Dear Readers ,

Since many readers have emailed me to ask me how they
can stop acting like "nice guys", I thought I would write an
article and give you a few ways to challenge yourself so that
you can stop being a nice guy.

Naturally, not all of the examples will apply to you.

Skim through the list and pick out the ones that will fit you the
most.

Many of them will not be specific to dating but will help
you in general.


1) Speak up and dare to disagree - especially in public.

2) Stop trying to compare yourself to others. This way, you will stop
feeling like you have to please other people.

3) Learn to say "no".

4) Put YOURSELF first for once.

5) Live by this rule: If it frightens you, do it. (Unless it's illegal or
someone might get hurt physically, of course.)

6) Focus on the "bigger picture".

7) Separate friendship from work or business.

Be VOCAL about what you want

9) Stop making excuses.

10) ASK other people to help you.

11) Stop blaming yourself.

12) Stop thinking the world is against you.

13) Stop doing things in secret.

14) Don't let ANYONE waste your time.

15) Let OTHERs live up to YOUR expectations.

16) Change your situation yourself.

17) If you can't change a bad situation, remove yourself from it
instead of waiting for it to change.

18) Be willing of letting go of what you have so you can get what you want.

19) Don't be afraid of letting go of existing relationships.

20) Welcome uncertainty. Thrive in it.

21) Learn public speaking.

22) Draw your boundaries and stand up for yourself.

23) Have a few role models with great ambition and leadership skills.

24) Let go of your mommy and daddy issues.

25) Let go of that ex.

26) Save your kindness for people who support you and show appreciation.

27) Take risks.

28) Try haggling or bargaining when you stop.

29) Admit and accept your darker side, including your selfish motives for being
"nice"

30) Stop avoiding conflicts. Confront them.

31) Be CLEAR and DIRECT. Stop dancing around.

32) Be good to yourself.

33) Build yourself up through skills and knowledge.

34) Meet successful people and see how THEY do things.

35) Be open sexually.

36) Play competitive sports.

37) Make bold moves.

38) VALUE yourself, your ideas, and your opinion.

39) Try not to focus on what other people think.

40) Get your hands dirty as soon as possible when you do something.

41) Get some managerial training.

42) Be the one in the group who makes difficult decisions.

43) Have integrity yourself, and avoid people without it.

43) Don't try to "change" anyone - it's not your job to be their psychologist.

44) Have an OBJECTIVE that you can focus on, and don't deviate yourself.
even when you face objections or criticisms.

45) Be persistent with your life goals.

46) Stop thinking masculinity equals acting like a jerk.

47) Don't settle for what you do not like or want.

48) Avoid anything that add shame - such as drugs, prostitution, chronic masturbation, or pornography

49) Stop trying to hide your perceived flaws and mistakes.

50) Stop wasting time. (This one is important - but I will leave it for
you to figure what it means.)

OP @ 48 wat do u mean by chronic masturbation

Become a tyrant!

Too long! Just grab the closest person to you and beat him/her up. Doesn't matter if the person is your, mum, dad, or Jet Li. Just beat them up, and that evil spirit called nice will leave you forever. Good luck.

story for gods

RickRichards:
Too long! Just grab the closest person to you and beat him/her up. Doesn't matter if the person is your, mum, dad, or Jet Li. Just beat them up, and that evil spirit called nice will leave you forever. Good luck.

Hahahaha.
Guy na jail dey hungry you.
@OP: Nice write up!

SPG4U:
OP @ 48 wat do u mean by chronic masturbation

Yes the guys will know, most especially the ones doing it. It breaks a relationship and it makes guys to look at every girl like sex objects. Causing them to act weird

just give in to the dark side.....
daz all datz needed....
i am so selfish at times,even me dey pity myself.

What is it with this nice guys stuff self? Be yourself, you can't change who you are

smh..