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Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by gunnerman(m): 3:41pm On Mar 02, 2015
I've been faithful to my wife since we got married and I'm also a stern hater of hypocricy.When given the opoortunity to preach in church I always chip in the need for faithfulness in marriages.

Early this year i stumbled on one of my EX's in a seminar.We exchanged numbers and we have being in constant communication since then.I even went to visit her alone after she called and cried to me on phone about the pains she was feeling as a result of a surgery she had to undergo for appendicytis.She didn't hesitate showing me the particular area of her body where she had gone under the knife about three months ago though,a little of the "george bush"were also revealled in the process.In an attempt to show how simpathetic I was,I knelt before her and kissed the affected part and pronounced healing on it.She looked at me,eyes wide opened,jacked me up,locked her lips on mine and before I knew it, we were undressing each other.To cut a long story,I cheated on my wife and I'm feeling guilty.

My wife trusts me and she is a very emmotional person infact,she has had a little heart propblem before.Telling her might cause me smthing I never bargained for.But then,hiding it is tearing me apart.I can't even pray wit her anymore.Should I confess only to my pastor?Do I also owe her a confession since she is the one I effended?How do I get my blissful marriage life back?Please help.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by dayjee: 3:45pm On Mar 02, 2015
Confess to the pastor is better than telling your wife cos u know she has heart prob............telling her might lead to another thing entirely

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by StPete: 3:49pm On Mar 02, 2015
I see no reason why you must confess to anyone. Pick up the pieces where you left off and continue to live your life.

Unless you so wish to tell someone, then I'd rather you tell your pastor than your wife.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by kilokeys(m): 3:55pm On Mar 02, 2015
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Evina(f): 3:59pm On Mar 02, 2015
Wow! I really don't like it when people go all "you ought to know better", but man of God, I can't help but point out your errors.

You saw the signs! Both the subtle and glaring signs, but you chose to satisfy the desires of your carnal nature! When you started calling and texting and enjoying the rush of excitement and excusing those feelings for something harmless and innocent and trusting in your ability to stay disciplined, it was clear that you had already embraced temptation.

Anyways, now that the sin is committed, search yourself deeply. Are you truly sorry? Do you truly desire repentance? Then genuinely confess your sins to God and apply the blood of Jesus over your error, because He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness.

Then, take steps to cease ALL forms of communication with that ex! I am not really a fan of confessing your sins to pastors, I mean, is it to get counselled or what?

As for wifey, I don't think it is wise to tell her because you will just open an endless tap of suspicion. Being that she is very emotional, it could lead to everlasting distrust.

Next time, tell her when you meet the ex. Be open about your relationships with others, that is one way to check yourself from falling.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by gunnerman(m): 4:04pm On Mar 02, 2015
Minet16:
Op Na you cheat on your wife or you de yarn dust? I assure you no F.P for you
sorry,what do you mean "no FP for you"?
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by zed7: 4:06pm On Mar 02, 2015
Even the greatest of men have fallen. Solomon, David, Samson. Just pray to God for forgiveness and promise yourself never to err again. Keep away from your ex. No more sentiments and giving yourself as a shoulder to lean on. No need telling anyone anything. Hope u used protection? Don't sleep with your wife till u are given a clean bill.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 4:14pm On Mar 02, 2015
Did you enjoy feckin your ex?
I can bet her puccy was so sweet.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Mar 02, 2015
kilokeys:
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji

He he he he real miracle worker. grin grin grin

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 4:22pm On Mar 02, 2015
gunnerman:
I knelt before her and kissed the affected part and pronounced healing on it.
Nawao

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by elantraceey(f): 4:25pm On Mar 02, 2015
I don't really want to disbelieve you but what help kissing an injured skin offer? I don't want to start pointing out your faults but I put it to you that you had thoughts of having sex with her before you went there and even at that , you had control of yourself before you penetrated her so I don't take that it just happened as an excuse.


The only person you have to confess to is your wife , it will hurt and injure her but I tell you these kind of things knows how to rear up their head latter in life and then it'll be too disasterous , look for a perfect moment and tell her but meanwhile if you're still waiting to be told before you break every communication from ex then you're not remorseful at all.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by pickabeau1: 4:28pm On Mar 02, 2015
grin grin grin

miracle kissing man
kilokeys:
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by webincomeplus(m): 4:28pm On Mar 02, 2015
God forgives, not the pastor. Confess to God, and don't turn to that evil path again.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by gunnerman(m): 4:47pm On Mar 02, 2015
webincomeplus:
God forgives, not the pastor. Confess to God, and don't turn to that evil path again.
I kno its God who 4givs but then i was at d Redemption Camp wen pastor Adeboye said,he cheated on his wife,comfessed to God,but God told him to go and confess to his wife b4 He forgive him.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by afribabe: 5:19pm On Mar 02, 2015
pickabeau1:
grin grin grin

miracle kissing man
grin grin cheesy

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by cococandy(f): 5:49pm On Mar 02, 2015
You don't have to confess to her.
And may not really help your marriage depending on the kind of wife you have.
Confessing to your pastor is enough.
The important thing is that you've made up your mind NEVER to do it again.

