ayogabriel:


At all, its above your pay grade, and it doesn't make any difference, you can drown in your own thought dear brother.

emusmith:


No one one is Perfect. We know that already.

Capitalizing on it... For instance...

1. She lies to you and tell you to take her as she is.

2. She cheats on you and says the same.

3. She has little or no culinary skills and keeps saying that- No o, go and learn abeg. That's a Lazy girl talking.

ayogabriel:


But will she accept her prospectus bf or suitors the way they are? Left to me, I think if we are willing to spend the rest of your life with someone, we should be ready to change what we don't like about each other. That's my take .

pinkhill:
well my earlier comment was about physical appearance but for the examples you highlighted as untrue as it may sound some wives learned how to cook in their husbands' house either they were sent to schools or hired someone or the husband himself.....now talking about ones imperfection varies in different aspect of ones life....that is were true love is put to test not lust oooo

emusmith:


Beautiful... So beautiful... A girlfriend of mine once said, " LOVE changes people". If it's Real Love o, it must automatically change you.

It changed me too. Ok, let me share...

When we swallow eba together, she doesn't like me putting my hand back in the water ( even when the eba is so hot)

That was my flaw! I grew up that way.

I had to change and endure for her.

I still find it difficult (even if I'm eating alone) doing that

emusmith:


I'm sorry if I wasn't sensitive enough.

Your story is just the same reason I and my ex went separate ways...

She said, " She is scared of our relationship because that's what her ex did to her"

She has "tagged" me as one who will hurt her as her exes... Did I strike a cord?

Why are you angry BTW, it's morning

emusmith:


Why must you learn in his house? Is it a sign of a domesticated girl or a "flexing" girl?

She should learn before entering. I know of marriages going through hitches because of this...She can't cook; he eats out; they quarrel.

Besides: My points are from real life stories.

ronald4lif:
Hmmm

I think any lady that says such is trying to convey a certain message, that she might not be your first choice, but she's a great choice. She doesn't pretend to be someone she is not, because she's good at being her. She might not be proud of some of the things she did in the past, but she's proud of who she is today. She may not be perfect, but she doesn't need to be. That you should take her as she is or watch her walk away. Practically, look beyond her shortcomings and embrace her strengths.

As for a lady taking a broke guy as he is; tough tough one. Every one wants financial security, comfort and a better life. The over 7billion people worldwide are exploring ways to better their lives. So to expect someone, male or female, to consider a man who can't guarantee her at least the basic needs of life is not an easy one, especially when she knows she has the abilities to attract someone better.

The take me as I am phrase hardly comes in play in men's part, it's more about the women. And even if it does, not in the monetary aspect of it. Nobody or to be subtle very few people are ready to put up with hardship and only money keeps hardship at length

pinkhill:
so are mine

ayogabriel:


Am really happy for you bro, that's the way it should be, and in this girl's case, I feel she should anticipate what the guy will like and do it. If someone say something bad about me once, I may not or never take it serious, but when a 3rd party make mention of it, I put it in my to-do list immediately. That's how I feel it should be. Be what you want to see in others. @lol at the eba and water.

ayogabriel:


Lol naa am not angry I was only using what the chinese call tai-chi, using some ones offense against him. It wasn't what you think, imagine having a gf that does things without letting her so called bf know about it. *

Me:PING!!! Good evening dear
she: Sup
Me: ??
She: sorry dear, am just coming down from the bus
Me: where are you upto
She: am in abuja
Me: Na wa oo, when did u get to abj, we still spoke yesternight, and u didn't say anything about that
She: am sorry jare, I didn't plan for it.

Now u see this conversation, has happen several times, she even started working some where and I got to know, 2days after. She kept changing dps in office, curiosity
Me: who are u visiting everyday
She: sorry I forgot to tell u I started 2days ago.

Now am sure u getting my point. A gf that doesn't carry you along, who doesn't listen about a particular thing her supposed bf is blabbing about.

