives you. This may take a long time, so be patient. If things have been good for a while-trust and commitment are rebuilt, and love has flowered again-ask if you are forgiven. Be braced for them to say no, and be ready to ask what else it will take to be forgiven.

Keep in mind that your partner forgiving you does not mean they approve of the affair, or that they will ever forget it. Infidelity leaves a scar on even the best of relationships. It will always be there, lurking in the background. Be prepared for your infidelity to come out in arguments. You may have to periodically do more penance over the years to keep their love and trust.
Re: How To Get Him Back After He Dumps You - Win Your Ex Back by naijajobx: 12:03pm On May 16, 2017
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