IYADARA:
I have a six month old baby who watches keenly while hubby and I enjoy our 'quickies' but these days i get set back and often loose concentration because i feel someone is watching...hubby on his part would say babies at this stage understand nothing...?

Do you think is too early to start putting a break to such?

Did i mention walking naked most time is our routine?

When do babies start giving meanings to what they see?

Wow parents getting more and more stupid with passing generations

TrishaP:
Don't get so worked up. Your hubby is right babies at that stage don't understand anything or neither read meanings into anything. Your just being delusional . Betterstill if your not comfortable being watched put your baby to sleep before action or buy a sleeping mask for your baby. Enjoy your quickie

that child may remember wen he or she comes of age

HATE THREADS ENDING LIKE THIS!
all the pulling back and forth...
and not one balanced post with solid empirical basis for theories propounded
Just a lot of old wives tales and brains on skivvies...N/LAND's going to the FRIGGIN' SHY.TS!
FOR GOD'S SAKE....?
IS THERE NO CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST IN THE HOUSE with facts &figures ?

i know, i know.........
ASK GOOGLE

...walks out of thread to go find PINKY &THE BRAIN + DR DOOM ...

TrishaP:

Why would a grandparent be interested in watching the grandchild making out.
So sick

Maybe granny was a freak...lol

Nice reply missjenna,

But from my own point of view, I don't buy the idea of doing your bizness infront of the baby,

And if your ruling out that thee baby aint concious of his environment just yet,

believe me his subconcious is already awake and those images "might" have an effect later on . ..

And as for the gaze "on a lighter note" . .. I think your grandma's watching you"

Pls buy a small baby foam and put d baby on d floor and make sure ur bed is not making fikinfikin and also be sure d baby is fast sleep and quickly do it. Pls don't do it AGAIN while d baby is watching. Be sufficiently guided.

in
psychology there is what we call child developmental psychology.. a
child understand his environment, recognises close friends, relation and
know the negative and positive effect of things he see or listen from 4
months.. it is wrong dear but there is still room for change.

shadowgwalker:
are you h0rny??

No be only h0rny na honey..

IYADARA:


momcherry waiting for you...the heading has been adjusted

U said u feel like someone is watching..Listen to ur conscience coz someone is actually watching.. Ur precious baby is someone.tho I believe its not ur fault coz I know how men behave wen they are in heat..try to make him understand. Speaking from experience.

you guys need to put a stop to it.

linearity:


Pure nonsense! can you tell us one or two things that you remembered to have occurred to you or that you experienced when you were six months old?

Or anything you witnessed when you were six months old that have subconsciously affected you.

SUBCONSCIOUS being the key word...
Meaning you can't tell

chachanga:
HATE THREADS ENDING LIKE THIS!
all the pulling back and forth...
and not one balanced post with solid empirical basis for theories propounded
Just a lot of old wives tales and brains on skivvies...N/LAND's going to the FRIGGIN' SHY.TS!
FOR GOD'S SAKE....?
IS THERE NO CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST IN THE HOUSE with facts &figures ?

i know, i know.........
ASK GOOGLE

...walks out of thread to go find PINKY &THE BRAIN + DR DOOM ...

Mehn! You are funny!

My dears, most have spoken amidst some with over zealous and unfounded imagination. The child won't remember what mum and dad are doing.

He/she probably is fascinated by what you are both doing and is distracted by it that is why he or she does not cry during the process.

But since it's distracting you, kindly get a baby bed then.

d baby might not understand but their is always flashback on what they see as they grown up
..stop stop stop doing anything you don't want your baby to b victim of

I'm guessing your baby is already learning for example that the remote control is for the TV not the fan, and he probably is learning how to operate it, just by watching you use the TV remote. Why do you remotely think that he is not learning sex?. He probably doesn't know 'details' of sex because he is innocent but he is learning that people 'climb' each other and trust me you won't want that. I once taught in a school where a one year baby fingered a fellow classmate (creche class) , the child didn't know the gravity of his actions, but already he was labeled a sex offender in the minds of people and ended up being a disgrace to his parents, just because he saw daddy and mummy do it

50calibre:


You were making sense till you deviated into insanity.

The bolded is nothing but epic thrash.

A six month old baby is like a blank template, near zero cognitive ability, can't process anything it sees, can't make sense of anything perhaps only mummy's breas*t.

