Rapmoney:
I know majority of Nigerians too lazy to read but it pays to most times

Below are some common fallacies most Nigerian guys have been pressured and deceived over the years to believe . You might hold a different opinion from these but emerging 'trends' and 'happenstances' in our society clearly point to the fact that these common beliefs no longer hold weight and logic and therefore, may be seen as nonsense!

1) #You can only find someone who truly loves you when you are still struggling#: Bullcrap! Nonsense! So we were told while we were younger! Now, we know better . It is as good as saying 'only poor men find real love'. Imagine that!!! It means 2Face Idibia must have married a bad wife; a woman who doesn't have real love for him because he met her after he attained fame! How fallacious this sounds! Whether you like it or not, there are classes in our society and one should strive to attain the class he feels he wants his would-be wife to come from . I just feel people who still hold this opinion are suffering from a psychology that promotes inferiority complex! Finding a good wife or a woman that truly loves you has nothing to do with struggling! If you are comfortable and finds a woman that is as comfortable as you and in your class, would you say she's after your wealth?

2) #Even if there's no money, when we give birth, children will bring blessings#: Don't allow anyone deceive you, folks. Yeah, blessings come but do not put the life of somebody's daughter at risk and endangering the lives of the tiny legs you would produce because you don't have enough to cater for them!!! Even Jesus Christ, in the Bible(the synoptic gospels), admonished Christians to calculate the cost of something before embarking on it, else the enemies mock the person that he couldn't maintain what he started (call me Pastor Rapmoney ) Truth be told, it would take the grace of God to maintain peace and ensure fidelity in a home that lacks money in these modern times!

3) #Beautiful women have bad attitude#: We can as well say 'ugly women have nice attitude No one is perfect! What you might admire in someone could be different from what the next man would admire in them. Who says a woman cannot be beautiful within and in the outside? It doesn't mean you should place all your bets on big buttocks, pointed boobs and pretty face but I tell you today, marrying a woman who is very presentable doesn't make you a fool or criminal! I love beautiful women

4)#A man should set a woman up financially#: Another bunkum!!! Marriage involves two people who are emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially mature! I strongly believe that ladies should as well be financially ready before they get married. It is not just a man's thing. If he goes out to win the bread, you as the woman, should also go out to win the akara. You would attract more respect by such from the man. Men hardly misbehave when they are aware that their wife is financially strong too . It is better to marry a woman that has acquired her degree or into one profession, business, trade or occupation than to get married to a woman who does nothing, sits and folds her hands, waiting for a man to come and marry her in order to take away her burden! Are you getting married to a human being or a burden?

5) #Money is not all; what matters is love#: This is what most girls use to deceive guys on social media, including Nairaland. I always say it that it is only on NL and other social media that girls are quick to say this trash! Most girls can't practise it in real life. They only say this to create what I call 'social media good face' . Same girl that says this online will operate in the opposite offline. Don't let them fool ya fellas!!! . Don't believe this! If you believe this, then you will surely believe anything. It existed in the past...not now. The society has transformed to something else and it is either you follow up or get left behind; simple truth! Make good money and you won't even have time to listen to such trash!!!

A word is enough for the wise!

Good day folks!

bisi16:

Oga check ur facts b4 u dey write. 2face married d woman who was wit him when he struggled.

Akposkool:
Who told you 2 face met Annie after he became famous? Don't say stuffs you don't know

Rapmoney:
Young man, focus on the message and not 2face! It doesn't in any way alter the message the post is trying to pass across

KAPOVee:
nice write-up

ronald4lif:


Hehe! I think I know why. She'll be egoistic and unsubmissive abi

Rapmoney:
I know majority of Nigerians too lazy to read but it pays to most times

Below are some common fallacies most Nigerian guys have been pressured and deceived over the years to believe . You might hold a different opinion from these but emerging 'trends' and 'happenstances' in our society clearly point to the fact that these common beliefs no longer hold weight and logic and therefore, may be seen as nonsense!

1) #You can only find someone who truly loves you when you are still struggling#: Bullcrap! Nonsense! So we were told while we were younger! Now, we know better . It is as good as saying 'only poor men find real love'. Imagine that!!! It means 2Face Idibia must have married a bad wife; a woman who doesn't have real love for him because he met her after he attained fame! How fallacious this sounds! Whether you like it or not, there are classes in our society and one should strive to attain the class he feels he wants his would-be wife to come from . I just feel people who still hold this opinion are suffering from a psychology that promotes inferiority complex! Finding a good wife or a woman that truly loves you has nothing to do with struggling! If you are comfortable and finds a woman that is as comfortable as you and in your class, would you say she's after your wealth?

2) #Even if there's no money, when we give birth, children will bring blessings#: Don't allow anyone deceive you, folks. Yeah, blessings come but do not put the life of somebody's daughter at risk and endangering the lives of the tiny legs you would produce because you don't have enough to cater for them!!! Even Jesus Christ, in the Bible(the synoptic gospels), admonished Christians to calculate the cost of something before embarking on it, else the enemies mock the person that he couldn't maintain what he started (call me Pastor Rapmoney ) Truth be told, it would take the grace of God to maintain peace and ensure fidelity in a home that lacks money in these modern times!

