Maximus85:


Just listen to yourself, what do you want them have as the foundation of their mentality.
Normal people are introduced to sex at certain stage of their lives not from infancy. Instead of your babies watching educative cartoons like Bonnie, telly tubbies, rug rats and the likes, why not show them sex movies instead? I'm done with you. This society is dead.

dude are u married? if yes, do u have kids? if u do not then u do not know what u are saying.

bisous:


SUBCONSCIOUS being the key word...
Meaning you can't tell

Subconscious does not equal to you 'can't tell', it just means you don't have focal awareness or forethought or pre-planning, we sometimes call it absentmind in 9ja....but after every subsconscious event or action, if you look back; you will be able to narrate what happened to a T and more importantly you will know the effect of that subconscious action and be able to tie the cause to the effect.

e.g. While driving home from work yesterday, I was so lost in thought thinking about the current state of affairs in Nigeria, that I drove off the road, hit an embankment then rolled into a ditch. Now looking back, I know exactly what happened, I know what caused the accident, it was me over think about 9ja, I know the effect of the accident, my car is damaged, I have bruises and cuts,?the ambulance came, etc...this is completely made up story, but you get the point.

Child development is in stages, at 6 months; they do not have that kind of awareness and it does not affect them. Am not saying, it is the right thing to do.

Even when child become of age and are aware, they are innocent and don't attribute anything negative to that action until society and parents starts polluting their mind.

missjenna:
Op, its a surprise that you are more concerned about loosing concentration during intercourse than on the effect such practice is having on your child.

I don't think you should even have sex with your husband when your child is asleep on the same bed. Not to talk of the child being awake and seeing this time and time again
I know the child is young and might not fully be aware of his environment but you shouldn't rule out the psychological effect these images would have on the mind of the child
Its like letting your baby watch porn

One thing I never rule out is the crucial roles the environment plays in the development of a child
You may feel like the child doesn't understand anything at this stage, but just like in the case of language learning, his brain is assimilating and storing up information in a fast process.

Whenever you want to do a "quicky" with your husband, its best you make sure the kid is asleep or better still, you put him in the care of someone else, probably a maid or any other person in the house.

Thanks

Spot on! I know what I saw as a child when grown ups around me were doing their "quickies". On many occassions I used to pretend to be asleep because something in me said they did not want me to see them. I also recalled that I used to wish they could do the same to/with me. I am over 30 and married, but I know what early exposure to adult themes/content/experience has done to me and to my marriage. I am not blaming those who exposed me to these things for my actions and I take absolute responsibility for my action.

But I believe that "a man's (in this case a child's) mind stretched to a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions". I have a beautiful daughter and I do my quickies under very controlled environments where I am 100% sure that she is asleep or attended to by another person. Parents should be careful what they expose the toddlers or children to.

Girl008:
I'm guessing your baby is already learning for example that the remote control is for the TV not the fan, and he probably is learning how to operate it, just by watching you use the TV remote. Why do you remotely think that he is not learning sex?. He probably doesn't know 'details' of sex because he is innocent but he is learning that people 'climb' each other and trust me you won't want that. I once taught in a school where a one year baby fingered a fellow classmate (creche class) , the child didn't know the gravity of his actions, but already he was labeled a sex offender in the minds of people and ended up being a disgrace to his parents, just because he saw daddy and mummy do it

Very sad!

vjsmiles:
YOU GUYS ARE PROGRAMMING HIS OS TO ..

I WOULDNT DO SUCH EVEN IF IT WAS A DOG WATCHING

......the truth is i wouldn't even trust my dog, he's a bad mean canine ready to mount anything on four. He don't care d gender, he just keeps trying and wondering why it isn't "going in".
I find it quite embarrassing for real!

I will say most people problem is that they are not realistic, I guess d lady in question lives with her husband and baby alone. (1)If I may ask for those who ask her to put d baby in a separate room can u do such yourself? (2) if d wife continue to ignore her husband due to this reason in some months time the husband will start looking out for young girls without distraction and will later say d wife caused it. As for me I will advice u know your baby sleeping time and give it to your husband real good.

krispee:

Very funny! nairaland counsellors eh

Most of them saying gibberish will do worst when they get married.Subconcious ke?at 6mnths! When they can't remember what happened to them at 3 I jst de laff

well my experience with my daughter when she was about 5months & about 9 months has shown me that babies know more than we think they know.

