tohpahz:


Please u ke.. i don't do that..

kinglekan:

Interesting Topic Queen Tohpahz.

To answer your question. Emphatically yes!!

Truth is we actually misconstrue a lotta mushy feelings and emotions as love. When we don't feel these "so called" feelings we bail out.

I had a thread on this sometime ago. Check it out via this link;


Emotional Rush


True love is built over time and from my little knowledge on it, the true test of love comes after the heightened emotional ecstasy that accompanies a new relationship.

You cannot fully ascertain if you truly love someone if its based on your feelings. As a matter of fact our feelings are full of deceit.

It takes time to truly build love and it also takes time to fall completely out of love.

tohpahz:

Heheh.. U no.know say i be wife material not sidechick material

Make I test na!! U nor dey test suya b4 u go buy?

tohpahz:


Okay,, so u.don't go for the outward looks??

kinglekan:



Make I test na!! U nor dey test suya b4 u go buy?

tohpahz:


Okay..
So u saying that, in a situation whereby the feeling in question is really love,it can be lost right(with time?)

tohpahz:

No testing
After u go say the suya no swt.. lmao

ROTFL.. LMAO

tohpahz:


How?? What causes it??

Borrussia:
Those are just an enticing attributes, though I appreciate them, but they're definitely not my utmost priorities

Perhaps that makes us.

Dotwillis1:


one of the reasons is when there’s too much boredom and routine
If you don’t water your plant every day it will die.
As simple as that. As will your love and relationship if you don’t maintain it on a regular basis.
Love in a romantic relationship is not an abstract
thing that exists and stands by itself. It has to be
fostered, and taken care of on a daily basis.
A thriving relationship is work. And only work
will make it grow. This can be done by daily love rituals, weekly
communications sessions, creating “memory-beacons”, regular live affection, and sharing mutual interests and
hobbies. Love… you have to take care of it before it will take care of you.

letsbet:
Love. that four letter word!. the sweetest emotion. so many people speak about it but its so rare around here. we all have different reasons for falling out or staying in love. miss Tophaz, hav u been in and out of love before?

tohpahz:


Okay dear.. i get ur angle now..

tohpahz:



lovely.. Thanks for your contribution dear

Borrussia:


I'm contemplating on something, should I do it or not.

It'll benefit me if I do.

Your advice needed.

tohpahz:

Do.it
Ermmmm. Whats it first ??

Borrussia:
Beg me

tohpahz:

Hiann.. no.be u.need hlp
Dey dia na..

Borrussia:
Okay bribe me, don't you know that it is a privilege, the fact that I chose you.


Plus you can act cunningly, the way you do whenever you wanna collect money from your boo

missclasssy:
Tophaz, I am of the opinion that one can fall out of love.

Love is an emotion and like all emotions, it is capable of wearing off.
One thing about love is that it is built and it is sustained.

If the love you feel for someone is genuine and has gone through development stages, tests and trial and has reached that the point where it becomes "True love" then all that remains is for it to be sustained.

It is when true love is not sustained that you can have a case of someone falling out of love.

tohpahz:


Lolzz. I work for my money

Privilege ko keep it.to urself

profojah:
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tohpahz:


So it doesn't have to do with the person changing??
U think it's based mostly on standing the test of.time?

Dotwillis1:


one of the reasons is when there’s too much boredom and routine
If you don’t water your plant every day it will die.
As simple as that. As will your love and relationship if you don’t maintain it on a regular basis.
Love in a romantic relationship is not an abstract
thing that exists and stands by itself. It has to be
fostered, and taken care of on a daily basis.
A thriving relationship is work. And only work
will make it grow. This can be done by daily love rituals, weekly
communications sessions, creating “memory-beacons”, regular live affection, and sharing mutual interests and
hobbies. Love… you have to take care of it before it will take care of you.

missclasssy:


Yes, one other thing I forgot to mention what that love is always in a continuous progression or regression process.

The love one has for someone if sustained, continues growing and getting stronger and stronger, but when it isn't sustained it begins to regress and regress until it undergoes transformation into hate or is just lost and replaced by an emptiness.

It's just like the process of heating a metal in a temperate climate like the North poles for instance.
The heat applied to the metal if sustained raises the temperature of the metal and the temperature keeps on increasing and increasing.
But if the heat applied is removed, the temperature begins to drop and drop until it reaches freezing point and continues to drop.

What sustains the relationship is like the heat applied to the metal. And the temperature is the love one feels.

So when elements that sustain love is removed, the love begins to get colder and colder until it is no more.

forandy:


Your first comment was so spot on. This addition as well isn't bad. I share your opinion with respect to the 'sustenance'. When those rituals needed for the love to be groomed are out of reach or (like in some cases I've witnessed) gone down the drain, it causes worry, especially to the other partner who tries to keep sustaining and there comes the possibility of falling out of love. Now, about the nice 'heat and metal' illustration, I think that 'metal' should represent the both partners and the 'heat' (which is obviously the different routines to keep the love going) should come from both partners...both of them should be actively involved in heating that metal! Thanks

Nice. Thanks.