Why do you guys confidently dish out nonsensical advise?

You are so so right! SMH for some oversabis in d house.

@iyadara dearie enjoy ur sex life don't allow it depreciate cuz of DAT,jst learn how to contain it.

babyosisi:


Tell your husband to pull out his ojolima and get out there find a better job and move you out of a one room so the baby can have their own room or else you will be doing it soon with 5 kids watching.

Madam...you can really be very annoying! Gosh! Okacha malu!

missjenna:
Op, its a surprise that you are more concerned about loosing concentration during intercourse than on the effect such practice is having on your child.

I don't think you should even have sex with your husband when your child is asleep on the same bed. Not to talk of the child being awake and seeing this time and time again
I know the child is young and might not fully be aware of his environment but you shouldn't rule out the psychological effect these images would have on the mind of the child
Its like letting your baby watch porn

One thing I never rule out is the crucial roles the environment plays in the development of a child
You may feel like the child doesn't understand anything at this stage, but just like in the case of language learning, his brain is assimilating and storing up information in a fast process.

Whenever you want to do a "quicky" with your husband, its best you make sure the kid is asleep or better still, you put him in the care of someone else, probably a maid or any other person in the house.

Thanks

It baffles me when people think babies are not matured enough to know what it going On. The truth is they might not be able to comprehend what u are doing But they sure could see u doin it and carries d image of it with them for years. When a child see u havind sex, they wouldn't know what u are doing But they can see u. So when they grow up and see someone doing it either One tv or in real live, they will be like Ohoh This is what mommy and dad were doing that time I was a baby. Maybe everyone do it and it is ok to do it. So don't go about asking where ur child learn it from when u catch him or her doing it too. My mum is always surprised when I told her of things she didn't expect me to be aware of while a baby. Be wise!

IYADARA:
I have a six month old baby who watches keenly while hubby and I enjoy our 'quickies' but these days i get set back and often loose concentration because i feel someone is watching...hubby on his part would say babies at this stage understand nothing...?

Do you think is too early to start putting a break to such?

Did i mention walking naked most time is our routine?

When do babies start giving meanings to what they see?

You are seeking our opinion? Why not try putting paper through your anus and come and ask us to explain how it feels?

babyosisi:


Are you the baby in question?
Why are you so pained

Who make you the judge madam Osisi? There should be balanced in situating issues from different points of view. The lady was nasty, and does not look like whoredom to you? Take a peep back what she cld have done be4 pregnancy and in the course of the 9 months be4 delivering the baby. It's possible she has been banging right from first week of delivery, the baby's eyes were not as strong as now.

The poster again used the word "sternly" to describe the look and does that not warn you? She is being wantonly, outstriping moderation to say and if not for the baby's observation to a mother's obsession to a obscenities, she will not run to Nairaland. She just Nairaland last week.

that ur baby soji well well,but if u live in a room u can put the baby under the bed to avoid him frm learning colabo things

IYADARA:


thanks madam...you are always on point....my concern is much for my baby sincerely......we are young couple...that is why i brought it up to learn.....a, grateful dearie.......i want to ask...are you married? it is not always a bed thing alone ooooo...kitchen, dinning, sitting room....you know we are still doing it like wen we were alone....pls dont mind my vulgarity

Someone like me will not eat your food. Since you and your husband have 'quickies' in the kitchen as well, only God knows how much bacteria-filled body fluid such as s/p/e/r/m has gotten into the food. Secondly, so because you are a young married couple, that gives you both an excuse to have sex like wild dogs on heat? Later on down the line, he will get tired of your over slacked vargina and look elsewhere for a tighter one. Then you will be back on Nairaland to open a new thread and complain about your spouse's infidelity. Anyways, do you while you raise a baby that could grow up tomorrow to become a sex addict after being exposed since infancy to live p/o.r/n by his/her very h/o/r/n/e/y parents.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVR8wEjr-s4

IYADARA:
I have a six month old baby who watches keenly while hubby and I enjoy our 'quickies' but these days i get set back and often loose concentration because i feel someone is watching...hubby on his part would say babies at this stage understand nothing...?

Do you think is too early to start putting a break to such?

Did i mention walking naked most time is our routine?

When do babies start giving meanings to what they see?

