I met this lady say abt 7 months ago n we started dating, i like her n i ve gud plans 4 both of us to be togeda but out of all quarrels that we have(which is inevitable) this one is becoming an issue that i ve had 3 diff sessions of discussions with her on it. its the issue of me calling to check up on her, find out how she is doing n all dat n she not bordering too replicate same.

She once told me of recent (our last discussion) categorically that i must be the one calling her and not her calling me (feeling like a diva or something) i told her its meant to be a two way thing, (i call, she calls).


Then i decided to test her by not calling her for a whole day(i survived it) she den sent me a txt saying how nw? i did nt reply then anoda day n anoda one, she now called me to find out if i was ok, i told her i was doing gud n she dropped. i smiled.

she even hardly comes to my house (i can count hw many times she has) unless she is driving past my area n decides to stop by.

Sometimes i wonder y some ladies make we guyz do wat we neva intended to do @ d beginning of a relationship.

nw wat do u guyz think abt this? cos it bodas me the way she reasons like a baby @ 30, does she love me at all? is she cheating?

I need ur objective words NL.

Mr Ascari or Mr Oscar

So, what is wrong in acalling your woman 24/7? Na only fok you think she good for? See yah head self.

lol. my head be like ur own abi? r u alrt at all.

pls allow pple use space well jare. go take a shower.

@Oscar J

Don't worry, some girls are just like that. They love forming, I bet yours is another former.

She is still skeptical. May be she is trying to deal with some experiences and trying to be mindful of her heart.
I am not sure you have her heart as yet.
If you can be patient good.
If you are on the fast lane then place her as just a number and move on
You have to be careful so you dont become a pest
Some ladies actually dont know how to say no
They believe you should read the signs
If i were you i would find succour in the arms of another

dont worry. she loves u wit d whole of her heart. she is just still forming

I smell immaturity on the part of both parties.
How old are u kids sef?

You said u met her 7months ago, definitely there's divided on her part.
Its her job or there's sum oda guy.

She dey form, she want to be ur Big Screen TV, she wants more attention

man, i've been in thesame situation as u are now,

hate to be blunt, but she might not be feeling what ur feeling for her,

after seven months of dating, she can go a whole day without calling or even sending a reasonable text?

truth is, if u start doing thesame, she might end up getting further and further away from u,

so u need to make up ur mind what u want,

suck up to her and show all the care, or just ignore her for a good bit and let her start looking for u,


My 2cents,

u gotta do the calling. that's the way "we" want it especially when the relationship is still fresh. carry on with the chase man

HorneyChic

I smell immaturity on the part of both parties.
How old are u kids sef?

 

Y kids?? aniway i said her age in my post.

She dey form, she want to be ur Big Screen TV, she wants more attention

r u sure? i dont think so sha.

Area_boy

after seven months of dating, she can go a whole day without calling or even sending a reasonable text?

truth is,  if u start doing thesame, she might end up getting further and further away from u, 

so u need to make up ur mind what u want,

suck up to her and show all the care, or just ignore her for a good bit and let her start looking for u,

I think dis might work.will try it out.

what i can say is that both parties needs to be calling each other when the relationship has really grown old.

u gotta do the calling. that's the way "we" want it especially when the relationship is still fresh. carry on with the chase man  

U call a 7 months dating fresh

try making it 7 years

try making it 7 years

hey common nw, r u helping or u mocking me? lol

@ Poster

You started the silly games by not callin, it goes to show two can play that game you're playin.

sista-jay:

@ Poster

You started the silly games by not callin, it goes to show two can play that game you're playin.

Haba! hw do u mean nw

@ poster

Hope you have not been smitten in your heart yet.
Tell her how you feel about this calling issue and observed her responses.

If she is indifference, time to get back into the hunting field and just keep her as a friend.

Taken:

@ poster

Hope you have not been smitten in your heart yet.
Tell her how you feel about this calling issue and observed her responses.

If she is indifference, time to get back into the hunting field and just keep her as a friend.

Thanks Taken, men i am close to i must be honest with u on this n it bodas me alot
i ve had 3 diff session of discussion with her on this n she will only call when i ignore her for a while.
do u think dis is ok ?

Still if she is indifference about it all, just maintain a friendly relationship with her and invest in finding someone else.

Maybe she is still dealing with some issues, perhaps that is her true self, or she is not as interested as you thought.

I bet if you tell her that maybe we should just remain friends and start looking out for other pple, something will spark within her.
Check this out:
Compromise is a win - lose scenario (the loser here will go away with nothing at the end of the day).
Win - win is what we all need (you give and take + she gives and takes).

Taken:




I bet if you tell her that maybe we should just remain friends and start looking out for other pple, something will spark within her.
Check this out:
Compromise is a win - lose scenario (the loser here will go away with nothing at the end of the day).
Win - win is what we all need (you give and take + she gives and takes).

I bet this will work buddy, will most def giv it a trial.
thanks.

As u see her so, She no send u.

Oscar J:



U call a 7 months dating fresh

i believe it's still to early for u to be worrying over who calls who first. it has become the tradition for the guy to do the chasing while the gurl enjoys it and if this is too much 4 u to do, then u don't really have it for her.

And please tell me how long should a guy chase a gal b4 she start responding?
isn't 7 months enough to establish a relationship?

This may be funny ,but the truth is that you have not fcukd her. If you have,she'll not be able to do witout talking to you in at least 48 hours. if u dont call,she'll call

@POSTER
My brother, i know how u feel. It could really be frustrating when your own girl
deems it right not to call you, especially, when such call could lift a spirit up.
My best advice to you though, is to remain calm, call her regularly regardless
of her attitude (as per calling).
Women, certainly are a different stock. The art of being wise is the art of knowing
what to overlook. Be wise.

If anyone is reluctant to call you, it shows how much the person regards you.

Forget all that jazz about not having enough credit or being busy.
Tell the same person to come and collect ordinary N100, 000 and see how fast she will break the Olympics 100 meters dash.

I'm sorry, I'm a woman and her behavior is annoying. If she doesn't call, I think you should move on. I have not had many relationships (just one real one that ended in marriage) and I have to say, I don't remember ever waiting for him to call me. We both just called, every single day, somebody called. Yes, people play games but it's obvious to me that you're not playing games and the girl should know that. If she wants to be serious with you, she should pick up the freaking phone and call. It's not like you haven't discussed it with her, you have, 3 TIMES!!! Please, I'm annoyed for you!

Orikinla:

If anyone is reluctant to call you, it shows how much the person regards you.

Forget all that jazz about not having enough credit or being busy.
Tell the same person to come and collect ordinary N100, 000 and see how fast she will break the Olympics 100 meters dash.

lol, u very funny.
tanx man.