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| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by pansophist(m): 7:31pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Asek1: Funny convo but that guy is a no brainer. What's the essence of keeping a girl that long when you do not have her in the picture of your future plans Why shifting the blame to the guy alone? girls can be idiotic in relationships, they love like foo.l and rarely attach common sense to issues very important. Why ask him after four years of relationship if he would marry her? she made it seems like marriage is a reward that must be awarded to her after dating him, as if the boy did not also ''waste'' four years of his life with her too. I will also run away from a girl that can pay her engagement ring and take care of the marriage expenses, that is desperation in a very high voltage and I dont wanna fall a victim to her unknown mission. She is even getting married not because she know what marriage is, but for society and her biological clock reading, she no try at all in her own part. The Guy is just brutally sincere, daz all! 7 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by JeffreyJamez(m): 7:31pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
this is simple....The guy is not matured enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage.... wait o.....from the convo,sounds to me like they are already "married" but without rings  3 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 7:33pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
The girl in this conversation was ready to star in "Lord of the rings sequel 4: Awaiting marriage of the Hobbits". If its about kids, you can do child spacing,use contraceptives or other birth control methods.So in reality there is no excuse tenable in my opinion. marriage is different from wedding, I don't fancy weddings as they are big wastes of cash, that could be put to better use. The most important rite is the payment of bride price and the prayers offered on behalf of the couple. So if you are out there having this conversation every other time with your lady, cut the crap, put your brain to work and give the woman the security she desires. After reading this a second time am convinced both the guy and girl have hidden issues, her willingness to pay for the wedding and the guy's reluctance to consider that. 2 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Dayjhihannon01(m): 7:34pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
lightwriter: I totally agree with u that d gal in question might have an hidden agenda. Or on the other hand, it might just be pure eagerness 2 know her fate. Wether she's has a secure future with you already or not. Cos with four years in a particular relationship, she has surer spent her irrevocable years on u.that's it....almost all'f dem av dat option B dey'll always keep @ one corner... And if dey felt unsecured dey switches... |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Eyop: 7:34pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ify84: the guy is funny and professional in his post but I pity d girl.....ladies, if after 6months he is not talking about marriage or when he desire to marry u. ....open doors for others.... while u keep him on d background...@ the bolded:once that happens even if i had interest in taking the relationship to the next level,i won't because it means the girl or lady in question is double dating. 1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Gynacologist(m): 7:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Truckpusher: No sane man would keep a girl for four years ............... what are the things to explore when you finally marry her?i dnt c a guy lyk u gettin married mwan. |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by scribble: 7:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Woman drama Almost all they think about But some good women know how to wait Like Lola omotayo okoye and Annie idibia They are reaping benefits now 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by MizMyColi(f): 7:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Tymax: Lwkmd. But the guy is selfish sha.  HEY YOU! Stop impersonating Tymax! Stay off his Handle!!! Orrrrr  |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 7:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
franzis: I’d feel like I just wasted four years of my life if this is not heading anywhereWahhhh? was just about taking popcorn from my younger sis, when I saw that..... Needless to say, I no shoup again  1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by MabraO: 7:35pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I love the guys responds The girl in question us just hell bent about wearing the engagement ring She isnt ready for marriage All these girls and follow follow sha |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Coldfeet(f): 7:36pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
This is so hilariously true and so saddening. |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by InvertedHammer: 7:36pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
/ She sounded like a lady I know... Does it mean that all Nigerian ladies read from the same script? One would think that this kind of conversation is better handled face to face than via texts. Well, let me shut up. \ 1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Sylverbox(m): 7:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
rahymat: If a guy doesnt propose to u in four years tym u beta leave him because its difficult to bear a child if ure more than 30years old.Says who? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by pansophist(m): 7:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
InvertedHammer: / Lol, yes they do, at least majority of them. 2 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by arsetalks(m): 7:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Hahaha very funny. And some girls go dey there dey push around those ready to marry them. I think it is high time we guys start to dey form hard to get now after all good guys are getting increasingly scarce. 2 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Superstar007(m): 7:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
The guy isn't mentally ready for marriage plus his financial status can't really sustain a family. Marriage is not a one day thing, after the wedding..thats when life actually begins, those people present on the wedding day won't be there to endure with you if eventually the marriage turns source simply because of desperation. I bet the lady in question was acting that way due to peer pressure not necessarily because she wants to spend the rest of her life with the guy. She must have witnessed her friends and colleagues getting married every saturday which triggered that jealousy spirit plus the pressure from family hence she was ready to even sponsor the wedding so as to show off to people. The guy on the other hand no try, he should have presented his future plans to her and his plans for her as well. But hey, they both enjoyed the relationship during the duration it lasted so its unfair to blame either of the party because they both benefited from each other. 1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by dBard: 7:38pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
ok..lemme comment b4 reading d comments. While I understand d need of the girl t define d relationship or get married (if ur reading btw d lines), she got it all wrong.. *marriage is not an 'end' point t a relationship.. *Everyone does not need t get married. Most of d famous ppl in history weren't married. Even Jesus wasn't married. *marriage has neva guaranteed happiness *the biological clock will tick irrespective of her marital status *Noone owes anyone any obligation for wat was willingly done in a loving relationship The guy sha is a Brutally sincere, insensitive ass wit a reeeaaaalllllyyyy Bad case of commitment phobia. will still buy him a pint if I see him 2 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Eyop: 7:39pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
