I just left a friend's house now, he was bitterly complaining about his gf that he's been dating for 8 months now. He complained about the girl not wanting to go out with him because she is still under her parents. I told him she has a good excuse, but he claimed that the gurl usually do have time to see her friends during the day, so why can he not have the same opportunity to be visited or take her out during the time she sets out to see her friend.


He's main worry now is Vals, says her gf has been grumbling about going out that day, and he is already feeling frustrated, becoz he loves the girl and also claims the gurl loves him too, but he just does not understand why the girl has been refusing to go out with him ever since they started their relationship. I told him I am a member of nairaland where I can find answer's to why she is refusing to go out with him, coz her excuse is false after my friend claimed she goes out during the day to visit friends.

Nairalanders, as for me I really do not know why the gurl wont wana go out with Kunle, he is presentable and very ok, and he is cash comfortable, do u guys know any other reason why this gurl is turning him down, maybe he can try to fix sumfin out from there b4 vals. He said if na only vals day she go out with am only, that he is ok with it.

Eyo,

Posibility No. 1:
Well, does her parents knows that she have a bf? If her parents does not know. It could be due to that. She is afraid that her parents might caught her with a guy but while if she is out with her friends its ok cause their just friends.

Posibility No. 2:
She might be cheating on him (just a guess ooo. . . Abeg, no vex) and she is afraid that she might meet up with her other bf somewhere while going out with your friend.

Possibility No. 3:
She does not like going out one on one. Some people are like that. They prefer to go out with a bunch of crowd instead of going out with only one person.

Possibility No. 4:
She might be embarrass to go out with him in public. Maybe because he acts a certain funny way or he walks a certain funny way and she does not want to tell him afraid that he might get offended so instead she avoids going out with him

gab, I will rehearse the following possibilities since he is my friend, then will see what could probably be the problem. I will write back on this post.

Ok ooo but I think also its best if he could tell her how he feels when she is doing as such and hopefully she could be open with him

gabrywyl:

Eyo,

Posibility No. 1:
Well, does her parents knows that she have a bf? If her parents does not know. It could be due to that. She is afraid that her parents might caught her with a guy but while if she is out with her friends its ok cause their just friends.

Posibility No. 2:
She might be cheating on him (just a guess ooo. . . Abeg, no vex) and she is afraid that she might meet up with her other bf somewhere while going out with your friend.

Possibility No. 3:
She does not like going out one on one. Some people are like that. They prefer to go out with a bunch of crowd instead of going out with only one person.

Possibility No. 4:
She might be embarrass to go out with him in public. Maybe because he acts a certain funny way or he walks a certain funny way and she does not want to tell him afraid that he might get offended so instead she avoids going out with him

PSB1: His mum knows about Kunle, however they might still not want to allow her go out since she's under-age.
PSB2: He say he does not think so that she's cheating on him.
PSB3: He said on boxing day (December) he was suppose to take her out, but she said she is already going out with her cousins like 11 of them to the beach, so thats a probability.
PSB4: His looks is perfect, dresses well, socially engaging, I can't find anything other than that to prove that fact.

Maybe he should just call the relationship quits after all who would have a girl that he can't take out.

Re: His Gf Has Never Gone Out With Him, Even On Vals Day!

_{let him look for another one}

Abi ooo!!!

Why would he want to call it quits on a good girl?

She proves to him that she is obiendant and follows her parents directions. If he is just looking to deflower her and move on then he should just move on and leave this girl to a MAN that understands her value.

Her parents are in control of her now and have told her not to date, does he really want to start to foster disrespect in his girl. Does he really want a girl that would disrespect, lie, and sneak around behind her father back? Once you start someone down that path it is very hard to turn them around. Plus we all know Karma is a bitch, becareful what you put on others because it is sure to come back on you.

He must sit and think if this girl is worth the wait; if she is then he must continue to toast her and wait until she is old enough to accept. Just find a FWB to keep his manliness busy.

its very obvious without we deceiveing ourselves
1. she only agreed 2 date him just to tell friends she has a bf
2. d guy had embarrased her once
3. self confidence
4. feels she isnt old enuf to go on a date
or fears d guy will demand 4 sex once d date is on

A friend

u mirrored my thoughts

how old are the both of them?

Oh it's YOU again.

Hotstepper:

how old are the both of them?

i almost asked especially on the part of the girl.

She's 16.

Daphoenix, why cant u just shut ur mouth, I am not talking about my gurl, my friend's gurl is who im posting this thread about. She is 18.

sistawoman:

Why would he want to call it quits on a good girl?

She proves to him that she is obiendant and follows her parents directions. If he is just looking to deflower her and move on then he should just move on and leave this girl to a MAN that understands her value.

Her parents are in control of her now and have told her not to date, does he really want to start to foster disrespect in his girl. Does he really want a girl that would disrespect, lie, and sneak around behind her father back? Once you start someone down that path it is very hard to turn them around. Plus we all know Karma is a bitch, becareful what you put on others because it is sure to come back on you.

He must sit and think if this girl is worth the wait; if she is then he must continue to toast her and wait until she is old enough to accept. Just find a FWB to keep his manliness busy.

Did i state that he wants to take her out for sex? Did u read the post well at all?

eyonigger:


Did i state that he wants to take her out for sex? Did u read the post well at all?

Ok then disregard the part about sex. And pay attention the rest.


Does he really want her to go against her father?

When he has a daughter does he want his daughters bf convincing her to go against his will.

KARMA IS A BITCH!!!!!!

What goes around always comes back around.

eyonigger:

Daphoenix, why cant u just shut ur mouth, I am not talking about my gurl, my friend's gurl is who im posting this thread about. She is 18.

lol leave those young girls alone. Let them grow.

