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FameGlory:
That's is how my Uncle who lives in USA for more than 20yrs came back in 2020 to marry a Nigerian lady.

My Uncle filed for her to come and join him in USA.

Lady went for her USA Spousal visa interview in September 2022.

After 2 weeks, my Uncle fell sick with stroke after hearing she failed the interview.

The Visa Officer gave the wife conditions to bring "Evidence of Marriage".

His job didn't give him Health insurance and he didn't have private health insurance so he was brought back to Nigeria in 2023 for treatment.

His job was not too strong in USA.

America refused to treat him.

This lady was in Imo state working and never came to see her husband whom we were now taking care of in Lagos.

We called her and she kept on giving excuses that she is working.

The day she came, this lady came with Camera Phone and was just snapping series of pictures of both of them together.

She snapped over 200 pictures of herself and my uncle.

Snapping pictures with a man that is sick and managing to recover.

I suspected something suspicious and told my family about it.

In December 2023, we got a call that the lady has traveled to USA finally

Though we have no proof.

Meanwhile my Uncle is still in Nigeria recovering from stroke.

He can't even walk as we speak.

I am so angry right now

She used my Uncle to travel to USA for her own personal gain.

Last week, her old father in the Village came and brought back the bride price my uncle paid

Everything was just a trap

My uncle was just a vehicle they used for their daughter to move to the USA.

Who knows if this stroke affecting my uncle is even a spiritual attack from her and her old father in the village?

Men please be wise.

Some women are evil.

I will open a thread to share this story soon to warn single men especially those in USA.

God will help us.

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Please how can I confirm if somebody is living in USA?
I want to confirm what we were told.
I need help.
Thank you.

At least he brought back the bride price He was given a refund

Tell me, if the wife had a stroke, would the husband still want to be with her?

Golan007:
I agree with you.

A wise Nigerian man should know it is better to marry an American woman that would at least be prettier than the Nigerian woman who would do exactly the same thing.

Knock yourself out

oluwaahmed:
Please say naija women don't categorize. Indians, Koreans, naija-Americans & white people believe in dignity of labor and dont care whatever job the man is doing as long as the man can pay his own part of the family expenses. My white friend she's in IT she has plenty money but her husband is an electrician. I asked them hubby if he would like to start his own biz and he refused saying him no get time for tax and staffing issues that he's earning $50 per hour and he's OK with it. There are many. My Indian GF spent every weekend in my house for a year fùckin and cooking only for her to go marry an Indian she barely knew cos of her parents. Sponsored the guy abroad even gave him money to buy car fir Doordash till he finds his feet. The problem is naija men don't know their worth.

All women care about the jobs men do, stop lying.


Seems like your Indian GF didn't see your worth either She left you to go fvck her cousin and yet Nigerian women are being brought into your discussion Are we the cause of your failed interracial unions?
Your mumu self really thought your Indian GF will bring your black self home to her parents?


If that Indian woman refused to marry the man her parents wanted(likely her cousin) what do you think would have happened to her?
Have you heard about honour killings?

If she can chose what her parents want over you, what does that say about the tight-knit bond her family has over her? A whole adult.

You know zilch about Indians.

Keep comparing your relationships with outsiders. The dynamics is just not the same.

Golan007:
I have agreed with you.

Many of their wives are not worth marrying.

Neither are they

They want to be alpha and omega ontop their wife's money. Explain how that will work.

descarado:
If it's only salary, that's better.
They will never help in the house.
They want a traditional wife as well as the money.
As time goes on, the woman is mentally and physically stressed. She make money and give the man to send to his family like it's his money. Yet the family badmouth her. The man will never open up that the money is from the wife.

When I wanted to travel outside the country, everybody was like go and study nursing. They will push and push you. Some work more than 12 hours a shift go home and become a wifey. Cook and wash. Some men can't even load the washing machine.
The worst is the money you give them, they use to have side chick. Some of these wives know and it's a stab in the heart.
The things I see here, gosh, any man that come out to cry, I have no pity at all.
What they do here is shocking and they do it boldly and with pride.


As for those who earn more than their wives, no be naija man again. He willstill behave like one regardless.

No woman want a divorce or a broken home. All the broken homes I have seen and intervened in, 98% is caused by the man.
And guess what, if they are married to non Nigerian, they behave.

And some of these non Nigerians don't even care to make a single Nigerian dish for them, yet they are in it enduring. Why nit replicate it for your naija wife. Is she your slave?

Tired of these stories.

Exactly. They want to be an alpha and omega but yet their wives dey feed them. You want to be a controlling alpha ontop your wife's money.

They want a submissive provider but yet a traditional woman. Such hypocrisy.

Golan007:
You are talking rubbish.

Anyway, this is for the barely educated men who indulge in bringing to US some worthless women.

They're barely educated for a reason. I have already given my reasons. It's not my fault if you fall to understand.

Golan007:
Does she really pay for his upkeep?

Or does she contribute to the home, including the kids, they'd likely have?

