Can players/badboys change? hes been cheating on me for the past 3 years. GUYS i need your feedbk, if u are a player/badboy and happen to have a girl, i need ur feedback.

mimi4eva:

Can players/badboys change? hes been cheating on me for the past 3 years. GUYS i need your feedbk, if u are a player/badboy and happen to have a girl, i need ur feedback.

Hang in there. . . . .He would change his ways very soon.

@ sauron,

what if i have grey hairs by then?

@topic, and people say women are smarter. He's been cheating on you for the past 3 years and you're still looking for how to change him. Woman, go find yourself a new man.

mimi4eva:

@ sauron,

what if i have grey hairs by then?

U can't have grey hair before he changes. . . . .
Get a track record of the chics he's been with and try and do something different.
Be unique and u might just be the lucky one he walks the aisle with.

Some girls just cant learn. If a guy is a that way, he'll always be that way and he only needs a little opportunity to go his ways again.
Some girls stay with such guys because they have similar attitudes, I think.
How else do you explain any girl staying on with a man who is cheating on her?

mimi4eva:

@ sauron,
what if i have grey hairs by then?

LOL . . .don't worry. . .it never that long . . .Just make your peace with it and love your man . . .as long as he doesn't bring any of that business close to you . .

~Sauron~:

U can't have grey hair before he changes. . . . .
Get a track record of the chics he's been with and try and do something different.
Be unique and u might just be the lucky one he walks the aisle with.

Love isn't a competition. She's invested 3 years into the dude and nothing good came out of it. Plus, how about if a new girl comes by and she's even more unique?

StephenP:

Love isn't a competition. She's invested 3 years into the dude and nothing good came out of it. Plus, how about if a new girl comes by and she's even more unique?

So she should move on and be the next victim of anutha playa out there??

mimi4eva:

@ sauron,

what if i have grey hairs by then?

ur own don finish be dat!!

~Sauron~:

So she should move on and be the next victim of anutha playa out there??

She needs to properly evaluate the men she meets before she dates them. If they display many of the characteristics of the dude she is with now, that's a red light.

StephenP:

She needs to properly evaluate the men she meets before she dates them. If they display many of the characteristics of the dude she is with now, that's a red light.

Tell u what. . . . . .Someone like mimi4eva are only attracted to the same breed of men.
The roc boys, men on top of their game, good-looking, successful and sex appealing. . . . Unfortunately for mimi4eva, guys like these are hotcakes and are wanted by loads of women.

Do u really think a gurl that has been with a topman would go for lower league guys?? Ask yourself!!!
She's more likely to be with anutha playa more than a "Mr Nice Guy".

Tell u what. . . . . .Someone like mimi4eva are only attracted to the same breed of men.
The roc boys, men on top of their game, good-looking, successful and sex appealing.

lol, so cant attractive guys be faithful?, i mean is it a gender thing coz i have spent the past 3 yrs letting other guys know im unavailable but he clearly hasnt,

mimi4eva:

lol, so can't attractive guys be faithful?, i mean is it a gender thing because i have spent the past 3 years letting other guys know I'm unavailable but he clearly hasnt,

Can u blame him??
Women are better at seduction than men, innit??

@Mimi, why don't you just move on, dont see any point trying to chage him.

Can u blame him??
Women are better at seduction than men, innit??

@ sauron, it seems your a bit of a bad boy yourself, lol
girls dont seduce guys, how about when a girl is minding her own business and the guy comes to flirt with her, yes girls flirt back but if ur in a relationship the you should know when to draw the line, bad boys endulge in lust and they love it!,

you fell in love with him because of his badboyness and you are not able to leave him because of same reason.

Why are you complaining about what is attractive to you?

Haba. Badboiness is sexy and romantic. tell me I am wrong

mimi4eva:

@ sauron, it seems your  a bit of a bad boy yourself, lol
girls don't seduce guys, how about when a girl is minding her own business and the guy comes to flirt with her, yes girls flirt back but if ur in a relationship the you  should know when to draw the line, bad boys endulge in lust and they love it!,

It's a challenge. . . . . . .
Men are adventuresome and he cheats not because he doesn't love you BUT because he wants to see if he can do it and get away with it.
Sauron is worse than a bad boy, he is a villain.

tkb417 here


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you fell in love with him because of his badboyness and you are not able to leave him because of same reason.

Why are you complaining about what is attractive to you?

Haba. Badboiness is sexy and romantic. tell me I am wrong

, naaa theres nothin bout bad boys! and now i know better

Sauron is worse than a bad boy, he is a villain.

lol, i thought as much,

mimi4eva:

, naaa theres nothin bout bad boys! and now i know better

But initially it was the attraction even though you claim to know better now.

