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5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Jennydoris(f): 3:55pm On May 05, 2015
As you and your man begin to know each other,
there are several things you are meant to overlook
and others you are not allowed to let slide which
means sticking to your standards at the start of your
relationship is essential, no matter how excited you
are about your new romance.

Virginia Clark of YourTango lists out 5 things you
never owe a man you are just getting to know. And here goes the lists.....


1. You don’t owe him an explanation about
why you’re not married: Being cross-
examined about why you’re “still” single
puts you on the defensive. It makes you feel
judged and vulnerable. There are damn
good reasons why you’re single. Stop telling
yourself that being married is OK and being
single is not. Whether single by choice or by
chance, there’s nothing wrong with you.
And you don’t need to justify where you are
in life what matters is that you have focus.


2. You definitely don’t owe him sex before
you’re ready: Just because he wants to
have sex with you doesn’t mean you have to
go through with it. If you feel pressure,
either real or imagined, don’t do it just to
make him happy (or to make him like you).
Taking you out and spending his money on
you does not equate to purchasing access
to your body! Remember, once given, it
can’t be taken back.


3. You don’t owe him monogamy (until it’s
mutually agreed upon): If a man wants
exclusivity from you, even if he’s not
exclusive with you, the answer is no! It’s a
simple concept really: don’t commit to him
more than he’s committed to you. When
he’s truly serious about you he’ll agree to
monogamy, and if he doesn’t, well, he’s just
not ready.


4. You don’t have to drink or do drugs with
him: Men who do drugs and drink usually
like company, so he’ll want you to join him.
Know what’s right for you and don’t change
your habits or boundaries to please him. If
he says you’re ruining his fun or being a
prude, it’s OK; you’re not required to prove
your coolness. If his drinking or drugs are
an issue for you, take it seriously, otherwise
you’re playing with fire.


5. You never owe him an apology for being
authentically you: If he judges what you eat,
what you wear, or how you look … beware. If
he labels your beliefs wrong or silly, think
twice. Don’t make excuses or justify your
choices to a man who doesn’t “get you.” Be
who you are and be proud. Knowing what
you don’t owe a man hopefully reminds you
of what you DO owe yourself. Honour your
own boundaries, trust that you know what is
right for you, and most importantly, don’t
change who you are for ANYONE (a man
you’re dating or otherwise).


http://nwdailyblog.com/5-things-you-dont-owe-the-man-you-are-dating/[b][/b]

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Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by TopWinner(m): 3:57pm On May 05, 2015
*books space*

















Just incase
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by jamex93(m): 3:59pm On May 05, 2015
Bros for up that your land don pass the half plot we agree on

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Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Ezedon(m): 4:00pm On May 05, 2015
OP I totally disagree with you on no.2 & 5, if she denied me sex, that means she is not interested
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Ezedon(m): 4:00pm On May 05, 2015
OP I totally disagree with you on no.2 & 5, if she denied me sex when she is not a virgin, that means she is not interested in the relationship
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Blizzyblinkzy(f): 4:14pm On May 05, 2015
Iffa hear
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by adahgold(m): 4:18pm On May 05, 2015
Any small thing you girls will say sex sex sex am tired of hearing that bull shit,if a guy loves a girl dey will say is because of sex, you girls talk as if we are they only one enjoying they sex self,which we all no that girls enjoy sex more than men. Let me ask the @op this question if you think we boys love sex please why don't you try dating a LESBIAN and see between a girl and a boy who love or demand for sex more?
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by sinaj(f): 4:21pm On May 05, 2015
all da posters above me are... lipsrsealed
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by importexpert(m): 4:23pm On May 05, 2015
Nice job. U have said a lot
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by jnrbayano(m): 4:26pm On May 05, 2015
Jenny,

Who is Virginia Clark? Is she a Nigerian?
Do you realise that the vast majority of the people who will read this and are willing to put this into use are Nigerians?

Bogus list if you ask me.....full of half truths.
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by demmy0325(m): 4:35pm On May 05, 2015
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Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Chilug(m): 4:37pm On May 05, 2015
Ok!
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by soulminister(m): 4:39pm On May 05, 2015
I would want to ask what you owe a man?
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by ireneony(f): 4:42pm On May 05, 2015
cool write up grin
men una hear.

put a ring on my finger, then am urs forever cheesy
Re: 5 Things You Don’t Owe The Man You Are Dating by Jennydoris(f): 7:10pm On May 05, 2015
ireneony:
cool write up grin
men una hear.

put a ring on my finger, then am urs forever cheesy
wink

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