3) #Beautiful women have bad attitude#: We can as well say 'ugly women have nice attitude No one is perfect! What you might admire in someone could be different from what the next man would admire in them. Who says a woman cannot be beautiful within and in the outside? It doesn't mean you should place all your bets on big buttocks, pointed boobs and pretty face but I tell you today, marrying a woman who is very presentable doesn't make you a fool or criminal! I love beautiful women

4) #A man should set a woman up financially#: Another bunkum!!! Marriage involves two people who are emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially mature! I strongly believe that ladies should as well be financially ready before they get married. It is not just a man's thing. If he goes out to win the bread, you as the woman, should also go out to win the akara. You would attract more respect by such from the man. Men hardly misbehave when they are aware that their wife is financially strong too . It is better to marry a woman that has acquired her degree or into one profession, business, trade or occupation than to get married to a woman who does nothing, sits and folds her hands, waiting for a man to come and marry her in order to take away her burden! Are you getting married to a human being or a burden?

5) #Money is not all; what matters is love#: This is what most girls use to deceive guys on social media, including Nairaland. I always say it that it is only on NL and other social media that girls are quick to say this trash! Most girls can't practise it in real life. They only say this to create what I call 'social media good face' . Same girl that says this online will operate in the opposite offline. Don't let them fool ya fellas!!! . Don't believe this! If you believe this, then you will surely believe anything. It existed in the past...not now. The society has transformed to something else and it is either you follow up or get left behind; simple truth! Make good money and you won't even have time to listen to such trash!!!

A word is enough for the wise!

Good day folks!

ronald4lif:


Yes, I get the point now. Guy, it would shock you to know that there are some women who are too lazy to even wake up in the morning and go to a shop to sell their wares. Some believe that the role of a woman are confines in taking care of the kids, cleaning and cooking.

Don't you know many women who are graduates idling at home without a job everyday around you?. Do you think their hubby don't want to fund a business for them or if they even care of engaging themselves in anything meaningful?. Some don't care.

proxillin:
[size=15pt]Most beautiful ladies have attitude problem. You dont have to be a kid to know this little fact.

They can't reason past their beauty.

They dont care what people think, so far they have beautiful face, they can enter any office and open their leg to get what they want.[/size]

Rapmoney:
Is anyone holding u back from marrying an ugly lady?

UjSizzle:
I agree with you esp points 1, 3 and 5.


You think the worst of beautiful women. That's why I keep hearing foolish statements like: You're beautiful AND nice!
You're beautiful AND moral!
You're beautiful AND friendly!
You're beautiful AND sociable!
It's hard to see a beautiful woman with any of these.
Bullshiiit I tell you. Utter bullshiiit.


You insist on finding love when you have nothing otherwise the women who come into your life after have no value. Why biko? Because women are gold diggers? Because you need us to be your backbone while you make the money? I'm lost.


Love is cool. Sweet even. Money makes it sweeter even if we don't ask for it. For one it gives you (the man) a sense of worth, not particularly for our benefit but for yours. Your life is so tied to gaining this money that without its presence you don't feel like you've achieved much for yourself. Yeah I'm not saying women don't like the presence of cash too, but from experience I've observed it has a positive correlation to a man's self esteem.

chowlade:
u r on point

Seventeen:
There are are lazy women no doubt, just as there are lazy men too. But generally women wont just want to idle away doin nothin, sometimes its not what u think., my bros.. Women have to also bear kids, rear kids, clean, cook and do so many other stuff to make sure the home is functioning, as well as own a bizness or work, its not easy as it is sounds, in reality one front must suffer, its either ur home suffers or ur business/work suffers. your attentin must be needed more somewhere. Kudos to those who are able to balance the two but sometimes based on mutual agreement, a couple, (after they might have considered so many factors), may decide that the wife may just have to hold off for sometime, I had to wait a while, my first child was 9 and the last of my 3kids was 4yrs old when i finally started my own business in 2013. I was working as a newly wed, mind u, but like i said SOMETIMES its just hard for some people to balance the two. You get pregnant, high cost of nannies /daycare, (thats if u are able to find a credible one in ur area), kids get sick and need attention, finally ur job starts suffering, ur boss gets fed up... Dont forget the husband, he is the one now dat will start suffering the wives frustration. Its a bitter cycle of fruatratin events, so in my case, we decided i just quit and stay home for a while. It was frustrating doin nothing but it was worth it in d end. Now i have a business, I can take business trips without qualms, i can stay out a bit late to attend to business issues, unlike if i had a small baby. Am not making nice excuses for women am just being real, besides wen career women leave dia kids wit all this abusive nannies, we are still the first to start shouting "culdnt she stay home at least for some yrs to take of the kids". Abeg make una pity us oo, we de try oo. Not everyone can afford expensive nannies and daycare like dem celebrities and high class women, because some guyz will soon start saying, what of this person and that person, How dem de take manage