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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by PublicAssurance: 10:33pm On Sep 28, 2015
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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by hamaworld(m): 10:33pm On Sep 28, 2015
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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by initialize(m): 10:35pm On Sep 28, 2015
What about increasing single men?


I'm a single man and I don't think I'm the only one.


Looking for where the Plural men are to go and join them. undecided


::::I didn't read before posting sha cos I dey busy and the write up loooooonnnnng!!

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Bollinger(m): 10:38pm On Sep 28, 2015
humilitypays:
It is a simple fact that the number of guys refusing to marry is directly proportional to the number of ladies that are single and searching, reason being that it is these single guys that have refused to marry that ought to marry the single ladies that are searching and praying for husband.


Now, the question is: why do we have an abnormal increase in the number of single unmarried ladies that are searching for marriage partner today in Nigeria?


Sit back and read the preceding paragraphs and you will find out why and how women (married and single) can help curb this cankerworm eating deep into our modern Nigeria.


Before we forge ahead, you will agree with me that 10 to 20 years ago, men dominated the Nigerian workforce, with fewer number of women occupying top positions, but today, the table has turned as more women now secure better paying jobs than their male counterparts.


My personal study into this recent development showed that most Nigerian organisation boss who are mostly men above 45years, prefer to hirer pretty single ladies for non-engineering positions, which put guys in the non-engineering sectors at high risk of not securing good jobs when competing with ladies for same job position.


I also discovered that most multinational firms have a policy that encourages female gender empowerment, which make their HR team give preferential treatment to ladies seeking for same position with a male job applicant during recruitment exercise.


You can hardly discover this secret organisation policy until you are among the top management.


If you doubt this, try and go to Victoria Island in Lagos during close of work; 5 - 6pm (Monday - Friday), and you will notice higher number of young pretty females leaving their office premises in good cars, with few young guys leaving their workplaces in a car.


If you are observant enough, you will also discover that most of the male workers driving home from work are usually within the age range of: 38 - 60yrs, whereas more ladies within the age range of; 25 - 35yrs drive home from work, showing that more young ladies now have better jobs than guys.


This is also applicable to Abuja: same study was carried out within Central Business District of Abuja, CBD.


To many Nigerians, especially the ladies, it is a good trend; at least to them, it shows that ladies are becoming independent from guys, and to the old working class male directors and managers, it means nothing because they are at the receiving end (sleeping with these young pretty ladies for jobs, promotion, contracts, etc), but not until their own daughter(s) graduate from Harvard University or London School of Economics and returns back home to take up an executive position in her dad's big firm, but only to go to bed every night weeping and soaking her pillows with tears simply because there is no responsible young man in her life ready to walk her to the altar and they live happily ever after like she reads from foreign novels and watch on Telemundo series.


No wonder many rich parents are now arranging marriage for their daughters; yet this doesn't solve the imminent problem of abnormal increase in single young people in Nigeria of today.


Now, what am I blabbing about? The major reason we have increasing rate of single ladies in Nigeria today is not because witches in the villages have increased in number and now pursuing single ladies and stopping them from finding suitable husbands just as many modern pastors make these single ladies to believe in order to extort money from them & to grow their congregation, it is not even because single ladies of today lack good character or manner, neither is it because single ladies now dress indecently....nope, the major reason is harsh economy that is no longer favouring young single guys!


How do we expect a guy who graduated from higher institution and served his fatherland after 3 years and still unable to rent a decent apartment for himself, unable to cater for his own daily needs to think about getting married in this time and age?


How do we expect a young guy who after 4 to 5 years of passing out from NYSC is yet to secure a job that pays him up to a hundred thousand naira, and give him the opportunity of saving at least fifty thousand naira every month to wish to marry and give birth to children?


The earlier we Nigerians realise the dangers of having more young guys without good job, the better for us as a nation that wish to grow and have a happy, crime-free society.

I know some people will say: marriage is not everyone, while others will argue that must everybody marry? And the answer is yes, anybody who desires to marry ought to marry, but is that the case today? No!

