The easiest time to prevent a divorce or an
unhappy marriage is before marriage, not after.
There is no gainsaying that love can have such a
drunken effect on the about-to-wed that clear
danger signals become unimportant to them, while
hope becomes the only commodity. After all, is it
not said that love conquers all? Great! But what
type of love is meant there?
There are traits that some people cannot drop. It is
like hoping that a right-handed spouse will one day
become left-handed: a classical case of waiting for
Godot!
If you are looking for a wife or a husband, please
be wary of these groups of people.
Those who can never say, “sorry”
They would hurt you, annoy you, disappoint you,
but would never apologise, because they believe
that it would belittle and demean them. When you
are wrong, you apologise to them, and when you
are right, you still apologise to them, hoping that
that they would change. But they never do. You
start to feel irritated and agitated. The love and
respect you felt for them start to wear away.
Those who can never say, “Thank you”
Whatever you do for them, they are never grateful.
“Why should I say, ‘Thank you’ when you are just
doing your duty?” Some would say that their
gratitude is in their heart. Do you have to open a
heart to see the gratitude and get it? Such an
attitude causes irritation and frustration and
unhappiness.
Such people also believe the world owes them a lot.
They go around their activities with an entitlement
mentality. They are difficult to please.
Those who have excessive libido or inadequate
libido
Sexual intercourse is a very important factor in
marriage, but when you have a spouse that needs it
for breakfast, lunch and supper, it is difficult to
have any peace in the family. Infidelity also knocks
on door. On the other hand, when you have a
spouse that hates sex or thinks that sex should only
be had once a year during the wedding anniversary
or birthday celebration, there is also trouble in the
house, and infidelity is usually a challenge.
Men who think women are to be seen but not
heard
Some men still live in the 18th century, in spite of
the depth of education they profess. It is true that
marriage is not a zone for feminist crusade, but if a
man has archaic views about women, then, please
avoid him like an Ebola patient. Watch out for
statements like: “How can an ordinary woman want
to be the CEO?” “How can a woman chat with men?”
Women who believe they don’t need men in
their lives
Such women believe that they are self-sufficient in
all things. They have the I-don’t-give-a-damn
attitude. Men feel ill at ease when they are with
women who don’t allow a room in their lives for a
man to fill. Such women find it difficult to express
love. They fly into quarrels easily. This creates
frustration and conflicts.
Men who are looking for housemaids, not wives
These are men who still live in the 15th century.
They have an archaic idea of what the role of wives
is. They believe that women are only meant to cook,
clean the house, bear children, and serve the men.
They believe that when the men talk, women must
just obey. The man can keep mistresses, but the
woman should keep quiet and not even be seen
greeting a man. A woman should not work, should
not step out of the house, and should not complain
whatever the man doles out to her.
Those who can never trust anybody
These are those who believe that everybody is a
dangerous enemy that has evil designs against
them. They have an obsession with fear of people,
including their spouse, that it is irritating. Once a
spouse cannot be trusted, there can never be joy in
the family.
Those who have no respect for others
People can mouth love, but without respect, a
marriage can never be happy. Women who love to
prove a point by insulting their husbands, or men
who believe in treating their wives without dignity
in the name of cutting their wives to size: such
people make terrible marriage partners.
Women who see all men as competition that
must not be given an inch
Marriage is not a place for activism. A woman who
sees a man as a competitor rather than a
complement is a dangerous person to marry. When
a man has to contend with a woman every minute,
when a man is always too conscious of what to say
or do to his wife, then there is a problem.
Those who can’t control their temper
Hot-tempered people are dangerous. They can utter
anything in anger. They can do things that they will
regret for life. They can be violent. Their words can
be venomous. They can put you in trouble.
Those who cannot forgive
Forgiveness makes us look superhuman. But there
are those who cannot forgive, no matter the
circumstances. Not only can they not forgive, they
can also not forget. Because they can’t forgive, they
usually think of how to get revenge.
Those who have not been weaned by their
parents
Age has little to do with maturity in marriage.
Those who have not been “weaned” by their
parents make poor marriage partners. They are full
of “Mummy said”, “Daddy said”. They take every
family discussion to their parents. They cannot do
anything unless their parents approve. They allow
their parents to run their homes in the name of
showing respect to the mother-in-law or father-in-
law.
Those who are tied to the apron strings of their
parents make marriage tasteless. Such spouses are
as a constant source of frustration and sadness.
You will always be wrong. You will always be vilified.
In summary, marriage is not a bed of roses. There
is nobody without some faults or idiosyncrasies.
But it is foolhardy to walk into a landmine with
one’s eyes open, praying and hoping that the
explosive would not go off.
To avoid heartache, neither blind love nor
desperation to get a married should push a
bachelor or spinster to jump into a marriage with
someone that will cause nothing but pain, sadness,
and sorrow.
www.punchng.com/opinion/12-kinds-of-people-you-must-never-marry/

Those who keep friend zoning you

@Op pls, learn to use numbers. You said 12 kinds of people.... pls, I did not see 1. How do I understand dat? Pls, modify ur post so someone will be interested in reading it. Thanks.

rutibaby:
@Op pls, learn to use numbers. You said 12 kinds of people.... pls, I did not see 1. How do I understand dat? Pls, modify ur post so someone will be interested in reading it. Thanks.

hello miss, d op got d info directly from punch newspaper.. check d link up there

Nice article from punch. I still hate the notion that women were oppressed.

Lot of different people with their ways.

olasmith10:



hello miss, d op got d info directly from punch newspaper.. check d link up there

ok. Lol