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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 4:43am On Sep 29, 2015
naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

I guess you not marrying wouldn't be a problem,right?
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by WailingWailer00(m): 5:01am On Sep 29, 2015
pretydiva:
God abeg dash dis gal smal sense undecided
Kids have taken over Nairaland, free her
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Wendy0624: 5:08am On Sep 29, 2015
"Stop searching for Mr Right.

Find Mr Left and turn him to the Right".
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by obiak4(m): 5:32am On Sep 29, 2015
humilitypays:
Thanks @adahxris, successmart, mayorschwags and macville2, good morning guyssmiley
may eledumare never let u kick the bucket like sawyer via ebola tru God eledumare i have reachalander,

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by obiak4(m): 5:45am On Sep 29, 2015
tensazangetsu:
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE. WE NO GO HEAR WORD AGAIN. YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM AS IF MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING. IT'S ONE OF THE WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN. LIVE YOUR LIFE, TRAVEL EXPERIENCE THE WORLD MEET PEOPLE LEARN ABOUT DIFFERENT CULTURES. IN THE END YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND HOW YOU LIVE IT DEPENDS ON YOU
typing..................................
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by HaroldFinch(m): 5:51am On Sep 29, 2015
Nice write up. I really commend your efforts OP. I however have another view to the discussion. I think our problems are also connected to the adoption of the white man lifestyle. Focus is more on the individual, rather than communal. We've fashioned a form of complexity to the way we live that makes it hard for us to believe that the only thing that works is one man one woman. Two, three or more working class women could find fulfilment in marriage with a man if it is properly maintained and which could solve the problem you raised. Errrm.. Human Rights Advocates would want to crucify me for my comment but, hey, has monogamy really worked for the white man?

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by simdam500(m): 5:52am On Sep 29, 2015
ademoladeji: We don't need solution... Let's dem be biko

Are you vexing now wink cheesy


Chill joor. E go better
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 5:54am On Sep 29, 2015
The Famz Babe

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 6:09am On Sep 29, 2015
Don't famz

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 6:12am On Sep 29, 2015
tensazangetsu:
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE. WE NO GO HEAR WORD AGAIN. YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM AS IF MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING. IT'S ONE OF THE WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN. LIVE YOUR LIFE, TRAVEL EXPERIENCE THE WORLD MEET PEOPLE LEARN ABOUT DIFFERENT CULTURES. IN THE END YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND HOW YOU LIVE IT DEPENDS ON YOU
and then come back and marry...how can u say marriage is one of the worse things that can happen to a man..
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by simdam500(m): 6:15am On Sep 29, 2015
Titidi: Interesting facts Op..... but one lazy blogger is gonna copy this and will be credited for what he stole

I guess you are telling the op he could get himself employed through his writing skills if he isn't yet.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by bayulll01(m): 6:22am On Sep 29, 2015
tensazangetsu:
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE. WE NO GO HEAR WORD AGAIN. YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM AS IF MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING. IT'S ONE OF THE WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN. LIVE YOUR LIFE, TRAVEL EXPERIENCE THE WORLD MEET PEOPLE LEARN ABOUT DIFFERENT CULTURES. IN THE END YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND HOW YOU LIVE IT DEPENDS ON YOU
If your mother did not marry,she won't give birth to you,oh I guess you are a product of one night stand quickie

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Pidggin(f): 6:23am On Sep 29, 2015
porka:


[size=13pt]The 'offending' part has been edited to read 'some of the ones you mentioned' as against the earlier 'the ones you mentioned'.

Hope we can move forward from there and focus on solutions now.

Cheers.[/size]

I will let this pass, but for the records I never edited any part of my post, good day.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by bayulll01(m): 6:27am On Sep 29, 2015
Bollinger:


Analysis of a 12 year old.

The way you quoted the whole write and spew thrash shows that you are 2yrs old,werey alasho
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by bayulll01(m): 6:32am On Sep 29, 2015
naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.


Your reasoning and analysis is so flaw,in as much ladies want to live in denial,marriage is a tradition lay down by God,stop copying the western traditions,all woman desire to get married,when they can't find husband they cover face and say its not a priority,u don't have a husband u,guys sleep with you and dump u,go ask kemi adetigba and linda ikeji,they may hide their sorrow in hardwork believe me they are weeping.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 6:48am On Sep 29, 2015
Timoleon:


i just tire o...people goin about marriage like its d best thing that can ever happen. yet there are more unhappy people in marriages than there are happy people.
Not the best, but one of the best.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by EARN: 6:59am On Sep 29, 2015
The Single Ladies should start thinking on settling for Second wife.....third wife. etc level.

At least It's better than nothing. Age is not on their side....

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 6:59am On Sep 29, 2015
Finally it's the uselessness of our country that is the root cause... angry...boys no fit get work marry their loves.... embarassed
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by okoomoge2(m): 7:01am On Sep 29, 2015
You can crucify me, the government need to change orientation of the younger generation by providing enabling environment for entrepreneurship.

Not everybody should be a university or polytechnic graduate. You finish SSCE, go straight into technical school for two years, master your trade and start your thing. So you start young !! This what happens in the Western world.

