Olarewajub:
This rely is long over due. Sorry for the late entry, any thing I try to reply some thing just comes up.

Something you must know my friend is that introverts express themselves easily and comfortablly with people they are familiar with and not total strangers and that’s the reason you can express yourself correcly when you’re with your family members. What you must first do is to try to get to know few of your colleagues maybe by short conversation, and when you speak, make sure you don’t give much attention to your spoken English. Just allow it to flow naturally. It might not be a easy task at first, but as I will always say; move out of your comfort zone. Introversion is not timidity.

On keeping converrsation, try and envision the type of conversation you are likely to have that day. You can decide to have a political debate in your head. In so doing, you will have tons of things to say when the issue of corruption among government officials or scarcity of tomatoes comes up. You have to be ready before time. Ever wonder how Susan Cain does it, “Preparation bro”. Day dream.



On issue of relationship, I’ve got little advice. First don’t beat yourselve about not having a girlfriend although it might be painful seeing how guys around you change girlfriends like wrappers are their ability to easily scope girls. When it comes to friendship, introverts are usually carefully. There are ladies out there who are naturally attracted to introverts. It means you have’nt meant the right girl. Make sure you are able to interprete green light because that is the indicator ladies give. A Google search should help you through this. Don’t enter into a relationship with a lady that does not understand and appreciates your personality. On the last part, read articles about talking to ladies to go out on a date with you, but remember anything you do, let it be spotaneous.


The reason why you fall asleep by 6:00 PM maybe due to your biological clock or nature of your Job. When you wake up to read or watch a movie, do you do this in the comfort of your bed? If yes, always read or watch movies while sitting down in a chair uprightly and you can decide to drink warm water. Make sure you’re well clothed, if possible wear socks.



Thinking of giving up on life? Bro the World is waiting for you. Any problem you’re facing, someone somewhere else is facing a worse scenero. Research and read books on building self esteem. Try to discover your God given talent and life will become worth living. On increasing your vocabulary, read books and watch good hollywood movies. If you have a PC, download “Audacity” and use it to practice speaking fluently, and also learn to practice of public speaking. Is it just names you forget? If yes, it happens to most introvers.


Your coworkers thinks you’re stupid because they don’t know what your personality is, they see you as a weirdo and not as an introvert. Set goals for yourself and try to achieve them. I strongly recommend you read the book Quiet by Susan Cain, the pdf file is everywhere online.
Whatever you do, be yourself. Life is amazing. Live a happy life.

ojaydedon:


who is susan cain please..

Arsenate:
because i keep to my self a lot, people misconstrue that as arrogance, rudeness or snubbish. it used to bother me alot. now I don't seem to care.

Arsenate:
because i keep to my self a lot, people misconstrue that as arrogance, rudeness or snubbish. it used to bother me alot. now I don't seem to care.

XfStyle:

People always think am proud ,because I always keep to myself,starting a conversation is a lot of trouble for me.I always wonder how people get to know how to start up a talk,maintaining it,I envy them alot

Olarewajub:


She is the author of Quiet, one of the greatest books on introversion of the 21st century. She is an introvert herself.

I will say one is'nt a complete introvert without reading Quiet.


https://https-en-m-wikipedia-org/wiki/Susan_Cain?iorg_service_id_internal=1547440102204384%3BAfraIBIGmhR0RUl5

MUVA:
I'm not an extrovert but I'm still not convinced I'm an introvert. So what am I?

HCF:
Ambivert!

Olarewajub:


She is the author of Quiet, one of the greatest books on introversion of the 21st century. She is an introvert herself.

I will say one is'nt a complete introvert without reading Quiet.


https://https-en-m-wikipedia-org/wiki/Susan_Cain?iorg_service_id_internal=1547440102204384%3BAfraIBIGmhR0RUl5

organism3:
my own case now Is dat I live with my father with his wife. my stepmother always gossip Nd complain about my nature. .and as a christian I dnt wnt to disrespect her. What can I do?

MUVA:


A bit of both, right?

zlatan10:
Introverts!!!!
I heard you guys don't like celebrating your birthday....don't know if it's true

zlatan10:
Introverts!!!!
I heard you guys don't like celebrating your birthday....don't know if it's true

zlatan10:
Introverts!!!!
I heard you guys don't like celebrating your birthday....don't know if it's true

emekz1:
I am glad to be on dis thread,well conversing one on one is not a problem bt talking to d public is a challenge nd I'm also careful of nt making mistakes while talking.

zlatan10:
Introverts!!!!
I heard you guys don't like celebrating your birthday....don't know if it's true

organism3:
my own case now Is dat I live with my father with his wife. my stepmother always gossip Nd complain about my nature. .and as a christian I dnt wnt to disrespect her. What can I do?

Liamm:
First to grace this page.

Being an introvert has its ups and downs. I've been existing under this sociality status for over a decade and i have no qualms with it.

The only area where i may have little regret later is exposure. I don't keep much friends and the ones i have barely asks me out. I end up staying at home during weekends not having anyone to visit or a place for recreation.

But I think it's got more advantages. Introverts are mostly viewed as responsible and civilized. I've got no interference of any sought. I do my things the way that would please me.

Having an array of friends as an extrovert leaves you susceptible to bad characters. I'm not being prejudiced against them(extroverts) but that's the fact. You may still find extroverts that are good/mannered but i guess it's 1/10.

The two can always be balanced and i think that's the best. You'll have to be an introvert until you're up to the age of distinguishing between right and wrong(not 7 as per the bible but from 20yrs upwards) then you can port to being an extrovert.

Quintee:
I think I'm too considerate of others (most especially in relationships) and most times, people take it for granted. I consider it necessary to put an end to it now but how can I achieve this? I feel this attribute is not ideal in today's world because only few people possess virtues.

DonOms:


Not all introverts. Some few do celebrate it like extroverts do. But for people very much close to the end of introversion on the introversion-extroversion continuum, they don't enjoy celebrating it - and if they do, not with a crowd. I don't celebrate my birthdays and it's not known to too many people.

charley94:

true, mostly on fb

DonOms:


Hi @Organism3!
You have made a good decision to refrain from disrespecting her. If you do confront her, apart from the fact that it won't help matters, she'll have more to talk about as 'rude' and 'disrespectful' will be added to whatever she says about you.

The best thing to do is to keep calm and occasionally in very subtle ways, make it known to whoever cares to listen that those qualities of yours are a part of who you are. It may take time, but she will come to terms with it when she realises her talk couldn't change anything.

People naturally don't celebrate 'difference,' until they are left with no choice. So be the best you can be and in no time, you'll see her stop the gossip and complaints.

If it will make you feel better, my mom used to complain too but after a long while, when she realised I was who I was and her complaints were not bringing her desired results, she stopped complaining.