[b][/b]my four years relationship ended yesterday because am a muslim and she's a christian. I love her so much and I think she does too .. But she's so deep in xtianity and that's affecting her decision ..someone told me love overcome all things and if she doesn't wanna stay with me, its because she doesn't love me enough. Is that true?? Cos am looking for a reason to move on

Muslims no dh play with their Religion ooo

Most times religion is a deal breaker.

Bros abeg how dem dey take fall in love with girl?

Its not something you plan for hungryboy..are you hungry for love?

I don't think so. Religion is a big issue in Relationships.

nope, tho in some cases love conquers, they get married... but it usually doesn't end well for them u know... in-laws and their wahalas. some people are so into their religion that they have to leave u becus their religion condemns the relationship.. which is quite understandable if u ask me. so try and move on OK? or think of it this way..
if I marry her, will the marriage be Muslim marriage or christian marriage? will our in-laws accept us? will she be comfortable with it? will our kids be Muslim or christian? will she agree to convert to muslim(since I the man is Muslim)? etc..... u see where the problem is? ask yaself these questions, they'll help u see the reason why u have to let her go and help u move on fast. yeah its sad to loose someone u luv but this is reality not fairytale ..
love ain't really everything.

Love can overcome everything but Religion itself is a big bridge. I can't see myself crossing that bridge.

My family loves her so much that they are willing to let dea only son marry a xtian@ angelina.

Fesomu:
[b][/b]my four years relationship ended yesterday because am a muslim and she's a christian. I love her so much and I think she does too .. But she's so deep in xtianity and that's affecting her decision ..someone told me love overcome all things and if she doesn't wanna stay with me, its because she doesn't love me enough. Is that true?? Cos am looking for a reason to move on

hope d pressure is not frm d gal's family?
Do remember that islam does not forbid u frm marrying a xtain gal and, if ur family is d obstacle here, then say d above position of islam on such union. I have feeling(feelings i cant explain) for a xtain gal, if it happens that i decide to make d move to marrying her and some family members with this prejudice springs up- i can tel them to go to d deepest pit in hell. As islam is guide and , not their pre-conceived notion about xtainity or a certain gal.
Marry her if u love her.

Caseless:
hope d pressure is not frm d gal's family?
Do remember that islam does not forbid u frm marrying a xtain gal and, if ur family is d obstacle here, then say d above position of islam on such union. I have feeling(feelings i cant explain) for a xtain gal, if it happens that i decide to make d move to marrying her and some family members with this prejudice springs up- i can tel them to go to d deepest pit in hell. As islam is guide and , not their pre-conceived notion about xtainity or a certain gal.
Marry her if u love her.

your post oozes of disrespect and arrogance. as islam is your guide, christianity is her guide. respect other people's beliefs. mind you, i'm not here to argue about religion.

Another victim of religious difference palava,just move on Bro and never try to show how liberal and civil you are by going into a relationship with someone of another faith.
I know of some people who got married not minding their beliefs and they're happy but in the Nigeria of today religion matters to people and nothing can change that.

GOSH,,I M ON YOUR SHOES..BUT STILL IN RELATIONSHIP..M SOOI CONFUSED DUNO WAT TO DO.

jammyunn:
your post oozes of disrespect and arrogance. as islam is your guide, christianity is her guide. respect other people's beliefs. mind you, i'm not here to argue about religion.

let me teach u how to use ur empty head. I gave a reference using my religion, if u ar certain about that guide in ur religion that inhibit such union, why not state it here? Do that and , u'd automatically prove to me that ur religion is hate-driven towards other religion than u have tagged islam to be. I pity un-christ-like pple like u who put every flatulence and hogwash out in d name of defending ur religion...and u dont do this with respect to any verse in ur holy book, rather, u do it based on woven negative notion u've bn taught in ur various islamophobic enclaves.

Caseless:
let me teach u how to use ur empty head. I gave a reference using my religion, if u ar certain about that guide in ur religion that inhibit such union, why not state it here? Do that and , u'd automatically prove to me that ur religion is hate-driven towards other religion than u have tagged islam to be. I pity un-christ-like pple like u who put every flatulence and hogwash out in d name of defending ur religion...and u dont do this with respect to any verse in ur holy book, rather, u do it based on woven negative notion u've bn taught in ur various islamophobic enclaves.

thank you...

Love overmeth all things.

So why didn't you change for her?

Don't you love her enough?

jammyunn:
thank you...

what are u thanking me for?