I bet you you are held back unconsiously because of same reason. . . lol

mimi4eva:

lol, i thought as much,

U must be genetically related to Einstein. . . . .

Seriously, i have seen many cases of "players" getting tamed.
U can do it. U gast to be patient, firm and hard-working.

Hmmm, Comments reservd!

3 yrs cheatin nd u wanna change 'em?, erm no comment

~Sauron~:

Tell u what. . . . . .Someone like mimi4eva are only attracted to the same breed of men.
The roc boys, men on top of their game, good-looking, successful and sex appealing. . . . Unfortunately for mimi4eva, guys like these are hotcakes and are wanted by loads of women.

Do u really think a gurl that has been with a topman would go for lower league guys?? Ask yourself!!!
She's more likely to be with anutha playa more than a "Mr Nice Guy".

Are you implying that Mr Nice Guy is lower league dude? Because he isn't. He knows when to turn on his "bad boy" and when to turn it off and really appreciate his woman unlike the playa who leaves it on because in reality he is insecure and he thinks that any woman he hooks up with will leave him in an instant, thus, the need to have many.

I agree that she'll more likely to hook up with a dude who's like her boyfriend but it's all part of the learning process. In the end, she'll be at the altar with Mr Nice Guy once she finds him.

StephenP:

Are you implying that Mr Nice Guy is lower league dude? Because he isn't. He knows when to turn on his "bad boy" and when to turn it off and really appreciate his woman unlike the playa who leaves it on because in reality he is insecure and he thinks that any woman he hooks up with will leave him in an instant, thus, the need to have many.

Babes like mimi4eva are not attracted to the "Mr Nice Guys". . . . .She gets bored easily with them.
She wants a guy that has got loads of mystery about him, a guy that struts his masculine sexuality.
Dude, just as men are turned on by a woman's femininity, women like mimi respond to overt male masculinity(a player has loads of that).

Players exude untamed masculinity, independence and confidence. To mimi4eva, these traits(especially confidence) are an aphrodisiac.
The problem is, in the hands of PLAYAS, confidence becomes selfish arrogance.
But women are responding to guys like this on a purely elemental and emotional level.

~Sauron~:

Babes like mimi4eva are not attracted to the "Mr Nice Guys". . . . .She gets bored easily with them.
She wants a guy that has got loads of mystery about him, a guy that struts his masculine sexuality.
Dude, just as men are turned on by a woman's femininity, women like mimi respond to overt male masculinity(a player has loads of that).

Players exude untamed masculinity, independence and confidence. To mimi4eva, these traits(especially confidence) are an aphrodisiac.
The problem is, in the hands of PLAYAS, confidence becomes selfish arrogance.
But women are responding to guys like this on a purely elemental and emotional level.

At the moment women like her are simply infatuated with the bad boy but who do they end up marrying? Mr. Nice Guy. She's with him only because she is sucked up in the "Beauty and the Beast" mentality like oh he is a playa but I can change him then they end up spending as in this case, 3 years, trying to change him. But in the end, they're frustrated with the playa because he, unlike the Nice Guy, hasn't dropped the bad boy attitude.

StephenP:

At the moment women like her are simply infatuated with the bad boy but who do they end up marrying? Mr. Nice Guy. She's with him only because she is sucked up in the "Beauty and the Beast" mentality like oh he is a playa but I can change him then they end up spending as in this case, 3 years, trying to change him. But in the end, they're frustrated with the playa because he, unlike the Nice Guy, hasn't dropped the bad boy attitude.

It's a conundrum. . . . .
She either sticks to someone she is not attracted to with the possibility of a marriage OR be with someone she is attracted to with a possibility of a broken heart.
Trust me, women of these days still choose the latter. They always go for what they want(Metal Boyz).

But does the fact that a guy is cheating on his girlfriend make him a "badboy"?
What if he has a good reason and dosent want to hurt her feelings by breaking-up with her.

~Sauron~:

It's a conundrum. . . . .
She either sticks to someone she is not attracted to with the possibility of a marriage OR be with someone she is attracted to with a possibility of a broken heart.
Trust me, women of these days still choose the latter. They always go for what they want(Metal Boyz).

Those are girls. Women know not to settle for the BS that playas bring. . . at least not for long. Also, it is possible to be attracted to the Nice Guy for example, look at the number of e-girlfriends I get on the daily.

Okija_juju:

But does the fact that a guy is cheating on his girlfriend make him a "badboy"? 
What if he has a good reason and dosent want to hurt her feelings by breaking-up with her.

She's been calling him a playa so we're going off of that.