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How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by Nobody: 9:46am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Dear Readers , Since many readers have emailed me to ask me how they can stop acting like "nice guys", I thought I would write an article and give you a few ways to challenge yourself so that you can stop being a nice guy. Naturally, not all of the examples will apply to you. Skim through the list and pick out the ones that will fit you the most. Many of them will not be specific to dating but will help you in general. 1) Speak up and dare to disagree - especially in public. 2) Stop trying to compare yourself to others. This way, you will stop feeling like you have to please other people. 3) Learn to say "no". 4) Put YOURSELF first for once. 5) Live by this rule: If it frightens you, do it. (Unless it's illegal or someone might get hurt physically, of course.) 6) Focus on the "bigger picture". 7) Separate friendship from work or business. Be VOCAL about what you want 9) Stop making excuses. 10) ASK other people to help you. 11) Stop blaming yourself. 12) Stop thinking the world is against you. 13) Stop doing things in secret. 14) Don't let ANYONE waste your time. 15) Let OTHERs live up to YOUR expectations. 16) Change your situation yourself. 17) If you can't change a bad situation, remove yourself from it instead of waiting for it to change. 18) Be willing of letting go of what you have so you can get what you want. 19) Don't be afraid of letting go of existing relationships. 20) Welcome uncertainty. Thrive in it. 21) Learn public speaking. 22) Draw your boundaries and stand up for yourself. 23) Have a few role models with great ambition and leadership skills. 24) Let go of your mommy and daddy issues. 25) Let go of that ex. 26) Save your kindness for people who support you and show appreciation. 27) Take risks. 28) Try haggling or bargaining when you stop. 29) Admit and accept your darker side, including your selfish motives for being "nice" 30) Stop avoiding conflicts. Confront them. 31) Be CLEAR and DIRECT. Stop dancing around. 32) Be good to yourself. 33) Build yourself up through skills and knowledge. 34) Meet successful people and see how THEY do things. 35) Be open sexually. 36) Play competitive sports. 37) Make bold moves. 38) VALUE yourself, your ideas, and your opinion. 39) Try not to focus on what other people think. 40) Get your hands dirty as soon as possible when you do something. 41) Get some managerial training. 42) Be the one in the group who makes difficult decisions. 43) Have integrity yourself, and avoid people without it. 43) Don't try to "change" anyone - it's not your job to be their psychologist. 44) Have an OBJECTIVE that you can focus on, and don't deviate yourself. even when you face objections or criticisms. 45) Be persistent with your life goals. 46) Stop thinking masculinity equals acting like a jerk. 47) Don't settle for what you do not like or want. 48) Avoid anything that add shame - such as drugs, prostitution, chronic masturbation, or pornography 49) Stop trying to hide your perceived flaws and mistakes. 50) Stop wasting time. (This one is important - but I will leave it for you to figure what it means.) 1 Like 3 Shares |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by Topestbilly(m): 9:53am On Feb 25, 2016 |
I will appreciate if u post that of "How to continue being a nice guy" thanks |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by Nobody: 10:00am On Feb 25, 2016 |
you're making sense . . . |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by jemype(m): 10:14am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Gracias |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by Zuula(m): 10:32am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Nice one OP. |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by kidman96(m): 12:58pm On Feb 25, 2016 |
These are the kind of topics that should be on front page. |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by rawpadgin(m): 1:02pm On Feb 25, 2016 |
Aiit man |
Re: How To Stop Being A Nice Guy - 50 Ways To Challenge Yourself by Maxi112: 1:12pm On Feb 25, 2016 |
I so much love this topic... exactly me.... no offence |
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