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Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 8:38pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
There’s nothing grey about Fifty Shades of Grey. It’s all black. Let me explain. I help people who are broken inside. Unlike doctors who use x-rays or blood tests to determine why someone’s in pain, the wounds I’m interested in are hidden. I ask questions, and listen carefully to the answers. That’s how I discover why the person in front of me is “bleeding”. Years of careful listening have taught me a lot. One thing I’ve learned is that young people are utterly confused about love – finding it and keeping it. They make poor choices, and end up in lots of pain. I don’t want you to suffer like the people I see in my office, so I’m warning you about a new movie called Fifty Shades of Grey. Even if you don’t see the film, its message is seeping into our culture, and could plant some dangerous ideas in your head. Be prepared. Fifty Shades of Grey is being released for Valentine’s Day, so you’ll think it’s a romance. Don’t fall for it. The movie is actually about a sick, dangerous relationship filled with physical and emotional abuse. It seems glamorous, because the actors are gorgeous, they have expensive cars and private planes, and Beyonce is singing. You might conclude that Christian and Ana are cool, and that even though their relationship is different, it’s acceptable. Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by a Hollywood studio. The people there just want your money; they have no concern whatsoever about you and your dreams. Abuse is not glamorous or cool. It is never OK, under any circumstances. This is what you need to know about Fifty Shades of Grey: as a child, Christian Grey was terribly neglected. He is confused about love because he never experienced the real thing. In his mind, love is tangled up with bad feelings like pain and embarrassment. Christian has pleasure from controlling and hurting women in bizarre ways. Anastasia is an immature girl who falls for Christian’s looks and wealth, and foolishly goes along with his desires. In the real world, this story would end badly, with Christian in jail, and Ana in a shelter – or morgue. Or maybe Christian would continue beating Ana, and she’d stay and suffer. Either way, their lives would most definitely not be a fairy tale. Trust me on this one. As a doctor, I’m urging you: do NOT see Fifty Shades of Grey. Get informed, learn the facts, and explain to your friends why they shouldn’t see it either. Here are a few of the dangerous ideas promoted by Fifty Shades of Grey: 1. Girls want guys like Christian who order them around and get rough. No! A psychologically healthy woman avoids pain. She wants to feel safe, respected and cared for by a man she can trust. She dreams about wedding gowns, not handcuffs. 2. Guys want a girl like Anastasia who is meek and insecure. Wrong. A psychologically healthy man wants a woman who can stand up for herself. If he is out of line, he wants her to set him straight. 3. Anastasia exercises free choice when she consents to being hurt, so no one can judge her decision. Flawed logic. Sure, Anastasia had free choice – and she chose poorly. A self- destructive decision is a bad decision. 4. Anastasia makes choices about Christian in a thoughtful and detached manner. I doubt that. Christian constantly supplies Anastasia with alcohol, impairing her judgement. Also, Anastasia becomes sexually active with Christian – her first experience ever – soon after meeting him. Neuroscience suggests their intimacy could jump start her feelings of attachment and trust, before she’s certain he deserved them. Sex is a powerful, intense experience – particularly the first time. Finally, Christian manipulates Anastasia into signing a legal agreement prohibiting her from telling anyone that he is a long time abuser. Alcohol, sex, manipulation – hardly the ingredients of a thoughtful, detached decision. 5. Christian’s emotional problems are cured by Anastasia’s love. Only in a movie. In the real world, Christian wouldn’t change to any significant degree. If Anastasia was fulfilled by helping emotionally disturbed people, she should have become a psychiatrist or social worker. 6. It’s good to experiment with sexuality. Maybe… for adults in a long term, healthy, committed, monogomous relationship, AKA “marriage”. Otherwise, you’re at high risk for STDs, pregnancy, and sexual assault. It’s wise to be very careful who you allow to get close to you, physically and emotionally, because just one encounter can throw you off track and change your life forever. Bottom line: the power of Fifty Shades of Grey lies in its ability to plant seeds of doubt. There are vast differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, but the movie blurs those differences, so you begin to wonder: what’s healthy in a relationship? What’s sick? There are so many shades of grey…I’m not sure. Listen, it’s your safety and future we’re talking about here. There’s no room for doubt; an intimate relationship that includes violence, consensual or not, is unacceptable. This is black and white. There are no shades of grey here. Not even one. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Cutehector(m): 8:42pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Oga op! Its fifty shades of christain grey. The author wasn't referin to black and white! |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by baralatie(m): 8:43pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
that is why I watch happy feet,green lantern cartoons haba! |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Twaci(f): 8:47pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Now I want to really see the flick...and see what about it is causing all fuzz! |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 8:47pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Cutehector:out of what i posted, you only saw the black and white part.mind you i knew they meant fifty shade of christian. |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Nobody: 8:48pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
tunezvic:. What did you study Mr? |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Cutehector(m): 8:48pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
tunezvic:well I dnt see anythn wrong wit d movie neither the novel. |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Cutehector(m): 8:49pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Twaci:I hav d movie in my laptop |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 8:50pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 9:06pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
many youth of nowadays have been living their lives based on movie.hollywood has impacted negatively on many individual. we now want to do things we see on movies. |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Teagirl(f): 9:30pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
The over hyped movie make no sense to me, all I see is a man abusing a lady who is dumb,, how on earth will you fall in love with a man that physically abuse you in the name of sex People that are removing their pant in the cinema because of this movie are mentally derange.. No one, I repeat No one should be in such abusive relationship*** 2 Likes |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Twaci(f): 9:30pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Cutehector:where and when? Or will u just send it to me? 1 Like |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Cutehector(m): 9:34pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Twaci:u knw its a large file... So sendn it can't be possible unless u'd come take it by urself or watch it wid me. |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Twaci(f): 9:40pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Cutehector:Smart guy |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Cutehector(m): 9:42pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Twaci:hmm. I just duno wat ur thinkn |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 11:35pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Twaci:fifty shade of hector 1 Like |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by tunezvic(m): 11:39pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Teagirl:i quite agree with you. the act that was depicted in the movie portrayed physical abuse in a good light. as for the people removing their panties ,it aint about the movie. they are nymphomaniacs in nature. |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by wheesin(m): 11:45pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
well spoken , that film is demonic, after watching the trailer,i had the chance to watch it in a cinema but turned it down for sweet awesome Wedding Ringers. I have no regrets at all. thumbs down 50 SOG |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by omicron(m): 6:12am On Mar 10, 2015 |
Overrated and overhyped. Movie is just ordinary |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by vivaciouzz(f): 7:09am On Mar 10, 2015 |
Ntn interesting abt d movie..so boring..but m not deleting it |
Re: Letter To Young People About the movie Fiftyshades Of Grey by Nobody: 2:48pm On Mar 10, 2015 |
omicron: very boring shii |
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