Many young men want to marry, but the truth is that their pocket isn't encouraging to take that bold step that marriage requires.

Some will also argue that must you wait till you have millions before you marry? And some will argue that marriage is not about money, but tell me: how do you sustain the kids that will follow after the wedding? How do you plan to pay for house rent, children increasing school fees, etc?

Do you want to plan the future of your kids on one rich relation or friend? That's unfair to the unborn innocent children you want to bring to life, please don't do it!

I know that not every guy or lady will be rich, but being comfortable to provide most of your needs should be compulsory at least!

I still remember the story of Adam and Eve which I read from “The Book of My Bible Stories” while I was a kid, it told us how God created man, Adam and gave him everything he needed and Adam will go to his garden in the morning to return at night lonely, such that God pitied him and said: it is not good for him to be alone, I will make him a help mate, and so God made Adam to fall deep asleep and then God came and removed one of Adam's ribs and made Eve for him.

Adam woke up and saw Eve and was excited and said: this is the bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh (dunno if I quoted those words correctly).

What am I trying to say? God gave Adam his basic needs before sending him a woman!

A man deserves to have his basic needs met before thinking of getting married.


But it is so shameful that old married men in Nigeria occupying top positions in various organisations and firms gave and still giving jobs to single unmarried ladies who most times contribute nothing to the organisation's growth, thereby causing more unemployment and underemployment of young single Nigerian guys, with a resultant effect of late marriage amongst these young single guys.


Shameful enough, many organisations today hire ladies by their physical attraction; once a member of the HR team admires the female applicant, whether she merits the job or not, he must ensure that she gets hired to the disadvantage of her male counterparts who most times have better skills to offer to the organisation.



THE SOLUTION

First, we must tell ourselves the truth: in Nigerian culture and norm, men are believed and expected to be the breadwinner of the family; the woman is only expected to assist and contribute if she has and can.


Bearing this in mind, majority if not all Nigerian single ladies searching for a life partner want and desire to marry a guy earning higher income than them.


All things being equal, no Nigerian single lady prays to marry a guy she's earning more than; very uncommon in Nigeria.


But then, we have few single guys in Nigeria who earn that kind of income most Nigerian single ladies desire from their preferred partner. And as it stands presently in Nigeria, more single ladies between the age range of 25yrs - 35yrs have better paying jobs than single guys of the same age range, which means many single ladies in Nigeria will never find husband to marry except they lower their taste and marry a guy earning below them or they become second wife to older men.


All these anomalies were caused by older Nigerian men who set the wrong legacy for this nation in terms of bad leadership, sex-for-job in favour of single ladies, and more...and for this status quo to change, every Nigerian citizen must play a role to bring the much desired change we dream of in Nigeria, how?



1. As a young single lady working in a company, say no to the maltreatment of young single guys in your organisation because the more these guys are penalised and made not to grow, the more chances of you, your single sister, niece, friend or even aunt not finding a deserving husband to marry.


2. All HR personnel must ensure equity and fairness when hiring applicants for any job position. Stop the female gender empowerment; enough is enough, its not helping Nigeria, neither is it helping the world in general.


Women are happier when their husband or man is in charge financially than when they are in charge...even in Europe!


3. As a single lady, lower your financial expectation from guys- the table is turning, fewer guys now have good means of income compared to ladies; you ladies asked for gender equality, you now have it, please make use of it, don't wait for a richer guy...if you are driving and you see a guy trekking whom you fancy, lift him and don't be shy to startup a focused-relationship with him...waiting for the richer guys driving bigger cars than yours may keep you waiting for eternity and may bring you more heartbreak because such guys now know that they are king to women and so they treat ladies with little/no respect.


4. Encourage your single brothers to work hard, acquire skill, learn trade and explore business opportunities even if they are working. Help them with business startup capital...doing so will help create a deserving husband for a fellow single lady out there.