The repentance is the what earns you forgiveness in the sight of God even if you don't tell your pastor.
Just confession sort of unburdens the soul.

gunnerman:
I've been faithful to my wife since we got married and I'm also a stern hater of hypocricy.When given the opoortunity to preach in church I always chip in the need for faithfulness in marriages.
Early this year i stumbled on one of my EX's in a seminar.We exchanged numbers and we have being in constant communication since then.I even went to visit her alone after she called and cried to me on phone about the pains she was feeling as a result of a surgery she had to undergo for appendicytis.She didn't hesitate showing me the particular area of her body where she had gone under the knife about three months ago though,a little of the "george bush"were also revealled in the process.In an attempt to show how simpathetic I was,I knelt before her and kissed the affected part and pronounced healing on it.She looked at me,eyes wide opened,jacked me up,locked her lips on mine and before I knew it, we were undressing each other.To cut a long story,I cheated on my wife and I'm feeling guilty.
My wife trusts me and she is a very emmotional person infact,she has had a little heart propblem before.Telling her might cause me smthing I never bargained for.But then,hiding it is tearing me apart.I can't even pray wit her anymore.Should I confess only to my pastor?Do I also owe her a confession since she is the one I effended?How do I get my blissful marriage life back?Please help.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by gunnerman(m): 6:04pm On Mar 02, 2015
ibe9ja:


Oga miracle worker, if ur story na true then u need serious deliverance. How can u bulala person wey just newly do appendicitis? Dat means u fit bulala married woman ni. Beware of magun o
Something she did three minths earlier?common man!how long does it take for a woman who had her baby through CS to heal?talkless of a common appendicitis.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by MizMyColi(f): 6:08pm On Mar 02, 2015
OP!
*drawing my ears with both hands*

Gunnerman!

Forget Pastor O.
Forgeti

Pastor is human too o
He will use you an preach tomorrow (anonymously)smiley

If you feel your wife isn't prepared.
Then no else is prepared to hear your story.

Deal with it.
Deal with your self-righteousness and pride.
Embrace inner humility.
I think you're more bothered at the fact a righteousness preacher like you could commit the same wrong you've unwittingly condemned people to hell forsmileygrinsmileygrin


Go on your knees, look up within, severe all ties, if possible, make a recording of this trying time.
It might come in handy someday.

Be your own pastor
We familylanders are your audience.
Now that you have told us.
Uka'agbasa go

Go in peace and sin no more!

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Blackchampion(m): 7:46pm On Mar 02, 2015
No be only Born again! na born 2 f.uck.
Mtchewwww

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by englishmart(m): 7:47pm On Mar 02, 2015
no need. Your pastor does a worse sin..... Sin is sin... Just repent and turn away from doing shiiitz

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 7:47pm On Mar 02, 2015
Confess to your wife...and take yer medicine like a man.

BTW....read Every Man's Battle.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Ayanko(m): 7:47pm On Mar 02, 2015
To God
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Firefire(m): 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
Infidelity can shatter even the strongest relationship, leaving behind feelings of betrayal, guilt, and anger.

Make a truthful confession to your partner, if you cant, you may request support/backup from your pastor.

The overall expectation is to renew your marital vow, amend your ways before your creator and set yourself free from the prison of conscience.


Extraordinary Precautions to Avoid A Former Lover

1. Honesty
The first extraordinary precaution to avoid your ex-lover is to tell your partner all about your affair, and the decision you have made to restore your love for him or her. Then promise to keep telling the truth about every aspect of your life, so you never again have a secret second life where you are tempted to his or her feelings.

2. Account for Your Time.
Once you have established a willingness to be completely honest with your partner, then continue to be honest with her about all of your activities. Make sure she knows about everything you do throughout the day. Give her a complete schedule of your activities, and let her know which of those activities make you most tempted to contact your former lover. Try to avoid people and places that increase your craving to be with her.

3. Spend As Much of Your Time with Your Partner as Possible.
During withdrawal, there is not much your partner can do to deposit love units into your Love Bank. But it still makes sense for you to be together as much as possible. That's because the more you are with him, the less you will be tempted to contact your lover. Try to have lunch together, talk on the telephone several times a day, and be sure to spend evenings and weekends together.

For more details on Marital Recovery please visit: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5065_qa.html

May divine healing be upon every home passing through any forms of turbulence in the Name of Jesus (Amen)

Shalom!

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by acidtalk: 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
Okay! Now I don't know where to start. The issue of cheating which is now a norm, the political situation in the country, or my predictions for 2015.

CHEATING - Whether married or single, illegal sex is a sin in the presence of God. Unfortunately, most religious leaders no longer preach the truth.

POLITICAL SITUATION - 99% of my previous opinion still stands.

MY PREDICTIONS FOR 2015 - when I made some startling predictions for 2015 some few months back, so many people called me names. Today, majority of them have happened with more going to happen in the coming days.

Below is the link to the predictions -

https://www.nairaland.com/2139771/must-read-predictions-2015
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by CLEARINGAGENT: 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
Pastor prefarably.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by steppin: 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
Op,
You saw the "George Bush" and still kissed it?
May God have mercy on you!
This story reeks of lies, but na Nl we dey...anything goes.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Blitz888(m): 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
I c...
Opportunity defines character.
Your secret wish came true...

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by jnrbayano(m): 7:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
The people you sinned against are the people you owe confession, they are also the people you expect forgiveness from.

Those people are your wife and God.

----Wife because she is your body. You belong to her and vice-versa.

----God because he is your God and he hates sin.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by ayusco85(m): 7:49pm On Mar 02, 2015
Thunder will fire any lady or man who is still in touch with his or her ex. Ex's are evil, stay away from them. U ve no business been friends or in communication with an ex.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by valmunich(m): 7:49pm On Mar 02, 2015
Were you mindf#cked too when you were doing it.

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