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My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 9:38am On Nov 19
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ambitiouschap17: 9:42am On Nov 19
FTC
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by pretydiva(f): 9:47am On Nov 19
I think you should suspend the wedding, then you both work on your income. Things are pretty hard these days
You both should be financially buoyant before venturing into marriage

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by yomi007k(m): 9:53am On Nov 19
Brother. Go for thanksgiving.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by thesicilian: 9:55am On Nov 19
With the marriage plans, it seems you were heading into the life of the average Nigerian family man living daily from hand to mouth and praying fervently for the next day's meal. Thank God for your girlfriend and in-laws who God has used to redeem you (whether their intentions are genuine or not).

My advice to you is that you should invest most of your salary into marketable skills, keep your certificates aside for now. Learn a skill that you know can set you up within 6months to 1yr and then start your own business based on that skill. It could be in IT, Real estate, engineering, construction, general grade, etc, just something with good potentials that God can bless for you.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 9:56am On Nov 19
I can teach you web development

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by SocialJustice: 9:57am On Nov 19
Look for a woman who has her own income. Nigeria of today needs both party to be bringing in money. N80k sounds big but its nothing especially with a partner that doesn't understand.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 9:59am On Nov 19
pretydiva:
I think you should suspend the wedding, then you both work on your income. Things are pretty hard these days
You both should be financially buoyant before venturing into marriage

Of course I have suspended it.

I am working earning 80k. I need more. I have tried.
That's the last kart of my tweet comes in place.

How can one get out of this average life. I need a better job

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 10:02am On Nov 19
SocialJustice:
Look for a woman who has her own income. Nigeria of today needs both party to be bringing in money. N80k sounds big but its nothing especially with a partner that doesn't understand.
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She has always been understanding. And we have plans to improve ourselves especially on the skills she is learning.
We have invested so much in Thai relationships and leaving it now is just heartbreaking for me not to talk of her

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Chummynoni(m): 10:02am On Nov 19
Take yur time bro. If she is meant for you,she will stay wit u no matter what. If i share my story, you wud know that what is yours wud always be yurs no matter the circumstance.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 10:02am On Nov 19
FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Boss, Anything to better my life. I am open to it.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 10:03am On Nov 19
yomi007k:
Brother. Go for thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving for what brother
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ebby9z(m): 10:09am On Nov 19
You just finished school last year and you're already desperate to marry.

Guy, postpone that thing for now, learn skills and increase your earnings. Let your girl too start earning. Wait for like 2 or 3 more years...if she leaves, you'll get a better girl cos you'd be more comfortable and will attract high quality females.

See the way her family are washing you. Chai. Me that I hardly call my girl's parents...they are the ones that call me.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by SocialJustice: 10:09am On Nov 19
Afikoo:
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She has always been understanding. And we have plans to improve ourselves especially on the skills she is learning.
We have invested so much in Thai relationships and leaving it now is just heartbreaking for me not to talk of her
You can't force relationships especially marriage, if her heart is no longer in it, move on. You're only tormenting yourself unnecessarily, do not put yourself in a position where the relationship progresses out of pity. Please be a man.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 10:19am On Nov 19
Afikoo:


Boss, Anything to better my life. I am open to it.
okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 10:21am On Nov 19
FanOfMyself:

okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer
.

Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 10:23am On Nov 19
Afikoo:
.

Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp
09074191547

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 10:24am On Nov 19
ebby9z:
You just finished school last year and you're already desperate to marry.

Guy, postpone that thing for now, learn skills and increase your earnings. Let your girl too start earning. Wait for like 2 or 3 more years...if she leaves, you'll get a better girl cos you'd be more comfortable and will attract high quality females.

See the way her family are washing you. Chai. Me that I hardly call my girl's parents...they are the ones that call me.
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I am 32. I have been working for 7 years here. Also working while in school. Just finished last year and got a pay rise to 80k as security administrator.

Baba, my issue isn't the marriage. My issue is the money. I am desperately asking on how best improve my income. Concrete suggestions on what I need to lay my hands on now to get started. I am tire of submitting applications

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 10:25am On Nov 19
Afikoo:
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Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp
drop me a message, I might not reply immediately
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by bukitt: 10:30am On Nov 19
Check my profile/post for a neatly used UK laptop from direct owner. Affordable & negotiable.

Afikoo:
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Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ZIINI: 10:38am On Nov 19
She is learning a skill apparently no source of income
And you are working
Hmm men dey suffer O embarassed

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by phyya(f): 10:43am On Nov 19
FanOfMyself:

okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

Is this for software development or web development?

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Escabado: 10:45am On Nov 19
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A man earning 80k is very good and right to get married. Your woman is a materialistic woman and so is her family. If her elder brother thinks u are not doing well , he should assit you with some money to start something that suits him. Pls man up . Don't allow them determine for you , other wise they will be the one controlling the marriage. U need to dump that girl and find a better girl. Imagine a jobless girl complaining about your income. She should go and work to make money too .

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 11:03am On Nov 19
phyya:


Is this for software development or web development?
web development sir.
But web development can be said to be a subset of software development. Web applications (like Nairaland for instance) are softwares in their own right the difference is that they need the web ( as a backbone) to run. Other "subsets" of software development includes Mobile Applications development ( andriod and ios apps dominates here), Embbeded systems ( e.g. a software system embedded in a car dashboard), Desktop Applications development (apps running on our laptops/desktop computer), Artificial Intelligence (Robots) etc.
Take this to the Bank sir!!!!!

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by iLegendd: 11:12am On Nov 19
Nice thread. Keep it up.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by YungBlacMale: 11:33am On Nov 19
The family wants a man that'll alleviate them from poverty....
grin


Oga leave that girl and her family, if not......... u're heading to premium tears.

This kind of girl can leave you for another man and the family will support.
Don't tell me u want this type of in-laws

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by UOBEN(m): 11:34am On Nov 19
FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Am interested brotherly..
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 11:39am On Nov 19
UOBEN:


Am interested brotherly..
okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

if you are interested, you will find my whatsapp number up there
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Afikoo: 11:46am On Nov 19
Please can we focus our energy now on making money.
Please suggest best possible ways I can help my financial situation
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by youngmo001(m): 12:02pm On Nov 19
Afikoo:
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Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

be wise before u get scamm ooo
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Olarewaju89: 12:11pm On Nov 19
Afikoo:
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Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

I'm interested also. But i will prefer to meet with you.

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