babyosisi:

What do you expect the eediotic man to say
Do you want the dead man's family to demand he returns the goats they gave him for bride price ?
The father is most likely a polygamist With no real attachment to those kids
See how he proudly told us he married his 7 girls off at 14 like it were an achievement
They are just a bunch of revenue fetching commodities to him

Why don't we hear from her mother
I bet you the mother will tell the real story

PassingShot:


Check this wikipedia link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriageable_age. Though not below 14 years but many European countries allow girls younger than 18 to marry older men with parental consent.

If you agreed that it is the norm in the community they live, how would you still call it a forced marriage?

Is it not possible that the poor girl may have poisoned her husband for other reasons other than the "forced marriage" thing?

And if you would put her parents in jail for marrying her off, you will definitely need to put thousands or even millions of such parents in jail because the fact remains that the practice is rampant in that part of Nigeria.

Dealing with this case is applying "cosmetic surgery" on a situation that requires tackling from the root/source. Those communities and the dwellers need re-orientation, education and civilization. Without providing these, we are on a long thing.

dollarsplenty: This girl was certainly forced to marry the deceased. Love was not involved. This is an AUREN-DOLE (Forced-marriage) that backfired. the only pity here is about those that ate food with the husband.

Shadeolad: [/color]Of course he also married a child bride now. Married his first wife when she was in ss2. She was my senior in secondary school.she was pulled out of school to marry him. But I think it was with her consent cos she was excited and was always shouting his name about in d hostel.[color=#006600]

bjims:


birds of a feather flock together....thus the death of the friends to

carefreewannabe:

The link is not working but I have already googled it and as a matter of fact in most Western countries people are not allowed to marry before the age of 18 and in some states in the United States even not before they are 21.

There may be exceptions with parental consent or with court permission BUT NEVER AGAINST THe CHILD'S WILL and they must NOT be younger than 16.




I agreed that what is a norm?




It is very unlikely.



I would if I could.



I agree but s long as we are discussing the issue on the public forum, I will keep repeating that it is wrong to marry off children.

PassingShot:

Let's agree to disagree then.

But not without parting with this lovely quote i saw on your profile page which i think is suitable for my use here:
Never apologize for being correct, or for being years ahead of your time. If you’re right and you know it, speak your mind. Speak your mind. Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is still the truth. - Gandhi

tandj: And some people are here stupidly justifying an abominable act?

Let me ask?why are boys of 6 to 17yrs not allowed to marry?
Why only gals and not with their mates?

carefreewannabe:

I don't see how you are ahead of your time in this case.

PassingShot:

Na only that one you see there?

babyosisi:


Please tell me more
What school was this and what is her name
Give more meat to this story

tomsniel: poor Girl. I dont support child marriage but the way she handled it was too extreme.. Btw so GEJ's fresh air of education never reach those places..Diaris Goduooo

carefreewannabe:

No but this is the most conspicuous point.

PassingShot:

Good you agree with the others.
Anyway nice discussing with you. Take care.

PassingShot:

Good you agree with the others.
Anyway nice discussing with you. Take care.

pickabeau1:

if i may ask what is your view on child marriage

PassingShot:


If you take time to read my posts on this particular topic you'll know that I don't support it.

However I'm exposed enough to know that it exists in our society as a result of culture and our government failure to campaign against it and provide proper orientation, education for the rural dwellers plus means of integrating the not-so-previledged citizens of our society.

When we fail to tackle this problem from the root, we cry when stories that touch occur.

PassingShot:


If you take time to read my posts on this particular topic you'll know that I don't support it.

However I'm exposed enough to know that it exists in our society as a result of culture and our government failure to campaign against it and provide proper orientation, education for the rural dwellers plus means of integrating the not-so-previledged citizens of our society.

When we fail to tackle this problem from the root, we cry when stories that touch occur.

dozzybaba: prophetone will definitely avoid this thread like a plague...

pickabeau1: I did read it.. thats why i waited for the heat to cool down as i was concerned it will go into religious arena

I agree with you that orientation and education is critical however my concern is the disservice being done by these people to themselves

A man who marries his daughter off loses the opportunity for her to be productive
Her earning capacity is gravely diminished in additionto the bodily damages from VVF

Generational Poverty is assured

IN other areas, others ensure their kids have the best education to break out of poverty

I am speaking now from the individual POV as govt has failed the people

mcfarlin:

Thank you sir for that observation

Even in the olden days when hindus married at a very young age they were married to their age mates not some old phaggot.

Even MAHATMA GANDHI got married at the age of thirteen to his wife who was exactly thirteen...I pray this almajiris learn...ISLAME crippling peoples thoughts since 600AD

PassingShot:

I'm with you on the deservice and many more implications of this their practice but before we crucify these people we need to know why they do what they do.

In very many of the cases, the closest learning center is more than 50km from their villages; plus the absence of proper means of transportation because there are no motorable roads. They're practically helpless in that type of situation as they're completely disconnected from the rest of us.

Recall that when the Chibok girls were kidnapped it took producing of the recording of BH parading the girls and converging their parents in a location outside their village before they could see that vedio. It's that bad my friend and you don't blame those villagers for their fate. It is our collective failure as a nation.

pickabeau1:

It is really a collective failure

It's a drawback of ancient feudalistic practices and the leadership are not helping

Ok

PassingShot:

I served in Benue state and had the opportunity to go to a village called Agagbe where a colleague was serving. Indeed our going there was to see things for ourselves after many lamentations about the living conditions in that village. Some of us actually shed tears when we saw how people died of common ailments due to lack of health care services. Taking the sick to hospital is even out of the equation for them because of lack of transportation.

what do we expect to happen to village girls of 13, 14 or 15 years who didn't get any education from age six? To be in secondary school? The problem is fundamental and we need to tackle it rightly and not reacting with emotions.

Shadeolad: [color=#006600][/color] she is the daughter of the late emir of kano. Sadiya Ado Bayero(then). Fggc Kazaure. Jigawa(then kano state). Very funny and friendly girl.

babyosisi:

His cousin then
I strongly believe that the violence in Islam could be traced to this inbreeding
I sincerely think it has something to do with it
There are higher cases of mental retardation amongst people who marry their relatives,there could be some violent propensity in others and no one wants to address it so as not to be offensive
Why is it that the only religion that allows marriages within the family also produces the most violent of followers ?
Someone should study that
The draw towards pedophilia could also be a symptom of that mental anomaly

anonimi:

Please STOP your baseless stories.
Many European royal families also marry (married) their cousins as Christians.