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Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Gynacologist(m): 3:42pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Does marriage guarantee happiness?nop bat wat if ur old boi didnt get married? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Truckpusher(m): 3:44pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Gynacologist: nop bat wat if ur old boi didnt get married?Then I wouldn't be here being afraid of ebola |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 3:50pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
2scorehigh: Well, and I may sound harsh, but if you cannot effectively communicate about your own personal needs to someone who you are supposed to be in love with, then you should wait before embarking in serious relationship. Effective communication is saying the right things at the right time. I'm more traditional in my view of roles, I personally prefer if my man can spell out exactly what he's looking for. At least his short and long term plans. Almost like job interview,and to get the role of my boyfriend and man, I need a man who can stand the selection process. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Gynacologist(m): 4:42pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Then I wouldn't be here being afraid of ebolau scared of tat shit? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Truckpusher(m): 4:44pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Gynacologist: u scared of tat shit?Who no dey fear? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 5:30pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
franzis: I’d feel like I just wasted four years of my life if this is not heading anywhere I would say u waited for too long. 2 years max ago u had to have this conversation. i wasted 6 years. with different guy married after 2. he doesn't make sense at all. i don't understand that view that man has to build palace before he can marry. we are both in one, we r both working for same aim, we can build palace together. i don't need to come to your palace and and feel that i must be always grateful for what u gave. i rather create future together and feel equal 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Boriqua(m): 6:01pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Some dudes are just so happy doing that.... |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by ezelous: 7:10pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
rightym:Of cos,d guy should not venture into it if not ready. But how many ladies r prepared to be wit d guy thru thick n thin? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Datsme: 7:15pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Eni awi fun, oba je ko gbo o. Lokunrin Lobinrin |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by daveP(m): 7:57pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
daveP: Franzis, i feel like i should continue the above.... Permit me (somewhere in Surulere, Gboyega sips his bottle, probably beer. He couldnt contain himselfs since Abimbola called it quits. He hissed and stood, he needed to settled down soon, but his pay wasnt enough. He knew this bitter truth but felt he could 'always manage'. He dialled donbandonz number) Gboye: ma guy xup now. Donba: gboye wetin dey now, i hear say bimbo waka go.... Gboye: dont mind that bast**d, always thinking life's a bed of roses. I knew she was seeing someone o. Imagine 4years waste like dat....(he ranted on) Donba: guy chill now. Haba. I tell u say u no fit see correct babe weey fit settle down. U no gree now una don see. Make una con flex small for my side. I get packaging for u. Gboye: guy u fall ma hand o. Well i go try show. Donba: shey na dat job stuff. Go look for beter job jare. 120k!! Me wey u dey teach for uni.... Abeg na dis kine job u dey do.... Go find 500, go delta, PH dey. Cool cash. Easy... No forget o. Sha come 1st. We go yarn... (cuts the call and pecks one of d chick besides him) jst a close friend. Girl: hmm, that sounded serious, like about settling down Donba: (knowing where she's tryna drive at and stands up) erm. Il be right back(sips a lil moet and rushes out with two other dudes) Girl: (hisses) donbadonz!!(laughs silently) If not for cash....... |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by tlops(m): 8:40pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
marieolae: This guy doesn't have any intentions in marrying her. 4 years is not a joke at all. He literally just wasted her time. Mehn they say these hoes aint loyal, but really these guys aint serious at all. Pure BS! It doesn't mean that. Guys and ladies (of the same age group) have different perspective when it comes to such situations. The girl thinks its about age... The guy think its about maturity and readiness. Age is natural but maturity is not. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by OnyeEgo1(m): 8:47pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
realborn: i use to have such girl but i am d bad guy now i av lose her.... When i grow larger in life i hope to get her back... U described my girl |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by bukatyne(f): 10:34pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
dBard: This is her 6th comment Girl: I’d feel like I just wasted four years of my life if this is not heading anywhere Was the guy not supposed to reassure her? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by femmefatale: 8:42am On Sep 05, 2014 |
Samyj247:Do u av to b abusive/haul insults 2 prove ur point? Giv ur opinion/advice like a civilized person. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by alterswerve(m): 6:30pm On Sep 05, 2014 |
I'm on the same page with the guy. I think he wants to get married, but finance is holding him back. He is one of those guys that had a terrible childhood with a poor father who couℓdn't take care of him, and so he told himself that the situation will not repeat itself. He wishes to get married but dσesη't want to have to struggle hard to take care of his family, and I think that's wise. The girl may pay for all the wedding proceedings, but the wedding is just for one day. The guy will live with the trauma for the rest of his life of not being able to live up to expectation, and that kills faster than anything. Ladies, try to understand. Guys want to get married, but look at the guy's point-He dσesη't want to have a family that will suffer because he wants to fulfil soceital demands/culture. On a final note, they can just do a small wedding and both of them share every family expense at certain percentages, maybe the husband pays 55% of every bill (school fees and clothes inclusive) and the woman pays the 45% remaining. Abi? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by dBard: 7:48pm On Sep 05, 2014 |
bukatyne: 'wasted' In a mutual, loving relationship? ? Haba now! I'll probably respond the same way d guy did. Not saying he wasn't insensitive sha, but she might 've bin a bit less reckless wit her words. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by bukatyne(f): 12:57pm On Sep 06, 2014 |
dBard: She obviously wanted something different so felt her time was wasted |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by kaboninc(m): 3:32pm On Sep 06, 2014 |
