I was 15 and you were 13. Exactly one year
and four months apart. But they will say two
years because apparently, in months, we are
supposed to round up. I had never met you
before, even though we went to the same
school. After the usual Friday night routine
of underage binge drinking and smoking to
look cool, we ended up staying over at a
mutual friend’s house. His not-so-traditional
parents made it an ideal hangout.

We were talking casually when I first noticed
you flirting. I wasn’t exactly a looker back
then, and definitely not the kind of guy who
girls at our school usually flirted with, so I
guess I was flattered. I made some kind of
attempt to mirror your advances and we
kissed.

“Bed” turned out to be you, your friend and
me sleeping on three mattresses in a dining
room. We held hands when the lights were
out and you guided my hand to your breasts.
We gave up our virginity in eight minutes of
clumsiness and confusion. You took my belt
off and I battled with your bra. We were as
silent as we could have been so as not to
wake your friend who lay just two metres
away, asleep.

I think we were both relieved when it
finished. We didn’t use a condom, I guess
because I never expected to have sex any
time soon and if you did have one with you it
wasn’t offered. It was entirely mute apart from the simple, but essential, “Do you want to … ?” and “Yes.” We parted with closed-mouth kisses and I returned to my mattress to sleep. I woke up being shaken by my friend’s father and two policemen. They were telling me to get dressed and come with them. I didn’t have a clue what was going on. One of the officers instructed the other to “bag” my T-shirt so my friend’s dad gave me his to put on; all the while I was being
escorted through the house rubbing my eyes
and asking what was happening.

Through the living room door, I saw more
police comforting you. My friend was
shouting something in my defence but it
wasn’t until I was being arrested at the side
of the police car for rape that I realised what
was happening. The arresting officer held my arm in detention until I finished heaving my stomach on to the street before pushing me into the back of the police car and driving me to the station.

I was processed and taken to a single cell
where the door was closed and my head
exploded. I didn’t make a single sound and
declined the blanket and the solicitor, as if
they might let me out for good behaviour.
They took my shoelaces so I didn’t hang
myself.

I woke up in tears to the realisation that I
was still in a nightmare that couldn’t possibly be true. My foster dad had been called and he came and cried with me, demanded a solicitor and sat through a police interview so in-depth and humiliating that I still refuse to let myself remember it. I had samples of my nails, saliva and pubic hair taken.

For three months, my bail was renewed
monthly while the case was investigated. All
this time, I wasn’t allowed to arrive at school
until every other pupil was in class, for their
safety. I spent every day in isolation, having
work from each lesson sent to me via
reception staff. If I went to the toilet, I’d be
accompanied inside and prevented from
talking to any other pupil in the school who
I’d spent the last three years trying to make
friends with.

My foster placement nearly collapsed because social workers were not sure if I could be trusted to live in the same house as my foster sister. I became completely introverted. The charges were dropped in January, after the worst Christmas of my life. I was told that charges against you and me for underage sex had been considered but
weren’t pursued. They did not give me any
options to take action against you. I never saw you after that night. In the six years since, I have done all I can to block out the horror of not just that night but of every month spent on bail. While the police seemed to hold true to innocent until proven guilty,my friends and their families certainly
didn’t. Even when I returned to a you-free
school, I never quite recovered. My relationships since have been damaged and I still struggle to trust my partners.
I tell practically no one now about what happened, for fear of being perceived as a rapist and because I guess they’d say stories like mine make it harder for real victims of rape to be believed.

I moved away from home and keep minimal
ties with my old life, but I don’t think I’ll
ever forget what you did. I don’t know why
you told your friend that I had raped you –
maybe because you didn’t want to admit
you’d had sex so casually or maybe because
you were scared. But I will never be able to forgive you for what you did to me.
You damaged my perception of women
entirely and the only relationship I have
since been able to sustain is with a man I
can trust.

Rape is an abhorrent crime and every victim
should be able to report it. But false
accusations of rape are abhorrent too, and
the victims too easily forgotten. Not only do
false allegations damage the life of the victim but they also contribute to the trivialisation of the seriousness of genuine sexual violence.


-Anonymous.


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hmmm. fact

the girl is always a victim.
even if it was consensual...
if i was abroad ill record or video tape d awkward conversation of asking if she wanted sex. or not.

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kristina1:
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Freest:
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girls are always victim and the rapist are always the male;can u see d kind of just society we are living in.