MrsChima:


Hmmm. It is a trend brewing....maybe a tribal war?

MrsChima:


Damn! I didn't see this before I composed my last post. I am glad others sensed bullshit too!

Igbowife1:


He did have papers in Europe where we met. But then we met and we wanted to be together. So instead of staying in Europe with his papers that's inly a 7 hour flight from nija, he came to live with me and has to fly 24 hours to get to his country. He doesn't have European papers anymore so he needs a visa to go to Europe.

Ipledge:
not tribal war,the people like the op suffering from sickness that have not yet been discovered

MrsChima:


The 14 years old boy is living with his grandmother while his mother is in another city? Hmm.

Fairgodwin:
Well, to be very honest with you, you have every right to be worried. I am a Nigerian, 'a good one,' but for your HUSBAND not to have at least 5 (not so good) minutes to call you, his WIFE daily no matter how busy, it definitely speaks volume.
Please I'm not trying to 'spoil' your marriage or ask you to start 'suspecting' him, but I'm definitely telling you it's either your husband has a wife in Nigeria or planning to get one. Please you do not have to take my comment seriously, I was only speaking my mind and being logical, as the [right thinking] human I was supposed to be.

ireneony:
your husband have a wife in Nigeria.
shikena! take it or leave it!

DiamonJ:
if u trust an igbo man, u can trust anything, oPen ur eyes

DiamonJ:
u are right, he has a villiage wife, that is igbo life for, don't trust them

SkinnyDude:
home breaker!
that's why your type hardly get married.
ndi amusu!

Igbowife1:


He's never lived in the village. He was born and grew up in lagos. He's never hardly been to his village until he took me 3 years ago.

Igbowife1:


Ok so how do I find out? If this is true I need to find out and catch him. Thank you

BluIvy:


Dear Missy, you know I used to think people in the family section of NL were cruel or cold when they deal hashly with people who come with such stories. But you know what after reading this i cannot hide my irritation as well.

People on this section will try and help you open your eyes but if they see you really like your dark place, they will leave you to it. So you need to be sure of what exactly you want to find out when you come here.

First of all, if you think him not calling doesn't mean he has another wife as suggested why are you in this forum about such a minor issue? Why not wait for him to come back again and ask why he is not making time to call you after all the discussions you had?

Secondly, do you want Nigerians or other Igbos to lie to you and tell you there are no phones in Igboland or their culture doesn't allow calls or its normal for igbo man to act like that when he's home bla bla bla or something ridiculous like that?

Do you go to forums about your small domestic issues like these all the time?

You say he would not be married as he has been in Europe for over ten years but you also mention he goes home often i guess that could be yearly or so, right? Just because you would not have a husband who sees you once a year you assume other women would also not agree to that? Right?

If you trust your husband and his family this much why are you not asking them why he doesn't call? Or better yet ask them to call him and get him to call you?

Why come to a forum of strangers who cannot even call or locate your husband rather than his family?

You know what I think? Deep down you know something is not right but you need strangers to tell you otherwise.

I had a friend who did the samething atleast she was not married and didn't know the guys family, she would put up one excuse after another but deep down she knew what was up.

My advise to you is, go ask his family and be satisfied with whatever response you get until he comeback to answer for himself. If and only if you are still not convinced you can comeback for real advise on how to find information about your husband marital status elsewhere.

icedbeatz:


Don't mind the useless pack of meat, I bet she got squished bananas for brain for typing such clueless, unreasonable comment. Most foolish'girls are known to be throwing such advice, well I bet she has never engaged in a job that requires so much focus that at a time one forgets about other very important things I.e if she works, bet she's the telemundo series watching bittch (JUDGING from her opinion) .@ireneony if you have experienced the hard work that is involved in running or starting a NEW business or company then your brain would have had the intellect to analyze a situation before typing shiiiiii and frankly I say fk u bittch . #StuupidBittch

Igbowife1:


Again, I don't understand the hmmm comment? Why is this a problem?

Igbowife1:


He's never lived in the village. He was born and grew up in lagos. He's never hardly been to his village until he took me 3 years ago.

okoloto:
I'm not speaking for ur husband but I do have similar issue when i get back home.....a lot of distractions and believing u have a wife that trusts you, somethings don't matter. Don't be deceived by what you get here, it doesn't make ur hubby less loving. the system is different

MrsChima:


Igbos do not have to live in the village to marry someone from the village.

Igbowife1:


He doesn't know ppl in his village - only his family.

okoloto:
I'm not speaking for ur husband but I do have similar issue when i get back home.....a lot of distractions and believing u have a wife that trusts you, somethings don't matter. Don't be deceived by what you get here, it doesn't make ur hubby less loving. the system is different

Igbowife1:
Thanks to those of you that were kind in your replies. Maybe I wasn't clear enough but I did not get the advice I was asking for. I certainly did get lots of reason to distrust my husband but I actually trust him. We've been together for nearly 7 years and our relationship good it's just that we struggle when he's in his country and I wanted advice on how I could better understand and communicate with my igbo husband. I do not feel at all insecure by the negative comments. He does not have another wife. If he wanted to be with someone else he would have been. Again, thanks to those of you who
tried to be kind and positive. What goes around comes around.