ronald4lif:
Is your boyfriend of a different tribe as you and is the new guy of same tribe.

Are they both of same faith (like same church as you) or different.

How about state?

Is your boyfriend up and doing well for himself as compared to the new guy?

iceberylin:
Dad is jealous of his replacement

AgapeCharis:
I have a few question for you.

Have your parents met this new guy??

What is about your boyfriend your parents don't like??

Why do they prefer the new guy??

Answer to these questions will go a long way.

MissAdeife:
Get a concise answer to why your dad hates your boyfriend first ..

Cutehector:
As d adage says, wat an elder sits down and sees, d child who climbs an iroko tree may not be able to see it. Thr is more to it dan it meets d eye. I believ time will tell.

falconey:
will be back to comment.



you said this is your 1st relationship you must be between 18- 22.

I say play along you still have time,is not like you are geting married or something.

MzzTega:

Both of them are igbo.
My boyfriend is in his finals,aint working.
The other guy is a student and his working.
My boyfriend attends same church as me but a different branch.
The other guy attends AoG.
The other guy buys me stuffs.
The device I'm using he bought it.
This guy is working so the money is there.

ronald4lif:


Okay. Just like someone earlier suggested you should find out from your dad why he doesn't like your boyfriend. You can do this by pleading with a brother of yours to find out from him as it might be convenience for them to ask him.

Your boyfriend as a final year student got loads of prospects to succeed after graduating, same as the new guy. He attends same church as you and they both are of same tribe as you as well. Only difference is the working aspect. That is likely to change after he's through with his studies so I don't seem to understand why your dad doesn't like him. It's not like the new guy is through with studies.

My advise is that you stand your grounds and don't let your father bamboozle you. Stick with your boyfriend he'll come around.

But permit to ask. How come you got so close to this new guy till the extend of receiving gifts from him when you're already involve with someone? It seems you're too close to him for comfort. No offense meant.

MzzTega:

I'm not Igbo.
My Mum don't really like the tribe tho. But My Dad his cool with them wella.
The other guy was my friend before ‘‘the attraction'' came up.

ronald4lif:


Has the new guy been a family friend before the attraction came up?. Like your dad and other family members new him for a long time now?

MzzTega:

Yes,they know this new guy.
Daddy said he has no reason. in his words and i quote ‘‘Nothing o,maybe i will get to like him''
he said that on the first of January. This is March and his feeling have nt change.
Mummy said she's studying him. *sighs*

AgapeCharis:
Well, it's not much of a problem. Maybe when you tell your dad why you prefer your boyfriend, he'll get to play along. You know our oldies tend to reason differently from us. It may just be one little thing like his physique or his accent or the way he walks or one small thing like that your dad just saw and saw and disliked thereby disliking everything about the guy. You could really get your dad to like him. You'll need a lot of patience though.

Just like ronald4lif pointed out....This new guy is the one that bought the device you're using currently. He has bought several gifts which you accept and show your parents. I think this is where the problem lies. Suppose you didn't give them the impression that this new guy "loves you so much" to the extent that he's already taking care of your needs (uplifting their burden), this issue wouldn't have come up.

MzzTega:

I really can't say when the attraction started.
Yes,they knw him. like 2yrs nw.

MzzTega:

It seems so.....the gifts.
And one thing i noticed again. My boyfriend does not talk. I guess it pisses them off.

MzzTega:

Both of them are igbo.
My boyfriend is in his finals,aint working.
The other guy is a student and his working.
My boyfriend attends same church as me but a different branch.
The other guy attends AoG.
The other guy buys me stuffs.
The device I'm using he bought it.
This guy is working so the money is there.

MzzTega:
Okay! I don't know what title to give this . But seriously, I'm confused. Came back home from school for the election and i remembered I got a birthday gift from a friend and i'm yet to show them to my parents,so after today's morning devotion i brought it out and they where like Wow!! This is beautiful.(got the gift from a guy who is interested in me) I got a boyfriend tho and they all know. But they where giving me reason why they prefer the other guy to my boyfriend .
It was crazy tho cos my siblings where there and the look on their faces was something else. My siblings like my boyfriend tho. During the Xmas break,my boyfriend came home to see me, after he left my father told me in the presence of my siblings that he does not like him,i asked him why,he gave no reason. He likes the other guy,and when that one visits he jokes with him and his friends. It's hurts. And this is my first relationship. My dad does not know how to hide his feelings,and i know that sooner or later my boyfriend will know what's up.
Has anyone been through this before
To the guys; How will you feel when you get know your girlfriend's parent don't like you?

MzzTega:

It seems so.....the gifts.
And one thing i noticed again. My boyfriend does not talk. I guess it pisses them off.

ronald4lif:


Oh well. Given that he (your dad) has known him for years he must have his reasons for prefering him over your man, concrete ones. It could be his gentle nature, his family background and upbringing. Could also be his future prospect of becoming successful. Whichever reason(s) he has should be considered carefully.

But I'm still of the opinion that you stand your grounds and don't quit whatever relationship you have with your man, until he gives you strong reasons to. Let this new guy know you're already involve with someone else and it's only him and no one else. It'll also be helpful if you can reduce the frequency to which you both communicate. And just maybe stop collecting further gifts from him as that could be misconstrue that you're interested in him. Well, that's if you're not in to him already.

MzzTega:

The other guy knows about my boyfriend already.

baralatie:

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
this your story get k leg!
your admiting to relationship sound unbelieving!