bukatyne: It seems you agree with the girl's position that 4 years of her life have been wasted. If you do...do you think its also right to conclude the same fate for the guy too? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by bukatyne(f): 5:18pm On Sep 06, 2014 |
kaboninc: Look at it this way... You enter Uni to get a degree and after four years, you are rusticated or for some reasons could not get it; does it feel like wasted four years? does it matter if you wore the best clothes, won most handsome etc.? You didnot achieve the purpose of entering the uni and that is a waste. Now imagine you enter university with the aim to flex; your parents have one company you are to inherit and they probably forced you to school. If after four years, you no get pali, will it matter? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by kaboninc(m): 6:42pm On Sep 06, 2014 |
bukatyne: Firstly I would have preferred you replied with a definite answer and go on to prove your point. Secondly from the narration, its very clear that there is a bond and that bond is defined by the relationship mutually consented to and freely entered by the guy and lady without any form of coercion. Going by your analogy, if I am rusticated, then I can consider my years spent in the university as a waste or some form of knowledge gain depending on my personal perspective of life: a loss if I indeed call it a loss and a gain if I am determined to succeed - no knowledge is a waste. In actual sense the relationship between the university and I was a waste (if I consider it to be). Lol. Same with this couple, they 'enjoyed' themselves, had fun together and for every action taken either as an individual or a group, they bear the responsibility. Don't you think its contradictory to say that you had fun, and excitement during the four years and later when the tide comes, you say all the time spent was a waste (4 years as a waste)? This has become the habit of ladies who lack foresight and look for cheap blackmail or petty emotional justice to lay a blame on a guy simply because he refuses her insatiable need. One can only conclude that in other to pacify and accept the 'accusation', the guy can simply accept to marry the lady; question is have you thought about the consequences? If the guy has the same thought process as the lady then its only fair to conclude that both saw their years together as a waste; unless the guy has a different mindset. Personally I find it petty when a lady tells me that I wasted her years with me when we mutually agreed to be in a relationship. Either am a responsible partner and my partner is irresponsible or the reverse, we both have the right to claim wastage of years. The society just have this way of protecting a woman. My interest here is on the claim made by the lady of wasting four years of her life. 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by proxillin(m): 12:21am On Sep 07, 2014 |
So 120k is too small to plan a family. Stewpid excuse |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by dBard: 7:51am On Sep 07, 2014 |
bukatyne: They BOTH Consented to be in a relationship. They BOTH obviously went out of their way t please each other It WAS, apparently, a loving, mutually benefiting relationship. Calling ALL That a waste just to prove her selfish point/emotionally blackmail d guy is simply put..underhanded. So if am to go by ur analogy, students that go in f a 4 yr course n eventually end up spending 6yrs or more b4 graduating shld consider all that a waste? ? She obviously wasn't in a relationship but a race against society's expectations. 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by dBard: 7:54am On Sep 07, 2014 |
kaboninc: well said.. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by femmefatale: 6:21pm On Sep 07, 2014 |
proxillin: So 120k is too small to plan a family. Stewpid excuse. I wonder o my bruva, som guys earn far less dan dat nd dey av a family already. It all depends on management. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 5:27pm On Sep 09, 2014 |
rightym: See dis girl is right to de core. She may not ve a substitute as insinuated by many. But de truth is de guy does not ve her in his plan even if dey continuing dating for ten years.Exactly! Even if he is earning 20k. if a man loves a woman and they are compatible then marry her, together you can build the empire you want. Wat happens if as you are waiting for millions before you marry and the millions never come?? Would u now start looking for a wife at 50?? Senseless guy in that op and all in this thread supporting him |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 5:28pm On Sep 09, 2014 |
princesa: Lol...boys and girls losing their consciences since 18 BC. Beautiful! If you can't evolve your relationship each passing day then forget it. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 5:29pm On Sep 09, 2014 |
femmefatale: This is actually my experience.....almost five years and guy talks and reasons exactly like d guy here. He wants us 2 continue d relationship but wt no commitment. Says he's not ready financially yet he works in a multinational company nd earns beta dan whr he was last year(@ least his excuse last year was he cudnt make a family wt d kinda job he was doing dn). Dis year d excuse too is, he's nt ready financially nd also psychologically. Can't continue 2 write abt d relationshp. We actually once (if nt more dan once)had a conversation like dis nd his responses were just identical 2 dis guy's. In fact, d diff is d use of words bt dey av d same implication. Men!!!You better find your level because sure a man is not ready for you. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 5:32pm On Sep 09, 2014 |
tosinisrael5678: First the engagement ring then then the wedding ring n next suffe[b]ring[/b] then they turnto lords of the ring......this is a style for those that rush into marriage.....abegi marraige is a destination to death. Y start it on time....i wanna enjoy ma singlehood[not in immoralities sha] ...to me, the guy n gal are both correct in their respective ways.... but they re more like unmarried couple[cos they re already doing wat marries pple do]..... unmarried couple?? Wat is that After banging the girl and using her you wanna dump her for another man. Crazy bunch of people we have everywhere what has Africa turned into? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by femmefatale: 6:18pm On Sep 09, 2014 |
macof:Exactly, but he doesn't wanna let go yet he's nt ready 2 commit. He begs each time I say no more. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 12:17pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
femmefatale: Exactly, but he doesn't wanna let go yet he's nt ready 2 commit. He begs each time I say no more.madam pls be smart with your relationship and future. You both need to have understood eachother from the beginning. To me, a relationship is already a commitment only that it is meant to evolve into something bigger, when you've spent enough time (not too much time) together you should know if you continue or you end it.. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 3:48pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
McWhillion:I dey feel that your signature. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by femmefatale: 5:55pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
macof:Hmm.... Tnx 1 Like |
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