I fell in love with Waheed, a Muslim . And i am a Christian. Presently, my dad is not talking to me. I am trying my best to let him go, Buh It's difficult. That man is d best thing that can happen to any lady. I can't even picture any other girl in his arms. I feel like hitting something

Tallesty1:
Love overmeth all things.

So why didn't you change for her?

Don't you love her enough?

And why didn't she change for him too?
Abi the four year relationship was just a fallacy on her side

I was willing to..but when she told me "she's not happy anytime she looks at me knowing that am not saved..that if rapture happens now, am gona go to hell..that shit got me pissed..m like "so anytime u look @ my family, in ur mind we are bunch of nuisance going to hell because we are muslim..but wen my family see u, they look @ u as dea lovely wife to be..

Uniquexty:
I fell in love with Waheed. Presently, my dad is not talking to me. I am trying my best to let him go, Buh It's difficult. That man is d best thing that can happen to any lady. I can't even picture any other girl in his arms. I feel like hitting something

Hmmm am sorry about that.
A society filled with religious intolerance is what have learnt how to live in.

Tallesty1:
Love overmeth all things.

So why didn't you change for her?

Don't you love her enough?

another shallow post! We always take unity for uniformity. We must all b d same tribe, religion b4 we can marry each other or live together.

Fesomu:
I was willing to..but when she told me "she's not happy anytime she looks at me knowing that am not saved..that if rapture happens now, am gona go to hell..that shit got me pissed..m like "so anytime u look @ my family, in ur mind we are bunch of nuisance going to hell because we are muslim..but wen my family see u, they look @ u as dea lovely wife to be..

Wow! With this kind of belief i don't think you guys can work out she'll always carry the weight of you going to hell on her shoulders and this will make her miserable even if you marry. This seems like one of the times you need to let go.

Fesomu:
I was willing to..but when she told me "she's not happy anytime she looks at me knowing that am not saved..that if rapture happens now, am gona go to hell..that shit got me pissed..m like "so anytime u look @ my family, in ur mind we are bunch of nuisance going to hell because we are muslim..but wen my family see u, they look @ u as dea lovely wife to be..

ur babe is an extremist. Jst leave her for ur own gud. The mutual understanding d difference in ur religion shld have helped u to build is lacking in ur r/ship and, if u continue, b ready for a more brittle r/ship.
That babe funny sha...

Uniquexty:
I fell in love with Waheed. Presently, my dad is not talking to me. I am trying my best to let him go, Buh It's difficult. That man is d best thing that can happen to any lady. I can't even picture any other girl in his arms. I feel like hitting something

same way I love Firdaus but this religion thing is an obstacle. Her family says I charmed her because we are not related by tribe either. She's not just an average moslem, wears a full veil, got admission late because she wanted to finish all the courses in the modrasah. We're still in a relationship and I hope it works out. But unlike before, I have lost a little interest in the whole affair cos her parents punish her cos of me, making me feel bad and sad. Her mum has even said she'd not prosper if we marry. sometimes no food or upkeep money for her which I take up. No matter how we love people, there comes a time when we let go, it can never be easy but it's better.

@ misterlongerman. Its obvious u know nothing about love and I don't think you've loved a woman b4..when u truly love somebody, picture ur life without them .. What u feel that moment, will tell u how love much u love em

jammyunn:
same way I love Firdaus but this religion thing is an obstacle. Her family says I charmed her because we are not related by tribe either. She's not just an average moslem, wears a full veil, got admission late because she wanted to finish all the courses in the modrasah. We're still in a relationship and I hope it works out. But unlike before, I have lost a little interest in the whole affair cos her parents punish her cos of me, making me feel bad and sad. Her mum has even said she'd not prosper if we marry. sometimes no food or upkeep money for her which I take up. No matter how we love people, there comes a time when we let go, it can never be easy but it's better.

Exactly. He is Yoruba nd I am Igbo. My mum said she can never attend such a wedding. My dad slapped me one of the nights we discussing the issue. His own family treats me like their daughter.

ikeola6:

And why didn't she change for him too?
Abi the four year relationship was just a fallacy on her side

It was the emboldened that made quote him.

Uniquexty:
Exactly. He is Yoruba nd I am Igbo. My mum said she can never attend such a wedding. My dad slapped me one of the nights we discussing the issue. His own family treats me like their daughter.

my sis, it's better late than never. If you can just move on because family is first and very important. I made Firdaus understand that the only option we have is to make our family accept us in any way we can, if not, we have to separate. There are things love can't conquer.