naijaboiy:
[b]i'll simply use NL for example.

A guy sees a girl's post on a thread and then he quickly checks her profile picture. Seeing that she's "Fine" he begins to fool himself anywhere around her.

He over complements her and make her half baked picture looking like one taken by Beyonce. He stalks the lady anywhere she goes and quotes her unnecessarily.

Sometimes these girls will do something annoying and the guy will still be the one to apologise up and down.

This has boosted the ego of some of the ladies whom guys don't even look at "twice" in real life on here.

I've seen countless cases where some ladies will threaten a guy never to quote or mention her again. Not because the guy did anything wrong actually but maybe he just said something out of play. And she goes all out forming Nicki minaj.

Like who are you that you shouldn't be quoted or mentioned again?

Furthermore,,when you don't give some of these ladies the attention they get from other guys they tend to hate you or have bad blood towards you.

If some guys can be fooling themselves here on NL and some mgbekes who are not even worth looking at in real life be forming then what do you expect in reality?

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Misogynist2014:
I'm kinda shy guy, I couldn't talk to women till I got out of Secondary school, never for once thought there were differences, though I out perform my sister to her dismay, since I had a lot of time to browse through the internet, I got to know a lot of things about women and how they are treating men in west, coupled with how they destroyed morality and marriage in the west, not shy talking to women anymore, God forbid! Just a little bit of steadily growing resentment.

teasel:


Typical of the Nigerian male to try to bring family into everything. No maturity
I said 'average Nigerian man'. If you're not one of them, then move on.
The truth is that even the ones that don't do those things support it in one way or another. There are exceptions but they're extremely few. Let's not deceive ourselves here

Typical way of an average nigerian girl to elude the question when asked. No evidence to back up her point.

If a guy comes online to open a thread and says "All nigerian girls are gold diggers"
I can bet my blackberry charger you'll be one among the girls telling him not to generalise and asking if his mother or sisters were like that too.

It's a tit for tat.

So let's really not deceive ourselves here

ziick19:

I don land ooo.....
To dey peep as guest no good at all ooo

But why you nor join since na?

Wetin hold you?

naijaboiy:

Typical way of an average nigerian girl to elude the question when asked. No evidence to back up her point.

If a guy comes online to open a thread and says "All nigerian girls are gold diggers"
I can bet my blackberry charger you'll be one among the girls telling him not to generalise and asking if his mother or sisters were like that too.

It's a tit for tat.

So let's really not deceive ourselves here

teasel:


So you seriously expected me to answer such a stoopid question. I took that as a rhetorical one. I don't bring people's families into arguments/debates but that doesn't matter to me at this point.
Let's see, why don't you answer mine. Are you a rapist and a murderer? Do you, your father and brothers rape, physically abuse and murder women?

Why don't you show me the generalization in my previous comment.
While you're at it, disprove that a large percentage of Nigerian males don't do one or more of what I listed previously.

naijaboiy:
u don't turn the tables at me.

Your initial statement didn't make use of "Large percentage"

And if a Large percentage of Nigerian men do it then probably people who are related to you also have. That's why I asked the question.

And besides,,don't you think when majority of people keep talking about a particular thing a certain group of people do,,they are right?

naijaboiy:

But why you nor join since na?

Wetin hold you?

Dygeasy:
You want to know why?

Guys caused it. Guys chase girls for different reasons; Big _butt or _boobs, Beauty, True love for Serious relationship, one or two or all of these reasons but the way we go about it is what's killing us.

An average guy would go to hell and back to impress the most not-goodlooking girl just because she possesses something he wants and thus does a lot of things and stupid things too to make her feel special. This is where the girl raises her level of shakara cos she knows she has one thing you want and she feels she's the only one who has it hence a little exposure of those cleavages and my brothers have slashed their salaries into two, small posterior view of her yansh we're already picturing the way to the nearest ATM, a puppy-eyed please and our poor parents at home will start running helter-skelter to source for money for non-existent textbooks and project assignments. All these things are a neglect of our real personalities and substituting it for money (to impress) which boils down still to low self-esteem.


It is alright to make a girl feel special but don't swallow the _bullshit that comes with it. Girls are soo good at stuff like this.

Solution

Guys should start seeing themselves as something to desire too. Chase but don't fall in the mud in the process. If you're interested in a girl, don't try so hard to impress her cos this is where we go overboard and start taking those _bullshit. Slowly and steadily, beautiful or ugly, she will feel you if you're 'feel(able)'. So work on yourselves first and maintain it, even a queen wouldn't be able to bring down that ego/self-esteem.

mentorandfriend:
[b]I'm gonna speak for myself.
Truth is that I sincerely value the women in my life because I have six elder sisters, all decent and responsible, who are all married and are in their husbands home. From them, I have come to believe in the goodness in every woman, so I treat ladies nice when I have them around me.

However, what I cannot tolerate from a lady is to expect me to exert my energy and time in relentless pursuit without her showing value for my effort. It bores me. If you take me for granted, and see me as the one that has to crawl on the ground to get your attention, it puts me off. Why will I do that?

I expect you to call me too sometimes if I call you often. I expect you to initiate chat on bbm on whatsapp. I must not be the one doing it all the time, saying hi all the time, sometimes getting ignored and being replied 12 hours later.

What I consider as mutual respect is If I see you as a treasure, never see me as a shyte you're just tolerating.

And thank God for blessing me with the blessing of forgetting people easily; people who form Queen Cleopatra. If I forget you, it is forever till Christ comes. I have an enviable track record in that. I'm proud of it. Honestly.

Summary is that ladies must show deliberate signs that they value the efforts of the guy who goes to great lengths to show that he wants her in his life. If not, the guy should preserve his self respect and please march on.[/b]

Fizboy:
This is not a thread to bash ladies but a thread created to get answers and opinions about the topic of the thread.
All of a sudden every girl in Nigeria both the pretty and stalk ugly ones thinks she is a queen or goddess meant to be worshipped and adored by guys. Gone are the days where women treated men with respect and humility. An average Nigerian girl now wants you to lick her feet b4 giving you a chance and that, most still feel they are doing you a favor being your girlfriend . Even the handsome and rich guys are not getting it easy as before.
An imperfect Nigerian girl now wants and believes she deserve a perfect guy that possesses all the necessary qualities required whereas she got nothing worthy to give. Having a high self esteem about yourself is good but how come most Nigerian girls are so full of it nowadays whereas more guys are dwindling in low self-esteem.
I know this would serve as an ego booster to most girls in this forum so enjoy it while it last. And note, this phenomenon is mostly exhibited among young ladies in their youthful age because older ladies are much more different.
Your opinions please

mentorandfriend:
I'm gonna speak for myself.
Truth is that I sincerely value the women in my life because I have six elder sisters, all decent and responsible, who are all married and are in their husbands home. From them, I have come to believe in the goodness in every woman, so I treat ladies nice when I have them around me.

Kay17:

You value just any woman or a good woman?

mentorandfriend:
All the ladies sir. But my limits are there.