arabbunkum: That guy should go for a psychiatrist test. Why should you waste four years of your life with a lady that you don't intend to marry? So all his 'milk of life ' for four good years just wasted like that? The girl or lady in question is also at fault too because common sense should have alerted her that after 1 year and the guy isn't including her in his future,she would have gladly walk away. Some guys don't have conscience but any sensible lady should be able to read the handwriting on the wall at the initial stage of the relationship. She can never tell me there were no signs but she was foolishly carried away by all the romance. 1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by iyisco2001(m): 7:39pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
franzis: I’d feel like I just wasted four years of my life if this is not heading anywhereThat was me some months ago, though my relationship then was one and a half yr. but I am not regretting it. Keeps me focused. Ladies and there marriage palava. You just won't get some rest and neither can u win them, they are always selfish 1 Like |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Gynacologist(m): 7:41pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
walexzee11: Lolzzzzzzz... ....The guy's reply is damn funny ironically also wisdom oriented..... ..Ladies finds it difficult to understand this kind of guy cos they hate being told the truth....It seems me and the guy are on thesame page!!! |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 7:42pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
mencade5: bllod of Jesus!With the above scenario? I don't mind being labeled an evil woman Haba na.. Four years no be beans Tho i wouldn't date a guy for four good years |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by kcstyle40(m): 7:43pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
THIS IS EPIC......! |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by realborn(m): 7:44pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Shamefully, societal pressure has led us to believe that the event called wedding is a mandatory dependency for survival. Unfortunately it should not be so. If the conversation is culled from a true life experience, I deeply pity the lady and completely respect the guy. It is very tough for any husband to build a suitable home with a contemporary and modern day wife with a remuneration of N120,000 per month. I remember years ago when I was basking in the euphoria of getting married because I had few millions stashed somewhere, how a senior colleague called me and said "wedding is a day's event but marriage lasts a life time". It made little sense at the time because I was getting married to my Dearly beloved whom I had known for 11 years and dated actively for 9 years. Today we have gone through several storms of marital life and have only been able to remain strong because I yearned for it without being coerced and she has remained content thus far. If she had exhibited any overriding and desperate attribute of the female respondent in the subject conversation, we definitely would have hit the rocks. I have seen many blissful weddings lead to eternal traumas for the parties involved. I have seen many men develop kleptomaniac vices because of the insatiable desires of their wives fashioned after the similitude of "I want what my friends have". If indeed the female respondent truly desires to settle and marry her male respondent, she needs to reassure him of her readiness to leave her high horse, receive an inexpensive engagement ring that he can afford without pomp and pageantry; get married at the registry at a mid week service, host few family and friends at an eatery to cut costs on an expensive reception; and settle with him wherever he can afford even if it is the most remote of places. Thereafter, they should join efforts to save and plan for the advent of kids.[i][/i] If unwilling to accept the aforementioned conditions, she should pray fervently for her man to immediately land a suitable job with a pay that will meet her lifestyle demands. Until then I advise she stays in the relationship and continue to enjoy the comfort of her man. Finally, marriage is not compulsory. It leads to trauma if rushed into! 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by dBard: 7:44pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
iyisco2001: Abi o! jumping into relationship s with a marriage time frame in mind forgetting that It Is a relationship, u both work on the relationship n if...maybe, it may lead t marriage. It's a natural progression. Poor girl sha. I could Almost feel her pain |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by husend: 7:45pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Lengthy, I got tired halfway |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Eyop: 7:46pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
iyisco2001: The part that annoyed me was "you used and dump me" what does she mean by that? Did the guy in question cage her,rape her,forcefully did what he did without her consent,etc She was stupidly in love but i don't blame her anyway. Girls/ladies should shine their eyes cos a lot of guys have sold their conscience. |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by prettyboi1(m): 7:46pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I really don't blame the guy to be honest. I don't know that guy,but I think I can honestly beat my chest & say that guy probably has marriage planned somewhere in the future and is working towards it low-key so as not to end up in a failed marriage similar to one he might have seen happen to a close relative or whoever. Otherwise why would he still love her for 4 years. The fact that the girl is now playing societal politics by putting pressure on the guy is what ticks the guy off. That too would tick me off (not because I don't want to marry you,but because you choose to let society define our relationship). The guy then again says that one of the things he's not happy about with the girl over is the fact that if she can let society make her feel pressured to marry now because she has been in a 4 year relationship,then she would also let society pressure them to bring children into the world without the best plannings. I totally understand with the guy. Look,guys usually plan more into the future than women,no offense. Women always want things now & now alone without thinking about the consequences of poor planning later. That's why for instance when a lot of women are turned on & need to have sex they lose their sense of control even when you insist "no condom,no sex" they would still grab you & talk everything talkable (meanwhile they're the ones on the receiving end of getting pregnant & being more prone to STIs. Imagine the chick in this conversation even talking about a wedding on a yacht & publicity on BellaNaija when they haven't even gotten their finances all right yet. It seems to me that she thinks that as long as she's married,all the problems of the world would automatically be solved. No right thinking guy wants his woman & kids in the most stupid conditions when a little planning & patience can make such a great ,blessed difference. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Ayostically: 7:46pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
chemystery: Hmmmmn. That guy sounds nice and indifferent. He seems to like or love the lady but probably foresee no future with her. On the other hand, he might probably not be ready for marriage or thinks it's irritating with the lady rushing up things. The guy in question, might be one of those guys who never dreamt of settling down or who has phobia for settling down. Unlike the female folks, almost every guy has this phobia but this of course varies from one individual to another. My gal is all xcited abou a weddin bt d sound of it irritates me. All des weddin stuff na wahala o 2 Likes |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by johnchiii(m): 7:47pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
lolzzz... funny stuff dat guy must b a policeman! i swear!!! |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 7:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
The story is typical of our girls today wanting to know their fate. |
| Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Asek1(m): 7:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
pansophist: Take a chill pill bro. Am entitled to my opinion and so are you to yours. Capische? |
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