Your actions proved that you and your husband are se.x slave. Why will you people be doing that for GOD sake right before him when you are aware that your child even though you people ruled him out for any knowledge due to his infancy? You people needed to be flogged.

Arnod007:
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Why d hasty conclusion if u read wel she mentioned p laces dat is more Dan one room apartment. Check her conversation u re too loud for my liking. Madam who stays in duplex

1 karma for u 4 such a fast respond...

EggovinMma:
Hmmm.I hope say una dey use CD. Before pikin go drink sperm

By the way, the baby is just curious seeing two big giants making funny sounds while shaking their massive bodies. And to think ,your mammary glands hanging loosely , dangling in that quick repetition is beyond belief.I think that's where your baby's attention is.


"DADDY LEAVE MOMMIMAMMARY MILK ALONEEEEEEE!!"

..... I actually laughed out real hard.

One thing everybody failed to bring up is respect.

The OP disrespected herself and her child. The main reason the OP created a thread was to find justification, maybe getting a simple average opinion of the pros and cons and justify herself. If the child grows up to have a "comma" as it were, the OP would berate herself as she may not be able to say in all confidence that she did not contribute to the harm done to the child and the tragedy is she might not even remember that such seemingly innocuous act might bring future ruin.

If you treated your child as a person with a living soul as created by God or at least a moral being (if u are an atheist), you would have considered far reaching repercussions on the child. Your child seem fascinated by your actions and is attracted to the sense of excitement & pleasure you derive from that action and senses the glow on you after the act. Before long the child would understand that this acts makes you particularly euphoric and through the bond between both of you, starts looking out for signs preceding the act in the bid to further understand what is going on.

Even if other posters are right that the child cannot understand, you fail to realise that you might be blessed with a precocious child, wise beyond his/her age and by you post, already stares 'intently' when you are in the act. This also presupposes that since you have come to notice this, your own subconscious is ringing a bell and it's already affecting you. Not only that your post suggest a recurring theme because if it was once or twice, you would have dismissed it but your post suggest alarm. If in addition to being precocious, the child is also introverted or taciturn, the child might just file the actions in the mind for further investigation and might not bring it up with you which might give you a false sense of security.

Now imagine what will happen if, God forbid, you have an house help or someone who is a predator, rather than the child raise alarm or show signs of distress, he or she might come to enjoy such an assault or see it has natural because he/she might remember that the act brought you pleasure and therefore is not bad.

For those saying the child cannot remember at that age, please note that we can remember a lot of things under hypnosis even actions at a very tender age. Even a child's sense of smell can be associated with certain things that will trigger the memory at other times. You should also go on youtube to see a lot of wonder that children can do at a very tender age. Infact, if our parents had access to camcorders and had the mind to record our actions at a very tender age, even we will be surprised at some of the things we did or come to understand some of the things we are doing now.

I am saddened by the levity with which the OP has treated this matter. If you behave like this in front of your first child, imagine when you have other children and you are not around, what do you think might be going behind your back or what do yo think might happen if you send your child to boarding school or anywhere else with that kind of subconscious trapdoor.

Well, I hope you are not joyfully digging ditch which might sorrowfully cave in and bury an innocent. Just imagine, if your parents were to walk in on you with your child staring at both of you in the act, what would be the judgement. I think you would receive a resounding slap, either physical or emotional.

TL:DR - The OP is creating a subconscious emotional trapdoor in the child which if properly associated with sound, smell, feeling etc by the child can be triggered in the future to further investigation by the child and the OP may unfortunately not be there to correct.

Momcherry:



No be only h0rny na honey..

wow! for sure, I swear you will be sweet!

roselynbas:
My dears, most have spoken amidst some with over zealous and unfounded imagination. The child won't remember what mum and dad are doing.

He/she probably is fascinated by what you are both doing and is distracted by it that is why he or she does not cry during the process.

But since it's distracting you, kindly get a baby bed then.

d only correct thing that has been said since ...d baby can't remember anything at all...6 months weytin no brain no nothing..baby dats still in heaven n playing n dancing at the foot of God.....abeg enjoy urself till d baby is a year old oo

[quote author=shadowgwalker post=31133510]wow! for sure, I swear you will be sweet![/quote

Is dat ur pic?
* runs out of thread shouting 'I'm covered with d blood of Jesus'*