Yes. That's the definition of a breadwinner. Hope this helps!

membranus:
Fake narrative to justify your sisters evil deeds. No man in America will ever for his wife's paycheck, or rely solely on her for his family upkeep.

Oh really? Ask those Nigerian men that killed their nurse-wives. They did it because she didn't want to give him her salary.

It happens in Nigeria too, the women are breadwinners and just don't talk about it and the man takes all the glory.

Golan007:
I am still asking one question:

You mean a woman who didn't have 2 kobo to rub together believes her benefactor is beneath her once she begins to earn?

Is a home about competition or partnership?

Indeed, this generation is not worth compassion.

Are you not getting the point?

He's not her benefactor. He trained her as a nurse for his own selfish reason.


He did it so she becomes the breadwinner, not him. That's not her benefactor, he's a user.

CommonSense1967:
Texas is not rich? That's news to me.
A lot of the divorce are due to Nigerian men bringing these ladies to the US as financial security.
You will see a guy with very poor paying job go to Nigeria, bring a lady and push her into the nursing field. Later the lady will realize that she's worth a lot more than the guy driving cab ot Uber.
Women don't respect men that are of less worth than they are. Few ones don't mind but most women don't simply by nature.
Any little disagreement can lead to divorce.
Some women don't care. My sister has been the family main source of income in her household for decades and they are happily married. Most of the young ones now are the opposite.

They push their wives into the the nursing field because they know that's where the money is.
But they don't do those jobs for themselves because they think it's beneath them.

When he starts asking for her salary is where the relationship goes downhill. Some of the Nigerian men that killed their nurse-wives in America gave those reasons as a motive.

"Darling I just want you to be empowered, go and train as a nurse" YEAH RIGHT!

Golan007:
You mean a man would bring a woman who is a pauper in Nigeria to US, give her confidence, support her, and suddenly she becomes too big for him?

Is this what Indians and Koreans do too?

Gerrard59:
But how does a man who is an Uber driver in the day and security guard at night afford to sponsor someone throughout an academic program? I doubt her tale. Two, why did he not improve himself academically? When you tell these men to be a bit selfish and SPEND on yourself as a MAN, they no go hear word!

Good luck to those involved.

Alot of these Nigerian men put their wives in nursing school and turn around years later when she qualifies to ask for her cheque later on.
Their real intention was to make her the cash cow of the family.

Why are these men not using that extra money they have to invest in themselves so they're better equipped to handle the finances of their home?

Alot of them think nursing roles are feminine jobs that are beneath them. That's why they rather their wife train as a nurse and become the family's money-maker.

When the man's ask for her salary that's when the war starts.

Lol. It was pretty obvious.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Her womb is worth more than that HND. The girl should run. It's a stupid deal, it reeks or abuse and narcissism. Men always want to trap women with a bright future and bring them down with pregnancy

Yeah. I wonder why no one is addressing that he wanted a child out of her. Weird deal.

Why does he have to bring a child into it?

Abeg Nigerian women start making your own money. To avoid see finish.

Aragon001:
Same as too many black women are community projects/ properties/goods/boreholes/..

Are you down low?

PantShifter:
An intelligent high quality lady should not settle for a broke guy who has no prospects.

There is a difference between a broke guy who has prospects and a broke guy who has no prospects whatsoever

Oh ok. It's cool when yall say it, it's a problem when we say it

PantShifter:
The girls they're banging are not really high quality girls

You're saying high quality girls don't go for broke men?

She should run. Single fathers aren't looking for love, they're looking for help.

Mira292:
Yes but I really do love him

You'll learn

MrLibrarian:
you would have responded to the pm first to see whatever manner of conversation I offered and if not interested you could decide to bounce

Please keep your offer for yourself and members of your family

Mira292:
I said he was
Please read the story again

You still with him aren't you?

DND069:
Ladies, now tell me why many more men wouldn't opt for baby mamas. Cos to have a wife is like writing a suicide note.

So baby mamas are immune to paternity fraud

When he's not taking care of his biological children?

Starboytwo:
Na only pastor I no say woman dey respect.

But most women don't want to marry pastors lol

People from sudan are very anti-black and call themselves Arabs. South Sudan seperated from them for this reason.

Let them look to their arab friends for help

Flangelo12:
We know you really want to insult black men.

This is your opportunity.

It's actually not their fault. The black community isn't ready to accept gay people so they need to hide who they are.

Too many black men are downlow

If he is maltreating you, why are you still there?

mohbadliveson:
Why not sell the animals to foreign zoos and make money instead of eating them?

They aren't that smart.

What??

MrLibrarian:
most of you ladies nowadays it's pride and ego that's your bane and that's why most of you fall out of luck and favour with your benefactors.
Do you know the context of the conversation I wanted bringing up with you that probably would have been beneficial you and your career?
Or you think I'm just like other randy guys that sent a mail just for amorous or lewd reasons?
You need to change your mentality.

Nigga, you didn't want to bring up anything substantial. Leave story.

Do you know what my career is? What makes you think I need your help? Have I ever come to NL to beg for help?