I've noticed a trend lately:

"my girlfriend and I have been dating for some time now, she loves me like crazy and she's good and all that but now that she wants us to take it to the next level, I don't think I love her like that"

What's fvcking wrong with people?! If you don't love a person "like that" why lead them on? Why not be upfront with them about what you want from the beginning?

Ladies and gentlemen! Why prolong a relationship if it has no certain future? Why break people's heart just cause you're not ready to take responsibility and commit?

I think every party should know what they're signing up for.

Having said all that, seeing the situation on ground and how both parties may end up miserable and feeling used at the end of the day, is "friends with benefit" (fvck buddies), where everyone knows what they're signing up something you may consider?

And does it work?

FRIENDS with Benefit: being Konji Stabilizers since the days of the wise King Solomon

Even if you tell them what you want from the beginning they will still expect more. That's most girls for you.

Nah it doesn't work.
at first it does, but give it a lil' time and then watch feelings and jealousy creep in and mess the whole thing up.

this is why I like myself, when I know I don't like you again, I end it. I hate to please someone and displease myself

It all depends on your priorities. I wonder why this is coming from you @OP though. I thought you were in Love...***wink***

Brandnew2:
It all depends on your priorities. I wonder why this is coming from you @OP though. I thought you were in Love...***wink***

I agree. But if marriage isn't a priority for you and you're of the popular opinion that "body no be wood", isn't it only fair that you find someone with the same mentality to so that nobody feels used and cheated at the of the day?

@emboldened I think the premise doesn't nullify my prerogative to still ask my question...

Hehehe

ireneony:
this is why I like myself, when I know I don't like you again, I end it. I hate to please someone and displease myself

Twale jare!

Man it's a complicated journey.

It may sound like all fun to you, a golden chance to live care-free and an experimenting ground to do all you wouldn't do in a normal relationship but believe me, it's way complicated than that.

Friends with Benefits are like junk food. They're delicious and addictive, but they don't sustain you.

The problem is, these things have a tendency to go south pretty quick - and not in a good way. They'd probably leave you with scars and awful memories.

Since you already believe in relationships, why don't you try and create one that bodes well with you and all you believe in?

That your relationship with Miss A took an awful ending doesn't really entail that same will play out with Miss B, mind you.

Go out there, hang out with them ladies, hook up with the one you find amazing and work out your love life fine.

Like I'd always say, a failed relationship is as a result of failed leadership skills. It's your ship to captain, shying away from such duty just to embrace the friends with benefits idea goes to underline your incompetence.

If u must have friends wit benefits den i suggest u do it wit an ex dat u're sure u can neva get married to. Dat way u can curb wat eva feelings dat want to arise.
Its workable that way.

MizMyColi:
LoL
Different strokes, different folks.

At the base, one thing every FWB relatonship has in common is this - Self Centredness.

rily?

MizMyColi:
Yep
Just an opinion tho'

Self-Centredness? I don't think so

I guess u likened the benefits to sex and romance only. There cud be other mutual benefits tho.

Oga Xcapizt, my last r/shp ended because I understood her too much.

In her words, she said "I can't date or marry a guy that understands me like you".

So I was a friend with benefits.





Seriously, this FWB thingy ain't for me because things will definitely mess up.

You know the saying that, "Things aren't complicated. It's the people that make them complicated"

That's what FWB does.

Someone must surely develope feelings.

Girls are likely to start it when they meet a guy they kinda like, he isn't a best friend but he is a friend they wouldn't really want to lose.

Some keep "it" with an ex they cannot marry for some reasons and at same time do not wanna lose.

Guys go into it because they want sex, but do not want the complications that come with an actual relationship

There is a saying that "some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends when their benefits stop".

It is all fun and game until someone takes it serious.

Then poo happens.


And they'd blame it on the devil.

I pity that guy sometimes

MizMyColi:
Okay

You wear glasses at night?

Black one for that matter?



Now this is eye abuse.

Fwb never works. Someone always ends up catching feeling

MizMyColi:

Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=friends%20with%20benefits



In addition to the sex?
Doesn't change what is, imo

never knew the OP was referring to the 'Dictionary' meaning