5. Stop squandering that single guy's money!

Advice him to invest his income wisely! Encourage him to startup a side business to assist his salary because no salary is enough!



6. As a single guy, learn to be financially wise!

Quit those useless habits that drains your income! Quit smoking! Quit drinking! Quit gambling! Quit womanising; its a costly hobby! Quit clubbing around town! Quit squandering money on any girl who isn't your wife! Learn to invest, learn to nurture a business aside your job and learn to spend lesser than you earn! Don't use your last savings to buy a car just to feel among or just to attract irrelevant ladies! Car is more of a necessity until you become rich! For now, buying car should be to aid your financial growth and not for fun or pleasure!


7. As a single lady, pray for your single brothers, boyfriend, lover, or male friends and colleagues. Advice and encourage them whenever you can.


It is no longer easy for single young guys in Nigeria even though most of them won't confess this to you due to male ego!


Let's all wake up to the reality and pray that President Buhari and his team bring about the positive change in Nigeria's economy to help curb this societal pressure.


Wish you all a blissful day ahead.

Analysis of a 12 year old.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Rumpelstiltskin(m): 10:40pm On Sep 28, 2015
Isaiah 4 : 1 must be fulfilled.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by emmanuel596(m): 10:41pm On Sep 28, 2015
They give the right Pusssy to the wrong fuckers

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by prodiG(m): 10:42pm On Sep 28, 2015
jrerico1:

Football and sex which is berra?? undecided
Football because it lasts longer-Sergio Busquets grin

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by southcent: 10:45pm On Sep 28, 2015
nice article ,I think the op is better off as a blogger who would write truthfully, not these so called "make $10000 in five days hacks" we read from...... nice one op

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by dorhinsolar(f): 10:45pm On Sep 28, 2015
Front page!!! Front page!!!

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by scribble: 10:45pm On Sep 28, 2015
Instead of you to try entrepreneurship, you're competing for jobs with women soft buttocks. Good luck.

HR

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by naijacutee(f): 10:47pm On Sep 28, 2015
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by damton(m): 10:48pm On Sep 28, 2015
Deeply reflective, no wonder why rudderless ladies now look down on men in recent times. they've been empowered by the unfortunate situation and trend.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 10:49pm On Sep 28, 2015
Bollinger:


Analysis of a 12 year old.

Quote of a 12 year old. Did u have to quote the whole statement to make your point?

F angry sadl

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 10:50pm On Sep 28, 2015
Societal decadence in summary. Quite well said
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 10:51pm On Sep 28, 2015
naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

Easy to say madame

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by arisekola77: 10:52pm On Sep 28, 2015
I thank God for my wife n my day 1 courage to talk to her

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by poseidon12: 10:58pm On Sep 28, 2015
Interesting article. I admire your writing ability. I agree with your points.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by youngeagle(m): 11:00pm On Sep 28, 2015
Nice one.....nothing but the truth
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by afroxyz: 11:03pm On Sep 28, 2015
naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

The bible you use as your point of reference is also a product or culture. The Jewish one.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 11:05pm On Sep 28, 2015
Well done Op!
Solution no. 6 is really timely for guys (and even married men).....there's no better time to be wise than now....

6. As a single guy, learn to be financially wise!

Quit those useless habits that drains your income! Quit smoking! Quit drinking! Quit gambling! Quit womanizing; its a costly hobby! Quit clubbing around town! Quit squandering money on any girl who isn't your wife! Learn to invest, learn to nurture a business aside your job and learn to spend lesser than you earn! Don't use your last savings to buy a car just to feel among or just to attract irrelevant ladies! Car is more of a necessity until you become rich! For now, buying car should be to aid your financial growth and not for fun or pleasure!