Dating for over a year and doesn't even know the names of my 2 brothers.

Well that's among all.

buygala:
Very funny... 'Take me as I am'

Do dudes look like Jesus Christ who is your Lord and Personal saviour?

Abi you be non-tested phone for Computer Village, wey person go just buy come go pray for Oluwa say make e work well?

Or do we look like your parents who have a moral duty to shower you with 'unconditonal love'? ( if there is anything like that)

Girls should just stop playing the victim, and morally blackmailing us into buying a totally worthless or even toxic commodity ... WORK ON YOURSELF TO MAKE YOURSELF WORTH THE MAN YOU DESIRE

MEN ARE NEITHER SCRAP DEALERS NOR SCAVENGERS

pinkhill:
it simply means i am not perfect..will you accept me with my flaws

i don't smile a lot and my face looks like an angry bird..will you accept me like that..
Do not compare me with your ex(es) or celebs or other girls...so i am asking you will you take me as i am...look beyond my imperfection cause when you accept my imperfect life you simply make it perfect

emusmith:
I happened to be "counselling" a junior colleague at my workplace, relationship wise. She had earlier complained to me how her mates not as "beautiful" as she is were getting married while no one was interested in having anything longterm with her.

We got to the part where she always keeps her face like an "angry bird"- frowning mode.

I was like, " You should smile often"- She quickly replied, " That's how my face is. If he is really my husband, he won't mind that- He will take me as I am". I hurriedly said, OK.

Then, it got me thinking deep.

Of course, I'm going to take "Her" for who she is but... I sincerely asked myself these questions

I kind of think that the ladies are asking us to accept them, even when they are not at their best....in the same way we expect them to accept us when we are not at our best.

It is difficult....but when we are really in love, I guess looks don't matter too much.

Remember....we are human beings,not immortal perfect beings. We smell, we belch, we do bad things, we are self centered, we refuse to change, and so on.

But it is our ability to love others, in spite of all their imperfections, that defines us as humans.(Especially kids!)

As a single man....I hope to marry a tall, beautiful, always kind, smiling, light complected lady, who will be saying the right things to me at all times, and who will make our boudoir activities divine. But....it does not always work that way. I hope I am not going to be a shallow looks man....or if I am....later on, when that sexy figure has gone....I hope I can still live as if that really was not important....

Then again.....

1. isn't there a room for improvement?

2. Could her maintaining a "too serious" attitude all the time be a reason she's still single?

3. How has the " I won't change for any guy" helped her these years? Instead, she is been seen as a "bleeping tool".



I truly want to know



What's Your Take?

ayogabriel:


Lol naa am not angry I was only using what the chinese call tai-chi, using some ones offense against him. It wasn't what you think, imagine having a gf that does things without letting her so called bf know about it. *

Me:PING!!! Good evening dear
she: Sup
Me: ??
She: sorry dear, am just coming down from the bus
Me: where are you upto
She: am in abuja
Me: Na wa oo, when did u get to abj, we still spoke yesternight, and u didn't say anything about that
She: am sorry jare, I didn't plan for it.

Now u see this conversation, has happen several times, she even started working some where and I got to know, 2days after. She kept changing dps in office, curiosity
Me: who are u visiting everyday
She: sorry I forgot to tell u I started 2days ago.

Now am sure u getting my point. A gf that doesn't carry you along, who doesn't listen about a particular thing her supposed bf is blabbing about.

Dating for over a year and doesn't even know the names of my 2 brothers.

Well that's among all.

remsonik:
Well your topic is dicey op, This is where love is really put to test...................I will marry someone who has all the qualities I want in a guy and doesn't want me to change to who I am not. Now to your colleague, she might be an uptight person but trust me there's something that makes her smile. I don't keep friends and I don't smile too often, I am a very straightforward person but if you see me with my true friends I could be very playful and jovial