Africans have been brainwashed to believe without university education you can't be successful. This is the main problem of Nigeria

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Tapout(m): 7:13am On Sep 29, 2015
Bollinger:


Analysis of a 12 year old.


actually if there's any 12 year old human being here, that will be u

u quoted the whole post n ended up writing rubbish..u get mind o undecided
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Goke7: 7:19am On Sep 29, 2015
porka:


[size=13pt]Your points are well taken.

Nevertheless, some aspect of your thoughts might be exacerbating the problem than solving it. While not taking away your argument, it's worth pointing out that unemployment is a global phenomenon, especially graduate unemployment.

We can argue the 'uselessness' of Nigeria's leadership since 1960 but what about Nigerians who have migrated to countries that are better run than Nigeria? Are the females not affected by the issue we are discussing?

People all over the world are looking beyond government for solutions to this problem. Governments have shown the lack of capacity to tackle the issue having tried their best efforts.

Having said these, Nigeria's job climate is not as hopeless as it seems. And it doesn't depend entirely on provisions of any megawatt.

Unemployment is prevalent among the graduates (especially in the non-professional disciplines) than the artisans and other entrepreneurs. For example, there are not many jobless builders or stone masons currently. Neither are there many teachers who are unemployed. Unemployment rate in the nursing profession is arguably below 1%.

Following from these facts, there are key sectors of the economy witnessing growth and expansion where graduates can to look into and take advantage of the opportunities presented in the production/value chains. Health, Education, Agriculture and Housing/Construction.

Graduates must begin to acquire those skills they need to navigate these sectors. There's no doubt that many of them have to attend skills acquisition trainings. They would also need to take bold steps and quit the thinking of working in Lagos or bigger cities at all cost.

Anyone who has tried unsuccessfully to secure a job for 12 months should begin to think seriously of doing something else. If the job comes thereafter, well and good, if not, they would simply continue with what they are doing. [/size]

Best post so far, there are sectors Nigerians should begin to explore to reduce unemployment
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 7:22am On Sep 29, 2015
czarr:
.....money must be made(MMBM). despite odd circumstances!
guy!
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by vega84(m): 7:35am On Sep 29, 2015
Pure whit truth. #vegatalks
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by dreamteam5: 7:36am On Sep 29, 2015
the words of my prophet coming to reality.the ratio of man to woman will get to 1:50.
polygamy will solve the problem bliv it or not.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Timoleon(m): 7:39am On Sep 29, 2015
Adaobi12:
Not the best, but one of the best.

issalraii. no qualms. finding happinessnis all dat matters. 7f marriage is what brings it, ekele chukwu....if its something else same same. i am just tired of people acting like if u aint married you dont av a life.
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by menxer: 7:40am On Sep 29, 2015
It's a reality I see all around me.

Now that the ladies are making the money, they should equally do the marrying (societal norms would be quoted grin)

No body should complain. What a man can do women are doing better, except marry (Apologies to the rich single ladies.) grin

PS:
We are only looking at the selfish side of marrying or not marrying, what happens to single-never-married mothers?

can we argue that it's better to be a rich single-never-married mother and forego the child's need for a father's love as inconsequential ...Or children like marriage are overrated?
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by porka: 7:44am On Sep 29, 2015
Pidggin:


I will let this pass, but for the records I never edited any part of my post, good day.

[size=13pt]Hello lady, I did the editing of my post myself.

No where did I say you edited your post. [/size]
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by nwolisar: 7:46am On Sep 29, 2015
humilitypays:

3. As a single lady, lower your financial expectation from guys- the table is turning, fewer guys now have good means of income compared to ladies; you ladies asked for gender equality, you now have it, please make use of it, don't wait for a richer guy... if you are driving and you see a guy trekking whom you fancy, lift him and don't be shy to startup a focused-relationship with him ...waiting for the richer guys driving bigger cars than yours may keep you waiting for eternity and may bring you more heartbreak because such guys now know that they are king to women and so they treat ladies with little/no respect.
This point cant be over-emphasized enough, & i wait for the day when the bolded would come to pass. Cheers OP. You nailed it

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by ladygudhead(f): 7:49am On Sep 29, 2015
hmmmm...na wa.Wat can I say, God please just make my own available for me...I nor get body for scuffle! You know say I nor get the strength. :'















oh God help single men who are ready to marry but not financially buoyant enough.bless their hustle. make their money long like tissue paper.make them find their 'imperfect' match!


To their single counterparts, I pray you finally meet your desired man...isè!

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 7:53am On Sep 29, 2015
To those oldmen (politicians, ceo's) stealing our money and using it to snatch our girlfriends, just know that we are patiently waiting for your daughters while we hustle to make our own money.
Boys are not smiling lai-lai!!
Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Nobody: 7:55am On Sep 29, 2015
Real reason is they used Christianity to deceive us into marrying one wife. This development have led to many women remaining spinster.

By adulthood, women population passes that of men because Robbery, car accidents, cultism, military wars, being in the police, fire service n their likes drastically drop the population of men, this reducing number of potential suitors... .... that's all.

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Re: EXPOSED: Reason For Increasing No Of Single Ladies In Nigeria & The Solution by Mhizizzy(f): 7:59am On Sep 29, 2015
Waohhh
..with all dese..

I need a husband..

Interested peeps..sud call 080HUSBaND

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