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by wristbangle: 11:06pm On Sep 28, 2015
I respect your view op. Excellent write up

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Timoleon(m): 11:06pm On Sep 28, 2015
tensazangetsu:
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE. WE NO GO HEAR WORD AGAIN. YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM AS IF MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING. IT'S ONE OF THE WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN. LIVE YOUR LIFE, TRAVEL EXPERIENCE THE WORLD MEET PEOPLE LEARN ABOUT DIFFERENT CULTURES. IN THE END YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND HOW YOU LIVE IT DEPENDS ON YOU

i just tire o...people goin about marriage like its d best thing that can ever happen. yet there are more unhappy people in marriages than there are happy people.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by HireKiller(m): 11:07pm On Sep 28, 2015
Mcbussy:
This is entirely true... Any smart social scientist would av noticed this without even carrying out any research.

It's not the fault of the ladies though, it's just d new trend in civilization. It will surely have detrimental effect on guys ability to get on in life in underdeveloped countries. Since women want a piece of labour force action, I guess d next struggle for them would be finding appropriate husbands.

Interesting.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by HireKiller(m): 11:08pm On Sep 28, 2015
Mcbussy:
This is entirely true... Any smart social scientist would av noticed this without even carrying out any research.

It's not the fault of the ladies though, it's just d new trend in civilization. It will surely have detrimental effect on guys ability to get on in life in underdeveloped countries. Since women want a piece of labour force action, I guess d next struggle for them would be finding appropriate husbands.

Interesting,

I'll keep watching how things unfold.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by HireKiller(m): 11:11pm On Sep 28, 2015
emmanuel596:
They give the right Pusssy to the wrong fuckers

Good one.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by SmartMugu: 11:12pm On Sep 28, 2015
I look at it somewhat differently. Though, these may be some valid reasons.
If we look at it from a gender ratio standpoint, naturally men to women ratio is around 1:1. Collectively, we have 50% chance of having either male or female children.
In the world we live in however, there are more women than men. Why? May be cos men are more involved in risky escapades than females - dangerous jobs, crime etc.

If we take the time to research the prison population in countries in the world, it's more men than women locked up, hence those men aren't available for women looking for men.
If we look at the ratio of those who died or got handicapped from dangerous events like wars, hard jobs, crime, accidents etc, it's still more men who are no longer available to women searching for men. So, the ratio of available men to available women tilts on the high side for the women.

I even read somewhere that if every available man marries three women each, there will still be some women without a man. That's how bad it is if the article is true.

That's why I don't understand why a huge fraction of our ubiquitous women are still doing yanga when available men ain't as much as they are, or why some men spend lavishly to impress women when the population of the available women is over three times their gender. Or even why men pay to mess with prostitutes; several women would pray for the same thing these men are paying for.

Why not just admit there are just way too many available women than available men?

Even making polygamy mandatory will not solve the issue - some available women aren't pretty enough or lack the qualities many men want and will most likely remain without one. There are many ugly and crude men too, but with huge wads of cash, their ugliness and poor manners becomes swag to many women-even models. In other words, available men get taken faster than available women, leaving more available women still available.

It's just the world we live in.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by naijacutee(f): 11:13pm On Sep 28, 2015
afroxyz:

The bible you use as your point of reference is also a product or culture. The Jewish one.

You're right. I only used the Bible as a point of reference on this because it is likely that people will quote from the Bible (be fruitful and multiply) as a reason to pressure themselves into marriage. From a biological perspective: in a well populated world, there is no biological reason to marry & reproduce the same way we have biological reasons to feed, for example.

pinceprinz:

Easy to say madame

True. But one sheep has got to break out of the fold someday.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Giyerte(m): 11:13pm On Sep 28, 2015
kudos
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Pinoralia: 11:14pm On Sep 28, 2015
Kudos to you OP. You pointed out a societal problem and proffer solutions. May God bless you.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Rudolfchris(m): 11:15pm On Sep 28, 2015
Op.. you are absolutely on point with this analysis, you definitely hit the nail on the head. You have said it all.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by nwaire: 11:15pm On Sep 28, 2015
I agree totally, this can only be a product of deep thinking, even though you quote research, I see analytical thinking...hmm

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