Dont be foolig my friend !must you make this a joke ?how are my sure you are not another reincarnated being ?

Tallesty1:
Do you believe in Reincarnation?


If yes then I think that baby is one of your grandparent.

S/he knows everything you are doing.

Tallesty1:
Do you believe in Reincarnation?


If yes then I think that baby is one of your grandparent.

S/he knows everything you are doing.

Pls Expantiate

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kemso:
I will say most people problem is that they are not realistic, I guess d lady in question lives with her husband and baby alone. (1)If I may ask for those who ask her to put d baby in a separate room can u do such yourself? (2) if d wife continue to ignore her husband due to this reason in some months time the husband will start looking out for young girls without distraction and will later say d wife caused it. As for me I will advice u know your baby sleeping time and give it to your husband real good.

hian oh! give it to him real good! ok nah.

are u living in a single room apartment?

you are training up ur child in the way he or she should go and wen it's old he or she will bcom eida adokiye virgin or maheed LovePeddler

Pls stop doing this in his presence.

The baby is seeing everything and images are being planted in his subconscious!

I still have flashes from way back.

This is a simple analysis. Climb the bed with your man and let the baby be on ground for the action time to pass. Or the baby climbs the bed and you go down. Fix your sex time to his sleeping hours . Sex should be a secret and no other eye should look.

wandyvirus:

So living in "Face-me-I-wooz-you apartment" is now a shameless thing? I have a lot of words for you then i realize that it will be a waste on someone like you. Money does not grow on trees and the beginning of a matter if not humble will certainly lick the dust. All humans are not equal. The "haves" of yesterday are the "have-nots" of today. People like you make Nigeria sick. I pray you never know the joys of hard work.

and what is so shamful in living in d house u described? do i need to open ur brain to see wat i wrote in previous post? ode somebody

osomegbe:

Please, for the baby's sake stop it. the baby is really learning a lot and i can bet you that she/he can remember it after just a few years.
How do you think baby learn to move their mouth or try to walk or even crawl. from Observation. I always tell people something about my life and some people use to say maybe it is this or that but i remember the way my mother used to bend my hand behind my back on her lap, put pap in her hand close to my mouth, close my nose with the other hand and make me gulp the whole pap into my throat.
It was a nightmare for me at that tender age and as i grew up and see other people passing through same, it comes back to me afresh. I am about 38 now and i still remember it vividly. i might just be a little older than 6 months then.
If i can remember it, then your baby can.
stop It before the baby practicalizes it with someone else and say he/she copied it from you.
My friend told me of a parents called to school in PHC where their tender baby is fond of holding girls down and kissing them. From investigation your thought is as good as mine.
be careful.

tnks jare i have gotten the facts nided....trust our adjustment is fun filled sef cause i made hubby to read dis

babyosisi:


Are you the baby in question?
Why are you so pained

Jhayeahsam01:
are u living in a single room apartment?
you are training up ur child in the way he or she should go and wen it's old he or she will bcom eida adokiye virgin or maheed LovePeddler

ur question seems okay but oda post i wish u d same......

IYADARA:


and what is so shamful in living in d house u described? do i need to open ur brain to see wat i wrote in previous post? ode somebody

haba IYADARA! what is my own in the matter? I was doing Voltrun for you and you attack me?

Learnt from this conversations .Thanks OP and contributors!

It is not advisable to have sex with your husband in the presence of your baby. Baby program things a lot on their infantile mind. For instance, when you move to a new place from your former place with your baby, you will notice that they will be staring at their new environment looking for familiar faces and places, it's the same with people, when a baby gets attached (and at a young age) to a particular family member, in their absence, they sometimes act uncomfortably, scanning around for the familiar face. So, doing this in your baby's presence, is certainly not fair, it's unacceptable, what are you guys thinking