She was 16, now she's 18 in a week's time?

Thread is you no? opuro oshi

I am a little pissed and I have be honest about that.

I typed all that advice to your ass and all you could focus on was two sentences about sex. What about the other 7 sentences.

Not all advice is for everyone but when seeking advice you should be able to pick what you need and roll wit that.

sistawoman:

Ok then disregard the part about sex. And pay attention the rest.


Does he really want her to go against her father?

When he has a daughter does he want his daughters bf convincing her to go against his will.

KARMA IS A BITCH!!!!!!

What goes around always comes back around.

The pops is not living with her and her mum, and I stated kunle knows her mum, I did not state that her folks are the problem.

DaPhoenix:

lol leave those young girls alone. Let them grow.

Na u sabi jo, na them better pass all this old blood wey go dey give u ""OSE"'.

HeatFusion:

She was 16, now she's 18 in a week's time?

Thread is you no? opuro oshi

Heatfusion, wat else can I get from u, negative responses, I thank u gan!! OLosi, I am not talking about my gurl, my friends gurl, Oloriburuku nie!!

eyonigger:

Heatfusion, wat else can I get from u, negative responses, I thank u gan!! OLosi, I am not talking about my gurl, my friends gurl, Oloriburuku nie!!

ahhh, ti e ti baje!
Why dnt you face your girl wey you no get confidence to communicate with, instead of minding another's girl?
See yourself, were adugbo

He complained about the girl not wanting to go out with him because she is still under her parents.

That sentence tells me her parents are involved in her decision to see him or not.

So since you are stuck on semantics replace father with mother. Does it really matter if her mother or her father told her not to date? It only counts if the father said it?

Matter fact forget I ever offered any advice.



****I Pray with both hands raised the sky on bend and knee that my child never dates anyone that tries to tempt them like your friend****

Busy_body:

Eyonigger, the girl does not like your friend enough to date him. A girl that is old enough to go with her cousins to the beach without an escort and is allowed to visit her friends, can sneak out and create time to see you if she really wants to Tell your friend to stop wasting his time and go look for other fishes in the sea

Maybe because I have my parent hat on I find it hard to believe that someone would want their girl to sneak out to see them.

I would think that a guy would find her obedience to her parent(s) to be a desired trait.

Is that not what we preach to our children? Dont mind the boys listen to me.

Now she is not worthy of your friends love because she refuses to sneak behind her parents back and do something they dont want her to do.

Is that really what you want your wife to do? Do you really want to prefect in her the art of deceit?

eyonigger:


Na u sabi jo, na them better pass all this old blood wey go dey give u ""OSE"'.

err what?

sistawoman:


Maybe because I have my parent hat on I find it hard to believe that someone would want their girl to sneak out to see them.

I would think that a guy would find her obedience to her parent(s) to be a desired trait.

Is that not what we preach to our children? Dont mind the boys listen to me.

Now she is not worthy of your friends love because she refuses to sneak behind her parents back and do something they dont want her to do.

Is that really what you want your wife to do? Do you really want to prefect in her the art of deceit?

You are reading too much into the issue, unlike the western world where you have to start fending for yourself from the age of 16 (the age of consent) in Nigeria, it is not frowned upon to live under your parents roof until you get married.

Nigerian parents, like every other good parents who has their childrens best intention at heart, are generally strict, they dont want you to date anyone and talks about boyfriends are a no-no, but the moment you reach your mid-twenties, they start grumbling that you have never brought anyone home

Regardless of this, it is possible to have a boyfriend even from the age of 13 and find a way to spend time with the dude, you can't tell me you never jumped a fence before, because of your heartthrob

how old is da guy?

Busy_body:


You are reading too much into the issue, unlike the western world where you have to start fending for yourself from the age of 16 (the age of consent) in Nigeria, it is not frowned upon to live under your parents roof until you get married.

Nigerian parents, like every other good parents who has their childrens best intention at heart, are generally strict, they dont want you to date anyone and talks about boyfriends are a no-no, but the moment you reach your mid-twenties, they start grumbling that you have never brought anyone home

Regardless of this, it is possible to have a boyfriend even from the age of 13 and find a way to spend time with the dude, you can't tell me you never jumped a fence before, because of your heartthrob

Yes I did and wound up with belly because he thought we would make a beautiful baby together and he wanted to lock me down, she he put holes in the condom.

My parents told me to stay my hot ass in the house cuz they knew a sista was in heat. Had i listened to my parents I might have finished college with the rest of my friends instead of years later. I may have married the right man for me instead of the jerk that i married just to get out the house. I may have went on to do the great things I am doing today but sooner in life if I was not strapped with children so early.

I guess the bigger picture is she is a girl with respect for her parent(s) a respect that goes above and beyond what this guy is trying to get her to do.

I cant be a party to advicing him how to have this girl go against her parents wishes.

A girl like that is a good girl. . . . I would dare to say a girl like that is wifey material.

I understand what you are saying Sistawoman, but who really wants to be the model child and wait till they reach their twenties before they start dating

In this particular case, I refuse to believe the girl is dodging the dude because of her parents, she is not just that into him. Any girl would move mountain when she is in love.

Busy_body:

I understand what you are saying Sistawoman, but who really wants to be the model child and wait till they reach their twenties before they start dating

I hope my girls will. I pray my girls will.

and when that does not work I will start shooting dudes in the knee caps.

@busy, i started dating in ma 20's, no rush, probably cuz i didnt wanna junp 4rom one person to another and am one of those that didnt and still dont fall into peer pressure or do cuz the media or others r doing

but as u rightly said, the gurl aint feeling da dude