Truth is, the definition of the term “forming” with respect to women is a very
subjective one and I’m sure if you ask ten guys, they’d all have
different definitions. To make this easier and more effective, lets
start by defining what “forming” ISN’T with a few scenarios.

Survivor/Miss Independent
She’s in her late twenties, not from a super rich home but she’s
made something of herself. She’s a manager at work, drives a good
SUV, lives in 1004 and dresses better than half the models in
VOGUE. She doesn’t talk a lot, she looks “Amazeballs” and yes,
she’s single. You are not a pushover yourself, you have a decent
job, look great and occasionally bump into her in your office
building but apart from the occasional elevator ‘hi’ and ‘hellos’,
you’ve never really gone out your way to approach her. You just
assume from distance that she must be a snotty b*tch and then
you go around telling the other guys in the office – “don’t mind
that chic, she can form die” - err NO brother. She’s not forming.

Daddy’s Little Girl
She’s quite like Miss Survivor but difference is, she was born into
affluence. Daddy is a Governor, Mummy is a senator etc etc. She
tries to be humble and mingle with most people but truth is, she
had her relationship cycle drawn out for her from birth. Except
God had it in your plans to be the exception in the family, she
really can’t be more than friends with you. She might not come out
to tell you because she doesn’t want to sound like a silly rich baby,
but really, you sef, you can like to get the picture and understand.
NOT FORMING.
When No means NO!
I’ve written on this before and I think this is the most straight
forward scenario but for the purpose of this post, I’ll explain again.
Twice. Yes, two times. That for me is the limit. When you approach
a woman once and then twice and she says NO both times, let it
go. Move on. I say twice because well, everyone deserves a second
chance. Maybe she was having a bad day the first time. Heck,
maybe you even looked like sh*t the first time or as well soon
discuss, maybe she was just testing you but you only get one more
shot. Forget what you read in the bible yo, any chic who tests a
guy more than two times knows very little about the competition
out there and probably isn’t worth your stress. Before you stop me
and say your wife gave you ‘ela’ seven times before she finally
said yes. Well, congratulations Mr exception to the rule. Please
please please DO NOT tell your children too much of that story.
Thank you.

The Female Playette
I put up a post on this recently. It fits perfectly here because
truth is, if a chic is a renowned playette and you present yourself
as a maga/mugu before her altar then I’m sorry, this doesn’t
count as forming. Most times the signs are right there in caps,
underlined, TWICE. But you see, some guys were born with the
maga gene. I beg you in the name of the Almighty, if a chic plays
you, please respect yourself and just keep quiet about it instead of
going around spreading word about how she ‘forms’.
I can think up more scenarios but one way or the other, I think we
can trace them back to one of these. Now that we know what
forming isn’t, it’s time to ask ourselves or try to understand what
forming is and more importantly, WHY women even form in the
first place.
For me, it’s almost simple. You know what you want, you see what
you want, what you want falls on your laps, dances naked around
you for days and you still do not grab it. That for me is forming.
Now if you missed it, let me highlight the first part of that
statement “you know what you want”. It might sound funny but a
confused person should not be accused of ‘forming’ and to be fair,
a lot of us men are just as confused as women when it comes to
matters of the heart and the erm.. other heart. This isn’t some
form of excuse for those genuinely guilty of forming but I think
it’s something we need to consider before judging them. As human,
our wants and needs change as we grow older.
A 21 year old guy or gurl probably just wants to have fun. An
average looking guy who speaks well, isn’t boring, is generally
presentable and doesn’t have a hideous scar running from one side
of his face to the other approaches this chic when he knows she’s
publicly single and searching – this sounds like a match made in
cupid heaven right? But as the guys know, it doesn’t always
happen like that. For ‘some unknown’ reason, she doesn’t say yes
but doesn’t say no either and trust me, this is one of the most
puzzling things ever and for this reason, the poor guy gets lost in
some endless loop for a while. It’s not as if their souls are bound
together or not like he won’t stop eventually but most men I know
love closure. Before he walks away, he want to at least know ‘why’.
I can paint another scenario with a 28 year old chic who’s looking
to get married but I’ll leave the examples and scenarios for you
guys.
So lets get into the dialogue. You’ve read my definition, what is
yours? What is and what isn’t forming? Based on what I’ve
written, how often do you think you’ve misunderstood a ‘no’ for
‘forming’? As much as possible, let us try to use examples and
scenarios to make things easy. It would also be interesting to hear
from the women. Why do you ‘form’? You know what to do, use the
comment box to express you.

Wow.. Interesting and lengthty. Nice piece.

MzPreshie:
Wow.. Interesting and lengthty. Nice piece.

thanks! what's your take tho!