whizqueen: This is my own individual write up, written from personal exprience and exprience of friends and collegues. its lengthy though i can bet you won't regret reading it all through. All kinds of comments and critictism are welcomed but constructive critics is preferred.
Friend Zone' an ideology that has become the order of the day. Friendzone simply refers to a situation in which a girl is belived to derive benefits (care, attention, affection and attimes financials) from a guy without a corresponding benefit to the guy. The guy thinks has been friendzoned but the girl tinks of it as normal friendship we all knw. Every guys of this days thinks when you get close to a lady, you guys get to spend time with eachother, you gist go out and enjoy eachother's company they think it is a necessity that a relationship should grow out from such friendship. Both parties might have no specific reason for coming together as friends in d first instance. And with time the friendship starts to grow closer people are already tinking they are dating eachother, but this is yet to even cross d mind of the parties in question. They are both enjoying the company of eachother, they get to rub minds together and talk about reasonable issues that could affect their individuals life postively. From what i know ladies finds it preferable having a guy as a best friend this from exprience is due to the kind of nature ladies have; one little relevant information about you, upon a disagreement between you both they use it against you... rarely would a fellow girlfriend of yours tell you the truth they'ld rather tell u sumtin that will make you feel good. And i hear people say its better you hurt me with the truth than comfort me with a lie. GOSSIP d big word in the feminine world, ladies love to go behind eachother's back and tell the other friends something that is supposed to be discrete this i think is rare in the world of d guys. Thats enough reason why every lady would prefer to have a guy as her best/closest friend. But with time the bond grows stronger both parties begin to grow dis feeling for eachother but the feeling in one is stronger than the other mostly that in the guy. Then there are several failed attempt of kisses and maybe just one successful one. "No this isn't right we are just friends and nothing more" this words crosses the mind of the lady and she breaks the kiss. Both party works away in different direction having different thoughts in their minds.
Guy: now i av become a victim of d frndzone niche. Why did i put my all into dis without aving any corresponding benefit? Why me again?
Lady: we where supposed to b just frnds and where is all this coming from. I like him but not up to the extent of us dating. All i needed was an honest friend and not a lover!
This and many other things comes across there minds. Then the friendship begins to tear apart, d lady probabily just needed a company but she got more than that and she isn't even ready to take this 'thing' to the next level. And the guy concludes 'i was friendzoned, she only used me' Now tell me what wrong has the girl done by looking for a friend? Someone to trust and be open to, sumone who is understanding, Someone she can ask for his opinion on issues and will respond without sentiments. Honestly, i feel guys should get their heads straight and stop thinking every lady that doesnt wants to date but wants just friendship wants to friendzone you. Let your intention known to her at first if she is fine with it no problem. instead of going and other way round and start crying of been friend zoned. There is nothing wrong in a lady just wanting to be friends with you and nothing more than that.
Source is from my archive of personal write ups. Thanks for reading all through.

As usual, thinking from a female perspective. If a lady wants someone to trust why can't she trust her boyfriend or make that person a boyfriend rather than searching for the trust outside relationship.
Guys don't cry about being friendzoned they only mull about it and dump the girl.
There is nothing wrong when both sides want ordinary friendship but the lady should not expect special treatment.

edelweiss: Lucky is a man who a lady friendzoned.seriously from my own personally experience my friendzoned male friend enjoy more than an actual boyfriend. I can loan money and give gift without being term a MAGA. You are in a relationship and you meet a nice guy why cant you simply be friends? As far as you made it clear from the onset. Girls will always be approached and I personally enjoy male friends. I have alot of friendzoned friends but its not a parasitic friendship. So op its not really a bad thing to be friendzoned.

I agree wit u dear, the idea of paracitism makes it looks odd to some of us.

MsPat: Must u buy her things? Besides we re talkin abt classy girls here not i-never-chop....if u like, u buy...if u dont, keep ur change. Sumone else will buy heer things. Guys spend chewin gum money nd expect d legs to open....e no go possible!

why can't our ladies be independent, must you rely on a guy for stuffs?. it's just pathetic. friendzoning a guy and still expect him to take care of your needs.. haba!!!!!!,that is emotional blackmail.

MsPat: Birds of d same feather

You can say that again ma'am...

EejaNla01: op you didn't describe friend zone,om mpa did

my question is when you aren't ready to date a guy why still want him close,gist with you often,say you sweet things,buy you gifts as though he is your lover while you don't reciprocate?

Isn't that selfishness?you see why we dread the zone.

Exactly!

MsPat: SMH for ur poor man mentality! Aka-gum....abeg shift make breeze blow me!

And u've got a cheap girl mentality.No wonder u want guys to buy u lunch...

whizqueen:

Why can't i? Provided i can see for myself that the dude isn't ready to take it to the next level, and i cant force him or pressurize him. Then just friends wuld do.

Do you have one now?? Have you ever had one?? its not easy babe......

Djicemob: And u've got a cheap girl mentality.No wonder u want guys to buy u lunch...

FYI...im married. I dont need lunch from anyone!

MsPat: FYI...im married. I dont need lunch from anyone!

Hi Married, nice to meet u! I'm DjICE.

NickiRoman:
Some Guys just never learn..

it's girls that does not learn

The worst part is when the girl keeps the guy for financial gains while another guy is somewhere bleeping d Poo outa her asssz.